After being a full-time mother for three years, now that the baby has enrolled in school, he has returned to the workplace, has a new understanding in parenting, kindergarten, family, marriage, emotions, etc., and is still the mother who likes to share, hoping to share more topics that can collide with sparks and dry goods with babies...
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Many people say that Mother S is a drama spirit, and there is her everywhere, in fact, this woman is really not simple.
With three daughters out of the house, cultivating two big stars, I asked how many mothers can do it?
Big S divorce and remarriage, can be said to occupy the headlines, the S family almost every day occupy the hot search list, especially the mother a day an attitude, today to get two old hens dry rack diagram, language excited, tomorrow and said that the new son-in-law was very handsome before, just denied the daughter son-in-law, and said that the new son-in-law is very gentlemanly, the attitude is really elusive.
In fact, this is a normal performance of a mother, she did not hide her emotions, put her emotions in public, because she is the mother of the star, it looks a little difficult to understand, and even considered to be for the sake of eyeballs.
In fact, if you look at her from a mother's point of view, you can understand her attitude very well, after all, although the daughter is more than 40 years old, but this obviously impulsive approach makes the old woman unable to accept it for a while, and the other party is an old man who does not look friendly and does not conform to the traditional aesthetics, and there is a lot of black material, which mother can calm it?
To be able to maintain such calmness is already a connotation.
S mom's attitude towards her former son-in-law deserves praise
The real good gathering and good dispersion is not that there is no "war" when separating, but when it is talked about again, the heart is calm, and the other party can recognize the advantages of the other party and also recognize the past time.
In this regard, neither daughter has done a good job than her mother.
Big S's attitude towards this marriage is inconvenient to analyze, she does not have much public remarks, but the divorce and remarriage interval is very short, which more or less illustrates some problems.
And the most ugly thing about this time was not the party, but Xiao S, the sister divorced and remarried, becoming a hot topic in her new show, she trumpeted the relationship between her sister and Gu Junye, indicating that the two people were forced to separate at the beginning, completely leaving the previous brother-in-law behind, as if this man had never appeared.
In the end, Wang Xiaofei couldn't help it, openly tearing up the little S, directly pointing out: "We divorced, your sister didn't say anything, what are you fooling around all day!" ”
For a little traffic, Xiao S lost his good popularity.
When asked whether she liked the "former son-in-law" or the "new son-in-law", she did not answer directly, saying: "How much I love my grandson and granddaughter, how much I love the son-in-law", without mentioning the new son-in-law, but everyone knows that her heart meat is the grandson and the granddaughter, and it is clear which is the two ends of the scale.
S mother's response is beyond reproach, how the married life of the daughter and son-in-law, the parents of both sides do not participate, indicating that the mother-in-law is very satisfied with the former son-in-law, although she has divorced, still recognizes the former son-in-law.
And for the new son-in-law, the language barrier, before this has not been contacted at all, now only seen twice, with "polite", "gentleman" to answer quite appropriately, refuse to respond to his love, indicating that this is a measured mother, at the same time she is also revealing her attitude of keeping a distance, want to really get the heart of this mother-in-law, or more effort, pay more, good performance.
Compared with the mother and daughter, the height is immediate, and it can only be said that Xiao S is already an old man, or he still has to cultivate well and learn more from his mother.
Marriage is gone, and the responsibility for the children is still there
S mother not only has a gentle attitude towards her former son-in-law, but also confesses her love for him many times, and also has an inclusive attitude towards Wang Xiaofei's mother, Zhang Lan.
When asked about Xiao S's attitude, she said: "She talks a lot, people don't like to listen, it will provoke fire, just like eating bad things, will diarrhea, Xi Di has no malice, not deliberately provoke Aunt Lan to be angry, she just makes everyone happy." ”
The response was decent, on the one hand, the relationship between her and Zhang Lan was better revealed in her words, on the other hand, she directly pointed out her daughter's shortcomings, talked more quickly, and finally did not forget to cover up for her daughter, and pointed the focus to "making everyone happy".
Just ask this mother's wave of operations are you convinced? For so many years, after the sisters got into trouble, their mothers appeared to end up, because people's mothers can do it.
In the end, it is still for the child, this should be the bottom line in her heart, the child is the bottom line, for the child, more love is happier than less love. Because the love cut off in the middle will not disappear out of thin air, it will have a series of reactions, which may turn into resentment, which is the most harmful place for children.
Why is it always telling adults to separate marriage from children, not to implicate children, and to let children have a healthy environment for growth.
Even if the feelings of both husband and wife are no longer there and separated, they must really get together and disperse, put the resentment in their hearts, since they have been separated, put aside those contradictions that have been separated, be calm and separated, do not cause psychological shadows to the child, so that the child can really have complete fatherly and maternal love.
If people are as transparent as S mothers, can really recognize the stakes of this, there will be a lot of children in this world who are hurt, children less hurt, more happiness, the probability of having a happy life will increase by one point, this should be the parents are most looking forward to ah.