Over fifty years old, what does it look like for a person to get better and better?
I know that the last high praise answer is: a little money, someone loves, has a home.
Yes, the most common thing, the most touching of the hearts of mortals.
It's just that too many people are squeezed by work to forget life, and forget the passage of time between running and busy, so that they let themselves live the most hated look, or live to become a "face" person.
When I realized that I had to make changes to move closer to my ideal life, I had light in my eyes and strength under my feet.
Over fifty years of age, a person is getting better and better, and there are often the following signs.
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No longer "mercenary", look down on making money, in order to feel the beauty of life.
Zhuangzi said, "Those who are deep in their desires are shallow in their heavenly opportunities." This means that the deeper a person's desires, the more shallow his natural wisdom will be.
Just like the story of "Qi people digging gold" told in "Liezi": There is a person in the country of Qi who is particularly greedy for gold. Once rushed to the market, he was attracted by the splendid gold of a gold store, and in spite of the public's eyes, he grabbed a handful of gold and ran.
He was quickly caught, and officials interrogated him why he had snatched the gold in public, saying that when he snatched the gold, he saw no one in his eyes, only gold.
This is probably the most vivid interpretation of "lust for profit".
When a person is full of only interests, then the rules, beauty and ugliness, good and evil no longer exist, they become slaves to "mercenary interests", become money-making machines, and all the good things in life will be far away.
In the movie "Bucket List", the rich businessman Cole and the car mechanic Carter are admitted to the same ward because of cancer. They had very different lives: Carter was poor all his life, but the couple loved each other, and the three children were raised to be talented. Cole went through four marriages, but when he was old, he had no one to accompany him, and his own daughter refused to contact him, so poor that he only had money left.
As life enters the countdown to the sky, with Cole's patronage, the two embark on a journey to complete their bucket list, skydiving, racing, and savoring the joy of spending money on.
But in the end, they found that the prosperity of the outside world did not mean much, and the peace of mind was the ultimate destination of life.
Carter eventually dies in his wife's arms, Cole drops everything and offers to reconcile with his daughter, and he finally gets the kiss of the most beautiful girl in the world, his granddaughter.
If a person has spent most of his previous life "mercenary", then at the age of fifty, it is time to focus time, energy and focus on other things, only in this way can he feel the beauty of life.
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Only by no longer speculating about others and maintaining a "virtual boat mentality" can we reconcile with the world and reconcile with ourselves.
An important reason why people are sullen and unhappy is that they are "too calculated".
Consider the arrogance and unruliness of others' attitude towards themselves, calculate the mixed evaluation of themselves by others, and even consider the ulterior motives behind other people's words.
When a person habitually speculates on others, no matter what position they are in, they will not be able to live every day in the present.
In "Zhuangzi Shanmu", it tells about a "virtual boat effect" of getting along with people. The gist of it is that when we cross the river by boat, an empty boat comes from upstream and hits our boat, even if we are grumpy and narrow-minded, but because there is no one on the boat, it is "empty-minded", we can conclude that the boat is not deliberately trying to hurt us, and we do not care about anything.
But if someone hits our boat, we will yell and let them avoid, and if the other party does not respond repeatedly, we will curse.
This parable tells people that "the empty boat" is "empty heart", that is, "no heart", and who will care about the "heartless" things that a "heartless" person does?
Therefore, maintaining a "virtual boat mentality" can handle getting along with others very well, no matter what the other party says or does, it is not put in the heart, and it is regarded as an "unintentional act", so that external objects will not interfere with our hearts and disrupt our rhythm.
Similarly, even if we live alone, because we have an "open mind", we can truly appreciate the elegance and freedom of "not being happy with things and not being sad with ourselves", no matter what kind of situation fate gives, we can calmly wait.
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Delete dispensable friends and learn to be alone in order to appreciate the beauty of life.
There is a classic saying in "One Hundred Years of Solitude": The secret of a person's happy old age is nothing else, but to sign a decent agreement with loneliness.
On the journey of life, there is always someone to accompany us through one journey after another. In those days together, we all gained strength from each other and saw that sparkling self.
However, there is no unbroken feast in the world, and some people, no matter how good the relationship is, will be unconsciously scattered in the long river of time.
One of the most important reasons is: "The Tao is different, and it is not conspiratorial." ”
Just like Wang Anshi and Su Shi of the Northern Song Dynasty, both of them were literary figures and also important courtiers of the imperial court, but because of their different political views, they became "political enemies" and were in a state of "tit-for-tat" for many years.
Wang Anshi failed to change the law, was dismissed from the post of prime minister, and returned to his hometown in Nanjing to relax. The conservative Su Shi resumed his official duties, and on his way to his post, he passed through Nanjing and made a special trip to visit Wang Anshi.
This time, Wang Anshi rode a donkey to greet him, and Su Shi saw wang Anshi, who was slightly depressed with white hair, and sorrow came from it. The two held hands, talking as they walked, laughing and hating each other.
Over fifty years old, only those who never forget, only those who are like-minded, because they have common expectations, have common wishes, go around, will be reunited again.
And those who, after dispersing, will no longer remind us of those who have finally become passers-by in life, and when they disperse, they will disperse.
Perhaps, in the end, only we are left, living a lonely life. But our hearts will no longer feel lost and wandering, nor will we feel lonely and bored.
Those who have accompanied us through the journey have enriched our lives and are worth a lifetime of savoring.
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Conclusion:
There is a classic line in "Big Fish and Begonias": "The world is so beautiful!" ”
But isn't it, this ordinary life has endless beauty, but we who are born as human beings do not have the heart to experience and enjoy.
Over fifty years old, you may wish to let yourself slow down, live a good life, take good care of yourself, and life will get better and better!
Author: Like the wind is light as a cloud.
Your happiness, my blessings.
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