Author | Fan Deng Reading · Zhu Yiyi
Anchor | Fan Deng Reading · Polaris
Tagore said:
"Only by going through the hellish grind can we cultivate the power to create heaven; only the fingers that have shed blood can pop out the world's absolute noise."
In this life, if you want to create miracles and live wonderfully, you must experience an unforgettable self-tempering.
Success, happiness, noble personality, all the beauty that human beings seek, will not be easily smashed on anyone's head like a pie in the sky.
Truly excellent people know how to sharpen themselves in order to achieve the consummation of life.
People often say, "Your mouth is your feng shui." ”
It can be seen that the importance of words and deeds lies in the fact that they can change a person's destiny.
There is such a story:
After Ming Taizu Zhu Yuanzhang became emperor, the news spread to his hometown of Fengyang.
A small friend who had been herding cattle and stealing peas together as a child knew about it, and came to the capital to ask for him, hoping to find an official and a half-job.
At the Golden Ruan Hall, the little friend prostrated himself and shouted:
"Your Majesty, do you remember that there were a group of young generals who went up the mountain, rode wildebeest, fought in the pea city, ran away from Marshal Tang, captured General Bean alive, and returned triumphantly."
Zhu Yuanzhang listened to it, remembered the past of stealing peas together when he was a child, saw that his little friend spoke cleverly, was very happy, and sealed a county order for him.
This news spread to the ears of another small partner who stole peas with Zhu Yuanzhang that year, and he also wanted to try his luck.
After bowing down at the Golden Ruan Hall, he said:
"Hooray, don't you remember?"
When we were young, we herded cattle for the landlords, and once we boiled the stolen beans in the reeds and cooked them in a crock pot, and before they were ready to cook, everyone rushed to eat them.
Finally, the jar was broken, and the beans were sprinkled on the ground, and the soup was also spilled on the ground. You just grab beans from the ground and eat them,
As a result, the red grass root was stuck in the throat, or my idea, telling you to swallow it with a handful of greens before bringing the red grass root into your stomach. ”
Hearing that the Minister of Culture and Military Affairs was terrified and frightened, he did not even dare to breathe in the atmosphere, and Zhu Yuanzhang's face was even more white and red, and his face was very hanging.
As a result, as soon as he finished speaking, Zhu Yuanzhang drank: "Come on, people, drag it out and cut it." ”
The same thing, just because two people, one can talk, makes the listener comfortable; one can't speak, embarrasses the listener, and brings them different fates.
Everyone can talk, but not everyone can talk.
To sharpen words and deeds is to listen more, think more, learn more, and practice more, improve your speaking level, and cultivate your oral morality.
The ancients said:
"The mouth can spit out roses, but it can also spit out tribulus terrestris."
Roses are fragrant and everyone likes, and tribulus terrestris is a wild thorn that stabs others.
When a person speaks to take care of the feelings of others and fill others with joy, then he must be everywhere and life will be smooth.
Du Yuesheng said:
"First-class people have the ability and no temper; second-class people have the ability and have a temper; the third-class people have no ability and no temper; the last class, without ability, have temper."
In life, good or bad temper is an important criterion for evaluating a person, but good temper is not innate.
A netizen who knows him shared the story of his grumpy life wrestling and fighting.
In his first year of entering society, he drove his girlfriend for a ride on the street, encountered a vehicle in the way, and yelled at people: "Will you drive?" ”
Once, when I met a more grumpy person, the two people immediately scolded each other.
In the end, the more he scolded, the more he got angry, drove to hit each other, and both of them had a car accident.
The hospital was staying for half a year, especially his girlfriend, unfortunately, was disfigured by the glass pieces that were broken during the crash.
Because he is the responsible party, he not only has to pay his own medical expenses, but also compensates the other party.
In the end, he lost his family, even had no job, and his girlfriend finally left him.
After this change, he changed his temper.
Today, he is a gentle and elegant person who works as a department manager in a listed company.
Later, at a class reunion, he sighed and said:
"In the past, taking grumpiness as a personality was actually a kind of stupidity and ignorance, but now I understand that the real strength is that the heart is as calm as water - no temper!" 」
Aesthetics master Zhu Guangqian said:
"Your bad temper is actually your lack of wisdom."
Knowing that after the painful lessons of life, netizens have increased their wisdom and changed their temper, and finally changed their fate and reached the realm of "first-class people, capable and no temper".
