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All the departures are long-planned | Cheng Yi
Author: Uncle Bei
Last night, just before going to bed, a reader sent me a message.
She said that lately she had a vague feeling that something was wrong with her five-year relationship.
Originally, I was going to enter the palace of marriage with him next year.
But more and more he found that his love had quietly disappeared and there was little left.
"He's been cold to me lately and often can't find anyone.
There seems to be an ambiguous chat with a girl.
When it comes to meeting his parents, he flashes his words and excuses himself.
Far less enthusiastic and eager than before.
Over the years, I've seen the way he looked when he loved me.
So he doesn't love me anymore, and I can feel it obviously. ”
She seemed to be talking, and she seemed to be muttering to herself, and I couldn't comfort her.
The matter of feelings is long but obsessive, short but fickle.
Even if the romance is beautiful at the beginning, no one can guarantee that they can hug each other.
When a man wants to end a relationship, he may not say it directly.
But there are often early signs.
Drift away from you
There is a saying on the Internet:
"The way adults end a relationship isn't originally about arguing and breaking down.
Rather, it is a silent alienation.
It turns out that some people will make you look forward to tomorrow.
But it really won't be in your tomorrow again. ”
In the past, you and I were still intimate lovers.
I don't know when it suddenly became lukewarm.
Your WeChat, he no longer pinned;
Your phone, he no longer answers in seconds;
Everything about you, he no longer pays attention to.
He doesn't take the initiative to contact you anymore, doesn't take the initiative to care about you.
You don't ask him or say anything, and if you don't look for him, he won't look for you.
As a result, the enthusiasm between each other slowly faded, and the feelings gradually faded.
No aggressive questioning, no bitter entanglement.
The relationship between the two people seems to be calm as usual, but the two hearts are no longer closely linked.
You can't guess what he's thinking or doing.
He is as if you were leaving.
This is actually a sign that he is ready to leave you at any time.
Men want to end a relationship, will not tears, long pavilion farewell.
Nor will it be repeatedly entangled and quarrelsome.
Most of them quietly drifted away, without even a solemn breakup.
There are shades of fate, and there are sad and happy endings.
Instead of becoming the most familiar stranger, they procrastinate each other in their feelings.
It is better to be frank with each other.
If you can't work together for a lifetime, you will say goodbye with dignity and rejoice in each life.
Be preoccupied with you
Recently, I posted a netizen on Weibo.
She said that her boyfriend bought a house, the financial pressure became greater, and proposed "AA system love".
So everything they came into contact with became a clear price.
A meal, a trip, or even a cup of milk tea must be "settled" on the spot.
Daily expenses should be calculated, and fun together should be calculated.
Even Valentine's Day gifts are evenly distributed, completely without the ease and joy of starting a relationship.
She thinks the AA system is the kind of effort that you come and go.
Instead of turning into a single purchase, such a relationship makes her feel overwhelmed.
A relationship, if it comes to calculating a little profit, it really does not mean anything.
As the writer Ma Ren said:
"Love itself is a kind of giving regardless of gain or loss, a blind sacrifice.
If you overthink the gains and losses, it is not love, it is a transaction. ”
A man who truly loves you will involuntarily be good to you and will be willing to pay for you.
I'd rather save money and use it yourself than let you be wronged.
Mouth saying hurt you love you.
But men who actually want to withdraw at any time will have these small calculations hidden in their hearts.
Always measure the cost you pay, afraid of a little loss.
However, each of us has only a short life and cannot be satisfied.
Nor can it be generously given to those who do not deserve it.
Since it is not suitable for a lifetime to be together, it is better to forget about each other as soon as possible.
Half-hearted for you
Red dust is chaotic, and people's hearts are unpredictable.
Some men, sweet words in front of you to make you happy.
Say you are his true love and you are his only one.
But behind the scenes, there are flowers and weeds everywhere, and there is ambiguity with the opposite sex.
What's more, they don't hide in front of you.
The beautiful name is "brother and sister", "is a girlfriend", "is a good friend".
It seems to be generously laughing and playing, but in fact, it has already secretly crossed Chen Cang.
He did this just to make you feel uncomfortable.
Hint to you that he doesn't love you anymore and wants to end the relationship.
Advise you to be self-sufficient and mention the breakup early.
For him, love is a calculation that goes and goes.
It's always half-hearted for you.
He has been riding a donkey to find a horse, enjoying the thrill of circling in love.
And the love you want is the first choice, is spoiled, is eccentric, is unique, is possessive, is the exception.
It is the single-mindedness of the whole body.
If love cannot end from one end, it will be fruitless to force it, and it is useless to force it.
There is no point in blindly deceiving others, and in the end it will only hurt yourself.
As the writer Canoe said:
"Don't expect yourself to be the terminator of the prodigal son.
True prodigal son, no terminator.
If he ends up stopping by your side, don't think you're the one who ended him, it's just an opportunity. ”
We always have to say goodbye to the wrong people in order to make room for the right people.
The rest of your life is expensive, and may the people you love with all your heart are also loving you wholeheartedly.
Yishu said:
"In the journey of fate, the time for each person to perform is prescribed, and it is doomed in the dark.
When it was time to leave, I was reluctant to leave. ”
The same goes for feelings.
Men want to end a relationship, no matter how much he hides, no matter how you keep it, you can't withstand the consumption of time.
Breakups are never plain and unprovoked, and all departures are premeditated.
Since there is already a premonition, what should be put away, what should be forgotten.
Turn around boldly and don't have to look back.
Believe that you will be able to meet a person who knows how to cherish.
He deserves your brave love, and he deserves your heart.
All your affection is deep and righteous, and you can be treated with sincerity in his place.
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