In this world, there is no shortage of people with wounds. Everyone will encounter some difficult things to a greater or lesser extent, but whether they are happy or not, there is no way to start again. What we have to learn is to shake hands with the past and make peace.
Because the past has passed, even if we don't give up, there is no way to go back to the past. But we cannot thus indulge in the difficulties of the past and cannot walk out.
You know, in this world, except for aging and poverty, everything else needs to be obtained by our own efforts.
If we are always immersed in the difficulties or pains of the past and cannot come out, then we can only live our lives in a mess.
Someone once said: "Happy people use childhood to heal a lifetime, and unfortunate people use a lifetime to heal childhood." "But what I want to say is that it doesn't matter if it was happy or unhappy before. There is no way to repeat the things of the past.
It's as if people always want to be able to go back to the past, because then they can change the past, but reality is reality after all, and this idea is basically impossible to achieve.
Therefore, in the face of the past that cannot be changed, what we can do is to learn to shake hands with the past and make peace, perhaps it will still hurt to remember, but it is after all a thing that has passed.
Since it is a thing of the past, we always have to learn to grow after experiencing these things. If we look back, we will find out. After we have experienced these things, we will begin to understand what love is, how to treat our lives, and how to deal with the successes and failures we encounter.
And these things are also only known to us after we have walked through, which is why many things are so-called "after-the-fact guns". It boils down to the fact that there is no road that has been traveled, just a road. The road traveled is life.
As someone once said, "We go from the beginning of life to the end, and there will naturally be many insights along the way." But most of these gains are not learned in the classroom or the library, but in the laboratory of life. ”
Simply put, it's from all the things we've been through in the past, so whether it's good or bad, it's a part of our lives, and all we have to do is learn to accept it, learn to shake hands with it.
I remember reading a book "Mr. Toad Goes to the Psychiatrist", there is such a story:
When he grew up, Mr. Toad has been living in the shadow of his childhood, and because he has not solved such problems well, he has begun to become inferior and sensitive, but he still has to pretend to be confident and strong.
His heart was filled with pain. Slowly affected by this emotion, he suffered from depression and once wanted to take his own life, but fortunately his friend River Rat saved him and took him to see a psychiatrist.
When Mr. Toad first went to the psychiatrist, the psychiatrist Heron asked, "Who made you come?" ”
Mr. Toad replied without hesitation, "It's a river rat." ”
But the heron said to him, "The only thing that can make you come is yourself." ”
Hearing such a sentence, Mr. Toad pondered for a long time, it is indeed like this, the person who can let himself come can only be himself, and others are just a cover.
Finally, in a constant consultation with the heron, the heron constantly asks questions and leaves Mr. Toad to analyze and come up with the answers himself. Slowly Mr. Toad began to pay attention to himself.
He began to look for feelings in himself, not in other people or in the past, and so he began to receptive to life and accept the past. I also felt happy again.
Yes, maybe everyone has the shadow of Mr. Toad, who has denied himself because of what happened in the past period and feels that he cannot get happiness.
However, the thing we need to know is that the past is over, and what he can influence our current life is our mentality. Because now is what we can grasp, and what we can change.
Instead of being unable to come out of the pain of the past, constantly use the mistakes or failures of the past to hit the present self. Why not learn to accept past failures or pains.
Because it is real, but we can choose to think of it as an experience, a kind of growth. Only in this way can we continue to sum up the past and not indulge in the past, so that we can take every step of the present.
People always have to look forward, not look back. Therefore, whether the past is happy or not, life can not be repeated, rather than walking out in the past, it is better to learn to reconcile with the past, so that our life path will be easier, you say yes or no.
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