No matter how old the children are, they will always be immature and in need of help in the eyes of their parents, and the older a person is, the more similar ideas there are. But think about it in turn, after all, children have to gain a foothold in society, and the filter aura we bring with us is not necessarily a positive thing for them.
Everything has a degree, in order for children to mature as soon as possible, their old age life is guaranteed, these 3 things must not be done to children or said, otherwise the consequences are unimaginable, let's take a look:
First, don't sell your house in exchange for better living conditions for your children
In the two decades since the housing reform, house prices in the mainland have soared, and their increase has even exceeded the average social wage by many times, and even the elderly can be keenly aware of this fact. Many parents see that their children have to face the pressure of work and think about how to improve their family life, and they can't help but feel sorry for them, so they have the idea of selling their old houses in exchange for better living conditions for their children.
From the perspective of blood, this idea can be fully understood, after all, parents have paid for decades and do not care about this point; from the perspective of long-term development, this is not conducive to cultivating children to have a grateful heart, but also will put themselves into embarrassing scenes. Because children have their own families, our concepts are advancing with the times, and there is inevitably a generation gap between the two sides, and they can often see each other when they live together, and the possibility of conflicting with each other increases, and then it is not easy for us to move away from this home.
Second, don't tell your children the truth about your wealth
As the saying goes, distance makes beauty, and even the closest people, we should not give ourselves full attention, especially in terms of economic conditions. Once the children know how much money their parents have in their hands and what difficulties they encounter, they are likely to think of asking for help from us at the first time, which is not to say that everyone is unwilling to lend a hand, but it is not good for the long-term development of the children, and there will be countless times to help the first time, and many people will become "nibbling on the old people" in this way.
As the saying goes, help the poor, on the contrary, if we hold the savings over the years in our own hands, once the children encounter difficulties, in the case that they have no way to solve themselves, we will take out the funds, which can be described as "saving people from water and fire", and really use the money on the blade.
Third, do not interfere with the lives of your children
When people reach the age of fifty or sixty, our children also have children, and they have gradually changed from their previous roles to moms and dads who have to carry a piece of the sky. Although children do not have rich experience, they will use the house they think is right to educate children, after all, we have no direct blood relationship with our grandchildren, and various parenting concepts are relatively backward, so on some issues of principle, we still obey the arrangements of our children. Otherwise, the normal rhythm of life of three generations will be disrupted, and the situation of family harmony will be broken, which will not only cause trouble to our children, but also not conducive to the happiness of our later life.