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Someone once asked me:
"Obviously I miss someone, but I can't bear not to contact, why?"
I replied to him:
"Liking is wanton, deep love is restraint, not all love is hidden in contact, in fact, the days of non-contact are sometimes the time when a person loves most deeply." 」
Like some men, they miss you very much in their hearts but don't contact you, and most of them are for this reason.
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All the pain, silently endured by one person
In feelings, women are always more likely to show their hearts, while men are accustomed to quietly hiding their hearts and digesting themselves.
This is true when we are together, and it is also true after separation.
When a man obviously misses a person, but can bear not to contact, in fact, he chose to bear all the pain silently.
No matter what the reason is to let a relationship go to a regrettable ending, but everyone who is in it can hardly escape the suffering and pain.
Because the past has passed, when you touch the memories, you can glimpse the sweetness that is hard to give up, but more is the helplessness of separation, and those heart-wrenching memories.
So he will be afraid, if he rushes to contact you and arouse your memories, but you can never go back, it will only increase your regret and sadness, which he never wants to see.
As the French writer Romain Rolland put it:
"When you truly love someone, you will forget your own bittersweet gains and losses, and only care about the other party's bittersweet gains and losses." 」
He doesn't want to see you suffer for it than he does in his own lovesickness.
Therefore, he chose to bear it alone, miss it alone, swallow the pain into his stomach, and let the tears flow into his heart.
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When love has become a thing of the past, it needs to be slowly released
There are lyrics:
"Don't mention the past again, life has been stormy." Even if the memory cannot be erased, love and hate are still in the heart. ”
The years are like a knife cutting through the past, and the past is like drunkenness. But after a big drunk, people will eventually wake up.
When love has become a thing of the past, no matter how much you can't put it down, you must learn to let go, and no matter how much reluctance you have to learn to give up.
Mature men, no matter how much they miss the past, will be very clear in their hearts: the past can only be the past no matter how beautiful, and the old man is already the old man no matter how good he is.
One of the compulsory courses for adults is not to let themselves indulge in the past, to learn to say goodbye to the past, and to know how to break up with the past.
What cannot be forgotten is looked away, and what is not obtained is released.
As Zhang Xiaoxian said:
"I didn't miss you very deliberately, because I knew that when I met, I should be grateful, and when I passed, I needed to be relieved."
Every encounter in life is due to fate, and so is separation.
Since there is no chance to go to the end, then let go, slowly release, may not be able to forget for a short time, but at least do not stay in place, but continue to go forward.
As Liu Tong wrote in "Toward the Light":
"The things that can't be done must pass, and the feelings that can't be put down must be let go." Turning one page, you can write another page, and then read it again, only then can the past blossom and the memories are as warm as ever. ”
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As long as you're doing well, I won't bother anymore
I've heard a quote like this:
"The best love is probably, I hope you're happy, even if it has nothing to do with me."
To love someone is nothing more than to hope that the other person will live well, even if this happiness has nothing to do with oneself, it does not matter.
Once together, I hope to give you the best in the world, I hope you have a happy day, and I hope to give you the best future.
After separation, I know that I can no longer give you the future you promised, although there will be reluctance, although it is inevitable that you will feel regrets, but in the face of your happiness, these are not worth mentioning.
Because for a person who loves you deeply, your happiness is always the most important thing, even if it is not given to you by his own hand.
Loving someone is more important than giving you happiness.
It's like this sentence:
"There is a kind of love that is all blessings except fulfillment."
Therefore, many men, no matter how much they miss a person, when they know that the other party is not living well without themselves now, they often choose not to contact and not to bother.
Standing in the distance silently blessed, I hope that you will not suffer any more for the rest of your life.
Not disturbing is his last tenderness, and it is also his distant waiting.
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People have sorrows and joys, and the moon has clouds and sunshine, and this matter is difficult to complete.
Not every relationship can be lucky enough to go to the whitehead, and not every couple of lovers can eventually become a family.
Therefore, those who have been lost, silently put down, wish from afar, have the opportunity to spend a warm period of time together, it is rare, do not remember it again.
Of course, if you can't, don't force it, but please remember this sentence written by Wang Xiaobo:
"If you want, I will always love you, and if you don't want to, I will always miss each other." 」
After all, life is only a process, living for yourself, loving for yourself, and following your own fate is also a way of living.