Lately, there has been a real need for some good news to dilute the clouds of sorrow.
Seeing that Sun Yizhen and Chen Qiao'en had officially announced their marriage, I was sincerely happy for them.
Sun Yizhen and Xuan Bin's sweet wedding photos received many blessings.
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However, Chen Qiaoen officially announced the marriage license, and the stars who sent blessings could only see a few people such as Ying'er, Chen Yanxi, and Wang Xinling.
Even Chen Qiaoen's once best friend Xie Na did not show up.
Image source: Weibo @ Chen Qiaoen
Sun Yizhen is 40 years old, and Chen Qiaoen is 43 years old.
The same is the pursuit of happiness by older female stars, why did Jon Chen receive so few blessings, and even fans have taken off their fans to resist it?
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It's a long story, and it's also very sad.
In this life, Chen Qiaoen is brave enough and hard enough.
In business, luck is always good.
But on the road to happiness, it is always treated by fate.
It is said that a happy childhood heals a lifetime, and an unhappy childhood needs a lifetime of healing.
Chen Qiaoen can now have the courage to "although thousands of people are looking forward to it" because she finally healed her unfortunate childhood.
Compared with the scumbag parents, the scumbag is really nothing.
Idol drama love, resisted
This should be the only star couple who has gone from love variety show to marriage.
Everyone else ends up "breaking up", but the more they love, the deeper they love.
This should have been a good thing.
Acquaintances are recorded by the camera, and I think back to how sweet it was later.
However, the relationship between Chen Qiaoen and Ellen was strongly resisted by Chen Qiaoen's fans.
So much so that Chen Qiaoen wanted to interact with fans, but was driven out by fans.
Fans who collectively changed into black avatars also reminded her that this was Chen Qiaoen's pure fan super talk, let her go to "En Ai CP Super Talk" to show grace and love.
Only because the picture of Chen Jon is a painting of boyfriend Ellen.
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Fans are willing to like Jon Chen, why do they hate this brother-in-law so much?
Because this brother-in-law is too "fake".
First of all, people set up fakes.
In the love variety show where the two people met, Alan is the son of a wealthy Malaysian businessman, mu ne is honest, and only loves painting and fitness.
Can't talk, and keeps smirking.
On the first date to dinner, ask the age.
Jon Chan said you guess how old I was, and Allen said:
"I know, but you're well maintained."
Image source: Mango TV "Daughters in Love"
Even if you ask the age, you can directly say that the woman's actual age is much older than it looks.
There is really no emotional intelligence.
Even Jon Chen's father didn't like this boy and had no eye contact.
After Allen's social account was pulled out, everyone found out that this was an honest person.
Not only did he pay attention to a large number of beautiful women, but he often liked the photos of beautiful women who posted large scales and rubbed edges.
These cannot be judged to be a scumbag, at least that he is more careful.
It has nothing to do with the honest mune in the show.
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Second, the details are false.
Jon Chen is not a fool, if Alan is really in good condition, how can he not find a girlfriend?
But when Jon asked if he would go to a bar or make some female friends on social networking apps.
Alan smiled and said that there was no time at all.
But in fact, Alan has a lot of female friends in his life.
There is a white-skinned single mother who has always been the object of Allen's praise.
There is also a lot of interaction between two people, and when you look at it, you will feel that it is a good relationship.
Jon Chen asked Alan again, what friends do you usually play with?
Allen said that there are older male friends who play golf together.
However, the single mother above posted a photo of Ellen teaching him to play golf.
Alan also liked it.
When there are female friends, they say that they have female friends, and they only play with men.
This is indeed a bad feeling.
Third, personal leave.
In the show, Alan directly showed off the family's manor.
It's spacious enough to walk your dog and is full of collectibles.
In order to surprise Jon Chan, Alan flew directly into a private helicopter to paint his heart on the sea.
This series of operations is romantic and shows off wealth.
He said he was the owner of the health food, and he didn't deny it when it came to the internet that he was a rich second generation.
As a result, netizens checked Allen's company, and the official website directly wrote "pyramid scheme business".
Isn't this an industry that is illegal in China?
Moreover, after the show, Allen's gifts to Jon Chan became cherries, pillows, and mugs.
It's not that these things are bad, but in terms of his rich man's personality, it's not.
Saying that Chen Qiaoen married into a rich family may really think too much.
Like she herself said "love didn't abandon me".
What she wants is not how good this man is, but what she likes.
Love is more precious than all conditions.
After half a lifetime of hard work, Chen Qiaoen is good-looking and rich.
Gifts can be bought by herself, and the house can be bought by herself, which is her confidence and sense of security.
Video screenshot source: Women 30+
What she lacks is love, companionship, and someone who can make her happy.
Because in the first half of her life, she was really unhappy.
Trying to make money is to escape from the family
Chen Qiaoen's career path is brave and smooth.
In 2008, she debuted in a supporting role in the TV series Lavender.
Unexpectedly, twenty years later, the main actors in the play were all paste, and only Chen Qiaoen became more and more popular.
