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In real life, many families have finally become rich after several generations of hard work, but after a few years of tossing, they have become poor.
Making money is like stripping away cocoons, spending money is like discharging floods from levees. If a person is very rich, then you must remain vigilant, because at this moment, you are already in a high position. Continue to climb higher, and life may be reversed.
Wanting to be rich consistently is not the responsibility of one person, but the responsibility of generations.
Sima Guang said in the "Family Model": "If the accumulation of funds is left to the descendants, the descendants may not be able to keep it; the descendants may not be able to read the accumulation of books to the descendants." It is better to accumulate virtue and think that it is a long-term solution for future generations. ”
It is true that the foundation of sustained prosperity lies in morality and family style.
As the saying goes: "Those who are close to Zhu are red, and those who are close to ink are black." ”
When everyone is born, they are good, but later they meet the "evil person" and they change. Coupled with the intricacies of interpersonal relationships, the situation of good and evil is not distinguished, it is inevitable that it will happen.
The Ming Dynasty writer Ling Mengchu wrote three stories of "sinister people's hearts" and told us a truth: when a person has money, he must learn to keep money and clear the following three relationships.
Withdraw from the circle of broken wealth, and the wealth will naturally stay in your family.
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First, take the initiative to please your "acquaintances" and need to keep your distance.
During the Ming Dynasty, there was a man named Wang Lu in Shaanxi, and his father was a salt merchant. Therefore, he followed his father and learned a lot of business experience.
Later, his father passed away, and Wang Lu became a "family member", taking the domestic servants and going south to the north.
For a while, Wang Lu did business in Shandong and made a lot of money. When I had nothing to do, I went to the Qinglou to drink and listen to music. Logically, Wang Lu's money was successively given to the opposite sex friends in the Qinglou to please him.
The ancients said: "When you are proud of yourself, you must rest and make progress, and you must prevent the world from turning things upside down." ”
When a person is proud of the spring breeze, he must restrain himself and learn to pretend to be poor. Once you show off your wealth, fox friends will emerge, and some of the opposite sex will take the initiative to show you overtures, hoping to "forever tie the knot" with you.
If you think about it carefully, you will understand why when you are very poor, you have no relatives or friends. You have money, more relatives and friends, fellow villagers, playmates, classmates, passers-by, will smile at you, and some people will find ways to eat and drink with you.
The larger your circle of acquaintances, the greater the amount of money you spend. If you can't wake up in time, the money will run out and you may be cheated away. Everyone says "like you", not really like, but like your money, don't be self-righteous.
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Second, friends who get rich with you need to "split up" in time.
During the Chunxi period of the Song Dynasty, there was a merchant in Mingzhou called "Xia Master Book" who opened a wine shop with his friend Lin.
The Lin family is in charge of the ledger, and the Xia master book is responsible for the operation.
Years later, the two men made quite a bit of money. However, Xia Master Book found that Lin Shi had moved his hands and feet and took more dividends.
The most heinous thing is that Lin Shi not only does not admit his selfishness, but also takes the lead in turning his face. The two men had to go to court.
In the countryside, there is such a rule: "The trees should be divided, and everyone should be divided." ”
When the children start a family, they have to move away from their parents' families and become independent. In this way, family conflicts are avoided and families are more prosperous.
Friends partner to do business, start a business, just like a child grows up slowly, if you become an adult, and continue to be tied together, it is inevitable that there will be contradictions, and it is not clear in terms of money.
If a person's wings are very strong, they must learn to "fly alone", if not, stretch out their wings, they will touch the friends around them, but there is no way to fly.
Don't be reluctant, fate gathers and scatters, it is a common thing.
Many friends can only sweat together, can not enjoy the blessings together. If you want to enjoy happiness together, you must have such a rule - brothers, clear accounting. Put aside all face, put money on the surface, and make it clear.
If you can't divide your family, then share the profits. If you can't do either, go your separate ways.
People go high, water flows low. At different stages of life, you will meet different friends, walk into new cities, forget old friends, not surprising; to raise the level of life, you must communicate with people at the same level, rather than always indulging in low-level circles.
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Third, you can't see your relatives and need to break off diplomatic relations in time.
During the Ming Dynasty, there was a rich man Chen Ding in Wujin County, Changzhou.
In order to take care of his mother's family, Chen Ding hired his brother-in-law, Chao Dalang, to be the housekeeper.
There is a saying that goes: "Dumplings are boiled in a teapot, and the dumplings are rotten and still in the teapot." ”
They are all family, and even if someone gets money privately, it has not been lost to outsiders. Chen Ding often thinks like this.
For a while, Chen Ding's wife Chao Shi was ill, and she sought medical treatment and did not get better. Then he passed away.
Chao Dalang gathered several rogues, wrote a complaint, and went to the official palace to complain, saying that Chen Ding had deliberately hurt his wife. Secretly, Chao Dalang took the silver to Zhixian and concealed the truth of the matter.
Chen Ding was in a panic and consulted with Chao Dalang on how to deal with the lawsuit. Chao Da Lang said, such a thing, to make silver ah. Coming and going, Chen Ding's wealth slowly flowed into Chao Dalang's pocket.
The old ancestor gave us advice: "Day and night defense, family thieves are difficult to defend." ”
When you meet relatives who can't see you well, you must break off diplomatic relations in time, otherwise the richer you are, the more your relatives will calculate you. I'd rather give a sum of money to a relative than arrange for a relative to do things around.
Relatives are people who are related by blood, but people's hearts are separated by belly.
Understand that it is one thing to exchange courtesies and money to be exchanged, and it is another thing to talk about money. In terms of interests, learn to break off relations with people who are not at ease, and when people are in contact with each other, there is a certain enthusiasm, the scale is accurate, and there are fewer calculating people around you.
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Of course, keeping money is a multifaceted task. In addition to leaving aside the relationship, it is also necessary to clean up oneself and live a diligent and frugal life. To educate our children, we must work hard to make money, and pay attention to frugality and do more good deeds.
There is no external interference with you, you have no internal friction, the combination of the two aspects, your money can be retained.
If you want to continue to make money, you must also be humble, reduce your posture, and your life will have a new height, so that making money will not reach the peak, and there is still room for progress. The best way to remain humble is to be "charitable" and make room for a full life.
There is a way that less is like nature, and habit becomes nature.
Getting rich is always on the road, take good deeds and virtues as habits, and life will continue to go higher.
I'd rather be alone than make friends casually.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Take care of my words and enter your heart.
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