Life is a practice, and everyone goes through a thousand turns. When he was young, he was full of spirit and sang about wine; in middle age, he was frustrated and low, suffering from gains and losses; in his twilight years, he walked through the mountains, rivers, ditches, and bumps of the years, and finally understood: Not counting is a great blessing in life. Su Shi has a broad mind and has exactly three kinds of "no care".
01
Don't care about others
As the saying goes, leave a line in everything and see each other in the future. Many times, leaving room for others is to create a comfortable relationship for yourself.
Su Shi was a man of great ease, and the people of the three religions and nine streams were willing to make friends with him. There was a man named Han Zongru who often corresponded with him. Han Zongru likes to eat mutton, but he is shy. He accidentally learned that the famous general Yao Linxu loved Su Shi's calligraphy, so he took Su Shi's reply to Yao Linxu to exchange meat for food.
Su Shi's friend Huang Tingjian knew about it and joked to Su Shi: "Once upon a time, Wang Xizhi exchanged words with Taoist priests for geese, and it was passed down as beautiful talk. Now your word has been exchanged for meat. After Su Shi listened, he laughed heartily.
One day, Han Zongru was hungry again, but he could not find Su Shi's reply to the cabinet. He even wrote two letters to Su Shi, and specially sent someone to reply to them. Su Shi replied with six words: "Today's cold food, broken slaughter." "Cold food today, you can't eat meat."
Su Shi's humorous refusal did not make Han Zongru lose face, and the friendship between friends was also deeper because of this indifference.
A person's true maturity is not how many things you see, but how many things you look down on. Only by letting go of the mistakes of others can we free our hearts. Only by treating people without care can we live a truly comfortable and joyful life.
02
Don't care about gains and losses
Life is not satisfactory nine times out of ten, which aspect is taken out, it is worth thinking about. However, if you do everything, you will only fall into misery. Only by maintaining an indifferent heart is the greatest investment in life.
Su Shi began in his twenties, his relatives died one after another, his life was ups and downs, and his career was bumpy. Ordinary people have experienced this and have long been full of complaints. But Su Shi turned "a cloud of smoke and rain" into "poetry and distance".
At the age of 45, he was degraded to Huangzhou, and he saved the abandoned baby and changed the folklore. At the age of 59, he was demoted to Huizhou, and he improved farm tools for the benefit of one party. At the age of 62, he was demoted to Danzhou, and he educated the villagers and opened a cultural context.
Su Shi commented on himself in his later years: "Ask Ru Ping for his life and deeds, Huangzhou Huizhou Danzhou. "Just 12 words, there is self-deprecation, more detachment. On the other hand, how many people around us complain in calculations, sink in complaints, and finally waste the years and miss opportunities.
"Cai Gen Tan" said: "Sweep away the dust atmosphere in the world, and there is no fire in the chest; but the heart is stingy, and there is a moon and the wind in front of you." "A person no longer cares, no longer insists, in order to be able to face life calmly, the breeze and the moon, uninvited."
03
Don't care about yourself
In this life, the biggest enemy is not the opponent, but oneself.
Su Shi was demoted to Huangzhou, and one night he went to the city to drink and relieve his boredom, and a drunk man knocked him down. The drunk man did not apologize either, and left with a swearing grin. Su Shi was not angry or annoyed, and stood up and said, "Self-satisfaction is gradually becoming less and less recognizable." "Secretly happy gradually become unrecognized."
Su Shi was a young man with ambition and full of spirit. Now being scolded by a drunk, but can "be complacent", how easy is it to talk about? After passing the "self-grasping" pass, no matter how big the wind and waves are, they are not afraid.
Another night, Su Shi returned home after drinking, and as a result, "the children's sniffles have been thunderous, and they should not knock on the door." Su Shi thought to himself, forget it, take advantage of the moonlight, "lean on the staff to listen to the sound of the river."
Zhuangzi said: A man can make a fool of himself to travel the world, and he can harm him. The heavens and the earth are vast, and everyone is just a drop in the ocean, insignificant. If a person can swim in the world without caring about the "self", who can hurt him?
Life is a trek, walking some roads, meeting people, seeing some scenery. If you want to live beautifully, you don't have to worry about it, and leave a sense of indifference and detachment. Let go of others, let go of gains and losses, let go of yourself, and live a dashing life, knowing that the world is worth it!
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