Speaking of "female doctors", many people's first reaction is: "Girls ~ at most to read a master's degree should come out to find a job to get married, otherwise it will be too miserable to be single after completing the doctorate!" ”
In fact, more and more female students choose to study for a doctorate, out of love for the profession and academia, and there are not a few who marry and have children during the doctoral period. The efforts and responsibilities of female doctors should not be hidden under stereotypes.
So what is it like to get pregnant during your PhD? Today I will share my story with you!
In June 2018, I gave birth to my baby on the second day of my PhD defense.
So in the last paragraph of my graduation thesis, I wrote:
"Finally, I would like to give this graduation literature to my soon-to-be-born baby, you are my closest partner in the writing process, may your heart be bright, and you have wisdom and good wisdom."
For the past 6 months, she has been doing everything in the world, getting up at three o'clock in the middle of the night. Thinking that she was in my belly and obediently dripping at key moments, I couldn't bear to get angry and couldn't help but want to hug her.
It all started in June 2017, when I returned home from a public exchange. In foreign countries, the water and soil are not satisfied, the endocrine disorder is serious, the first thing to do back home is to go to the hospital to regulate endocrine.
At the same time, the wedding is scheduled for October, so it is busy all summer. While taking medicine, while running the renovation of the new house, while contacting the wedding, makeup, taking wedding photos, preparing for the wedding, going abroad to participate in an academic conference, completing the writing of two chapters of a book, participating in three corporate research, and interviewing two colleges and universities. Only the progress of the graduation thesis was delayed...
Endocrine therapy ended in early September, and at the end of September, the trial talk was basically finalized for future work. However, the great aunt still did not come, and the result was 2 bars.
The first reaction to pregnancy is a thunderbolt on a sunny day, and the second reaction is to write a thesis quickly before giving birth, otherwise there will be no way to graduate. In fact, I started the topic early, the paper framework has been set up, but the data encountered great problems, so I did not start writing; at the same time, the paper was published slowly, at that time, only one Paper was published, and there was no news.
It may be that the mother is just holding this child in her belly, and she has to pass these passes with a hard scalp.
7 weeks pregnant, I saw red, but I still had to get married. On the morning of the wedding, I was alone with the baby for half an hour, telling her to be obedient, and it was of great commemorative significance to participate in the wedding of her parents and mothers! Fortunately, there was no big problem, and I successfully saw the fetal heartbuil and fetal bud in 9 weeks.
12 weeks pregnant, the future work unit requires an entry physical examination, hard scalp, no way to take X-rays, did not pass the physical examination, was complained by the personnel teacher. But in fact, she was not bad, or helped me complete the onboarding process.
Then another sunny thunderbolt, the paper data had a big problem, and began to search for data again. At that time, my daily life was to carry a cup of milk at home, search for data in the morning, and search for data in the afternoon.
People can be very sleepy during pregnancy, but they still insist on not drinking coffee. When the weather is good, walk 2km alone in the afternoon to buy snacks. After 1 month, the data was finally searched, and I began to run the data again, and Mr. described me as the whole person. One will be remarkable, happy will be incredible, one will not be significant, and the nose will cry again.
At night, often emotional collapse to crying, originally during pregnancy people are more sensitive, data encounter problems will think to the bad, is not to overturn the start, is there a problem with the framework, is not the proxy variable is not right. I dreamed of being pointed out by the teacher that there was a problem with the model when I defended the thesis. I asked the tutor for advice several times, and finally got a very solid model.
At the end of December, I started writing code words, and I set myself the goal of writing before the lunar calendar, about 3,000 words a day. At the same time, the opinions of the 2 papers under review also returned, changed and changed, and helped the tutor complete some book manuscript work.
The winter solstice and New Year's Day are all in the code word, the baby has already moved the fetus, and when sitting in front of the computer, you can feel it gently twisting like a feather in the stomach. I forgot when it was, I put the headphones on my stomach to listen to Beethoven, maybe the symphony was too surging and the baby was moving very unnaturally, maybe it was afraid.
I spent the winter in code words and didn't exercise much, which led to more weight gain. In February, the first draft of the paper was completed, the small papers were also online, and in March, the stomach was pre-defense, and then it began to be revised continuously.
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Three-dimensional check to the baby's heart has a blood vessel did not grow well, follow-up there are many checks, I held the computer to the hospital, Mr. ran around to queue up to get the report, I found a small corner to open the computer to start changing the paper, write abstract, repair and patch cumulative can write 200,000 words.
At the beginning of April, the thesis was published at the last minute and qualified, passed the graduation qualification review, and was safely submitted for external review, and the graduation thesis printed out was thick and thick, 220 pages.
Finally I could catch my breath, my classmates were all traveling, I was 8 months pregnant, I had to sleep at home, and listen to the school's academic lectures. Every time I go to listen to the lecture, the baby is very active, and the husband said that the baby must not like to listen and want to escape.
May is the month of the lottery, and the outcome of the paper and when the baby will arrive are still pending. On the day of 38 weeks + 5, when I received a WeChat message saying that I would come to receive the results of the review in the afternoon, my heart was instantly tugged.
Before I finished eating, I took a taxi back to school, and in order to get on the bus, I also flipped over a railing, and the driver said that I couldn't believe that I was a pregnant woman running so fast. Then I will wait for news with everyone in the school office.
The college teachers sent out the judging results one by one, and I got it and squeezed it in my hand and didn't dare to look at it. As a result, two excellent and three good, successfully passed, and can also go to participate in the evaluation of a good bo. On that sunny early summer afternoon, I was excited to take a taxi home, the baby was churning in my stomach, and I presented the results to my family, which was the happiest day in more than half a year.
The next day immediately dumbfounded, because the Ubo defense was arranged 3 days after the due date, not to participate in the evaluation sorry for yourself, to participate in the evaluation and sorry for the baby.
The elders told me not to take risks, and I might not necessarily be rated as excellent anyway, and it would be good to graduate smoothly; but my husband supported me. So I carefully spent the week of the expected date, did not dare to eat, did not dare to move, prepared the speech, and even had a little contractions on the day of the due date. My mom said she wouldn't go to the hospital to cut it out, so that there would be an accident on the day of the defense. The hospital doctor was not in a hurry at all, saying that the baby had not yet entered the basin.
On the day of the defense, my feet were so swollen that I couldn't wear shoes, so I tried my best to put on my most formal clothes and shoes to give an account of my doctoral career.
The result is no longer a matter, the process is enough for me to proudly tell the baby. At the end of the defense, the mentality relaxed, and the red was seen that night, and the baby began to start, and immediately went to the hospital. The next afternoon began to give birth, which lasted 10 hours, and the baby came. Probably because pregnant essays are always sitting, she is a 7 pounds 1 two little fat man.
In my mother's belly, I have written a graduation thesis, passed the doctoral defense, and is a soft and intimate doctoral little fat man.
During the month, I also took her to the graduation ceremony!!!
My story is over, and this thrilling process and perfect ending have been enough for me to tell it proudly for many years!
Of course, having children or not is something that everyone should think about for themselves, and I am not qualified to tell others whether to have children or not, and I hope that everyone can make the right choice.
Finally, I wish every female doctor and every mother a good mood every day!
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