Author | Good mom
Family training affects the growth of each generation of a family.
The so-called tall buildings begin at the foundation, the starting point of the formation of children's values is the family style and home training, with good home training, children can become useful talents.
A father who is a professor at Tsinghua once shared 10 family trainings for his children in the circle of friends, and left a screenshot of 1 million likes on a social platform.
The 10 family trainings seem simple, but they are the "golden jade good words" for raising excellent children, and parents and friends can refer to it.
01
It is necessary to greet the person who sees you first
A polite child will take the initiative to ask others well, will also take the initiative to help when others need it, and will sincerely thank when they get help.
This kind of high emotional intelligence child can think of what people think, be anxious, and will certainly be able to break into Kyushu in the future.
Putting aside those utilitarian reasons, polite children will also have a grateful heart.
Therefore, dear child, when receiving any favor and help from others, you must express your gratitude verbally or in writing, and you must apologize on the spot for doing something that causes trouble to others.
02
Loud noises should not be made in public
If you can be considerate of the feelings of others, you can make more friends and be loved by more people.
This does not mean that you should be humble and tolerant of them without boundaries.
True decency is to be happy without bothering others.
Most basically, in public, if it's not a place dedicated to play, the volume of your speech is controlled so that a third person can't hear it.
03
It cannot be hidden from both parents
You are an independent individual, and of course you can have your own little secrets.
But if you encounter trouble in life, or something that makes you uncomfortable or uncomfortable, be sure to tell your parents.
It does not have to be as formal as the report to learn, you can say it privately or send it to WeChat.
You can choose who you trust, and you can only tell your mother about things that you don't want to tell your father; if you don't want to tell your mother, you can only tell your father.
But you can't say neither.
04
Don't lie or lie
If you cheat on a man, it will be very difficult for you to regain his trust in you.
Some things, even after a long time, can still become a thorn in the heart.
Failing someone who truly trusts you is the greatest loss, and you will lose the most precious trust of your friends and family and make you regret it for the rest of your life.
Everyone is not stupid, who is good to themselves, who is not good to themselves, in fact, they already have a number in mind.
To be a person, if you want others to be good to you, remember not to hurt people, not to deceive people, not to bear people.
05
Protect yourself
When you go out, there are all kinds of people, sometimes you don't mess with others, others will also provoke you.
When the behavior of others touches their own bottom line, they cannot be bullied.
If it is an unavoidable fight, do not use tools and teeth, do not poke the eye, do these points you can fight, and Dad hopes that you can win.
06
Picking up gold is not ambiguous
What you inadvertently pick up may be precious to the lost owner.
Your momentary kindness may save a helpless person.
Not our own stuff, we don't covet.
Once a person commits greed, he will only be spurned.
Coins that fall on the ground can be picked up and taken home to accumulate, but the wallet cannot be appropriated for oneself.
07
Be grateful for the kindness of others to you
In this life, many people will become strangers between friends because of some trivial things, and brothers and sisters will not care for each other.
Each of us may make such a mistake, others are good to us, we can't remember, only remember others are bad for us.
Remember, don't take other people's kindness to you for granted, and always remember other people's kindness to you.
"The grace of the dripping water, when the spring repays."
In the simplest, someone sincerely treats you to eat, and if you don't like it, you can say "I'm full", but definitely not "it's hard to eat".
08
Cherish food
Although our life is getting better and better now, the good habit of saving cannot be abandoned.
Maybe in your opinion, a grain of rice, a drop of water, is insignificant.
But the food in your bowl, the water in your cup, is like the piece of paper scrap that fell in the class, which seems to be very small, but once it accumulates over time, it will "accumulate into a mountain of paper".
You can't make a river and a sea without accumulating small streams, and if you save a grain of rice today, you can save a bowl of rice tomorrow.
Any food and anything is alive, and you must not eat it when you want to eat it, and throw it away when you want.
09
Keep thinking independently
Confucius said: To learn without thinking is to be reckless.
In addition to being full of poetry books, you also have to learn how to think.
The ability to "think independently" is more important than knowledge.
Of course, this does not mean that you must make everyone listen to your opinion and follow your train of thought.
It is important to follow the opinions of the collective and authority when necessary, but be sure to keep your own ideas in mind.
10
Don't compare yourself to others
Everyone looks different like his name, and there is no need to compare it with others.
To live at one's own pace and not to disrupt one's own rhythm in comparison with others is the wise man of life.
Haruki Murakami said:
"No matter what everyone in the world says, I think my feelings are the right ones. No matter what others think, I will never disturb my own rhythm. ”
You are unique and you can move independently towards your goals.
Your own goals are the ones that are best for you.
The 10 family trainings, seemingly simple, can all be done but very few.
Ancients Cloud: Moral heirloom, more than ten generations, cultivation and reading heirloom second, poetry and book heirloom second, rich and noble heirloom, but three generations.
Just like the fruit of the tree, the conscience is the ti, and if the ti is broken, the fruit will fall.
Let the children and grandchildren be good people, is the root of the prosperity and continuation of the family.