Image source: Lavender
"The Prince Becomes a Frog", starring in 2005, has become a classic that no one can surpass so far.
How many people are still stumbling on Jon and Mingdao's CP.
Image source: "The Prince Becomes a Frog"
In 2008's "Destiny I Love You", she played the "Post-it Note Girl" again.
That kind of personality that is called to come and go has resonated with many good girls.
Image source: "Destiny I Love You"
In fact, this "Post-it Note Girl" is Chen Qiaoen herself.
When she debuted at the age of 22, she won with a funny style.
After acting in the first TV series, she assumed the pseudonym "Xiaohongen" and hosted the tourism program "China Is So Big".
At that stage, Chen Qiaoen completely disregarded the image and dared to say anything, as long as he could make the audience laugh.
Video screenshot source: "China is so big"
Because she has nothing to rely on except for her career.
Chen Qiaoen once took his mother to the show, unveiling the pain of the original family.
It turned out that before this show, Chen Qiaoen had not been alone with his mother!
When the mother and daughter were together, the screen was full of awkward silence.
When the two people hugged each other and took pictures, Chen Qiaoen's mother's hand did not dare to touch her daughter's body.
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These cracks are all because Chen Qiaoen was scared by his mother when he was a child.
After a transfer, Chen Qiaoen was unable to integrate into the new environment, and his grades plummeted.
Parents have only one attitude towards this: "Fight! ”
Bundled with dead branches, he slammed it on Chen Qiao'en's body and hit him until he saw blood.
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Until mentioning the beating a few years ago, Chen Qiao'en couldn't help but look back at the back.
The fear buried in the bottom of my heart is like a shadow.
Image source: Mango TV "Whirlwind Filial Piety"
Chen Qiaoen, who grew up, even if he went to the cemetery to hang out and read the inscriptions, did not want to go home.
Seeing those who have passed away, she can't help but think:
"They're like me and no one cares."
"Or will your mother hit you too?"
Just listening to her self-report was heartbreaking enough.
But when Joan Chan and his mother mentioned it, her mother just said lightly:
"That approach may be wrong."
Even if you hit a child, you still love your child, but in the wrong way.
As Susan Foward said:
"The effect of harm caused by parents is not limited to the present.
It runs through the years and is as deeply rooted in the hearts of children as a needle. ”
Because under the stick of the parents, the child is simply powerless to resist, can only internal friction, and even give up on themselves.
The frustration of feeling like you're nowhere good will last a lifetime.
Therefore, the gap between the front and back of the chen qiaoen stage is very large.
In front of the screen, is the funny and cheerful idol drama heroine.
Behind the screen, is a lonely girl who has been at home for two months and can only talk to cats.
She understands:
"Not a child, or a family or marriage, can alleviate your loneliness and your anxiety."
She needs a lot of love;
Need enough recognition and confidence;
What is needed is not to admit one's fate and be willing to save oneself.
Fortunately, she was later redeemed by money and love.
Meeting the right person is a rebirth
Two years ago, when everyone was urging marriage the most fiercely, Chen Qiaoen once laughed and said:
"I'll be a lonely old man with money."
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There are many people who use this sentence to promote Jon Chen's independent self.
It seems that as long as there is money, it is enough to make up for the pain of loneliness.
But we all know that this is not the case.
When parents leave, take away the most intimate connection of a person in this world.
Loneliness is no longer a word that can be laughed at, but a dumb and wordless bitterness.
Chen Qiaoen's official marriage at the age of 42 is a kind of sanity.
When many people say that they are not married, they are actually not very clear about the difference between fear and unwanted.
But Joan Chan was clear.
She knew she was just lonely and autistic, and even a little afraid of intimacy.
But she does not run away from love, nor does she blindly pursue happiness.
On the show to fall in love, it is because the program team can find the right person according to her requirements.
Despite all the opposition, no one could see the man better than she herself.
It took two years to recognize a person and decide to enter into marriage.
The pace was just right, and so was her form.
Every time the secret photo is exposed, you can see her happiness surrounded by love.
Video screenshot source: Network
And those who can't tell whether they are afraid or not, may obviously desire intimacy, but they are afraid to touch it because they are afraid.
On the one hand, he is anxious and restless, and he numbs his needs with work and money.
Until you no longer need to think about what the reasons for not wanting to get married are.
Admit that you need intimacy, but fear of being hurt is not shameful.
As long as we have enough material foundation to guarantee our independence, whether the ending is happy or sad, we can face it with a normal heart.
After talking about Chen Qiaoen and Sun Yizhen, I still want to say:
Every heartbeat is hard-won.
Whenever you meet someone who makes your heart move, you can be brave enough to try, to love, to get married.
Even if it is in love with her 9-year-old boyfriend in a variety show;
Even if it is not approved by parents;
Even if everyone doesn't understand and doesn't bless...
As long as you are not afraid, you deserve to be happy.
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Wish Jon a happy new marriage.
I also wish everyone who bravely pursues happiness to achieve their wishes as soon as possible.