It can be seen that a person's natural bad temper can develop a good temper by tempering.
Because people's blessings are hidden in their tempers: the better their temper, the greater their blessings.
Writer Chen Zhongzhong said:
"Diligence is genius" means that genius is not a natural talent, but the result of the diligent struggle of ordinary people.
Yes, all beings are equal and born as human beings, so why can you succeed without making an effort?
Wang Xianzhi, a famous calligrapher during the Eastern Jin Dynasty, was the son of Wang Xizhi, who was influenced by his father's love of calligraphy, and he also loved to write.
One day, he asked Wang Xizhi, "Father, what should I do?" Brush words can write as well as you. ”
Wang Xizhi pointed to the eighteen large jars in the courtyard and said, "If you can practice these 18 cylinders of ink, you can write as well as me." ”
Listening to his father's words, Wang Xianzhi got up every day before dawn, hurriedly washed up, and went to the study to practice brush writing.
Never stop, whether it's a hot summer or a cold winter.
When my fingers were worn out, I wrapped a layer of cloth and continued to write.
His arm was sore, and just as he was eating, let the man rub it, and then write after eating.
In this way, day after day, year after year, I practiced, and the bad brushes were piled up into small hills, and finally I ran out of eighteen bars of ink.
At this time, Wang Xianzhi also became a well-known calligrapher, on a par with his father Wang Xizhi.
Carlisle said: "The laurels of honor in the world are woven from thorns." ”
Fate is fair, and anyone who wants to succeed in his career has no shortcuts other than hard work and diligent practice day after day.
Character is the foundation of a person's life.
For a person, ability determines how fast he walks, and character determines how far and smooth he goes.
When I was a child, I heard my mother tell such a story.
There was an old shoemaker in the town who took two apprentices and taught them the skill of repairing shoes and mending shoes.
After the apprentices completed their studies, they bid farewell to the master and went to the big city to develop.
Before leaving, the shoemaker gave a thousand instructions: "You two remember that you can only use four nails to repair the soles of your shoes." ”
The two apprentices came to the same city and opened separate shoe shops.
In the process of repairing the shoes, they found that the shoes fixed with four nails would be damaged after a few days of wear.
The owner of the shoe will come to fix the shoe a second time, so they can earn double the shoe money.
But with just one more nail, you can completely repair the shoes, which is the cost of a dime.
The first shoemaker felt that Master was really clever, and continued to do as Master told him to earn double the shoe money.
The second shoemaker thought it would be against his conscience, so he added an extra nail to the shoe repair.
In the beginning, the first shoemaker did earn more than the second shoemaker.
But a month later, the second shoemaker's shop was crowded, the first shoemaker's shop was deserted, the business was getting worse and worse, and finally had to close.
No one is a fool, and having suffered a loss or twice, they will understand what kind of person you are and decide whether to alienate you or be close to you.
The first shoemaker and the second shoemaker have the same skill, the same craftsmanship, and the difference is a character.
Character is the criterion for measuring a person's good or bad, and it is also the basis that determines a person's success or failure.
Man walks in the world and acts as a man, as Lincoln said:
"Ability can get you to the pinnacle of life, but only character can keep you there."
In the "Augmentation of The Sage Text", it is said: The fragrance of plum blossoms comes from the bitter cold, and the sword blade comes from the sharpening of the sword.
Each of us comes to this world as a piece of jade, and throughout our lives, we are carving and sharpening ourselves.
Effort is the cause, and fulfillment is the effect.
From now on, focus on yourself and improve yourself.
Sharpening your words and deeds will make you have good popularity, thus bringing you good luck.
Sharpening your temper will make you make a good impression on others and bring you blessings.
Sharpening your skills will help you climb to the top of your career and see the prosperity of the world.
Sharpening your character will make your life go further and smoother.
Life is a lifetime, grass and trees are autumn, wonderful is also a lifetime, mediocrity is also a lifetime, why don't we choose wonderful?
Click "watching", may it be hard for us to come to this world for a while, the geese have left a sound, and the people have left their names.
Author | Zhu Yiyi, a big girl who lives with a little girl in her heart; she not only writes new media articles, but also writes picture books about children's stories. He has published more than 20 picture books such as "The Origin of the Year" and "The Story of the Lantern Festival".
Editor-in-Chief | A doctor
Typography | Zheng to the north
Music | love