There are many kinds of happiness, and seeing you is the first.
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Miyazaki said: "If you like a person, then you take the initiative to take two more steps toward him, and if he sees you coming over and has no intention of greeting, then you stop." ”
Because such a like is like you are running after the wind, destined to be just a one-way chase, no result.
Only a two-way embrace is love.
So stop asking questions like "Do you like me?" in his chat history of not replying to you, in the length of his perfunctory call, or even in his ambiguous words at every meeting.
His friend Xiao Suzhou is an authentic southerner, but he resolutely stayed in Beijing for the sake of the people he liked, despite the opposition of his family.
Saying that she likes it is actually just her unilateral will.
The two people chatted, even if they were sleepy, she had to wait until the boy said he was tired and wanted to sleep, and then she was willing to end the call reluctantly.
When they met, the boy did not reject her closeness, but was very gentlemanly and caring for her.
However, when she wanted to make the relationship between the two people go further and test each other's intentions, the boy was vague and never responded positively.
Until one day, she accidentally saw the boy with another girl, she found that the smile on the boy's face, the gentlemanly action of taking care of the girl, were the same.
She slowly recalled the details of the time the two people were together.
Voice chat, the first to hang up the phone is always him.
In the chat history, the last one is her.
It turned out that in this relationship, the person who took the initiative has always been her, and the other party is just taking time to cooperate.
The proofs that she thought she liked now seemed to be evidence of not loving.
In fact, liking never needs to be tempted, because it is hidden in the details, but you don't see it.
Unclear affirmation is unwillingness, that is, not wanting.
Not being proactive is not paying attention to it, or not liking it.
Later, Xiao Suzhou returned to her hometown, and during a chat, she said that she also met a person who was very active. When I saw that person, I remembered my former self.
Instead, she became the one who didn't respond, didn't refuse, didn't take the initiative, and didn't like it.
It turns out that we all treat people we don't like, we are all the same.
There will be natural indifference and indifference, the video pictures shared by the other party are not watched, the messages sent are ignored, and it is always a long time before replying, sometimes not even returning.
It's just that the so-called like makes you unable to see the reality, but the moment when you are emotional, you completely overcome reason and find a reason for him.
But as it was said in the movie "He Doesn't Really Like You That Much":
"It's just that sometimes we prefer to believe that a man is too stressed, too tired, too inferior, too sensitive. Have childhood shadows or love your ex-girlfriend too much, but don't want to admit a simple fact.
Yes, he wasn't too busy, he wasn't injured, he wasn't mentally shadowed, he wasn't a phone that fell down the toilet or he had amnesia. He just doesn't like you that much. ”
So, when you meet someone you like, you can take the initiative and you can be blind, but if he is not so welcome to your arrival, then stop there.
Because if feelings can't make you feel happy, but are stuffed with disappointment and grievances, it can only show that the person is not worthy of your seriousness.
Stop bothering the person who doesn't have you in his heart, your sincerity should be left to the one who only comes to you even if he crosses the mountains.
May we all find good people, get the true heart, and put you in the heart at all times.
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Author: Xiao Bei, founder of (Kuwoxiaobei) All the Way north culture media Co., Ltd., a well-known emotional anchor. Best-selling author, author of "This Fickle World Rarely Has You", "Meet Every You with a Story", and has a public account that accompanies you to say goodnight at 9:09 every night. I want to cure every lonely patient with sound and words. It's good that you're here. WeChat public number: Xiaobei (kuwoxiaobei) Weibo @ Xiaobei loves to eat meat. Jiang, who has a story, published it with authorization, please contact the original author for reprinting.