In our feelings, we all hope that love is a two-way rush, a long time.
In real years, such likeness will indeed exist, but more, it is love and can not be loved, and each other just loved for a while.
When liking is just wishful thinking, there is a beginning for each other, but there is no way to have one, since there is no way to have it, no matter how much we like it, of course, we don't have to be deeply involved and always remember.
The best thing is to be able to forget the other person, put the other person down, and then go back to find a relationship.
Without that person, the days will continue after all, and we should still have a future.
And when it comes to letting go, it is just a simple two words, and there is nothing difficult, many people spend a lot of time, even in their entire lives, they have never done it at all.
It seems that it is because it is a very difficult thing to let go, but in fact, it is just that I don't want to forget it at all, and I don't use the right method.
Don't shy away, get things sorted out.
In the face of life, when things are smoother and feelings are more satisfactory, we tend to feel very happy.
And when we are only relatively frustrated, and our feelings are not as we think, we tend to be a little unwilling to bear it.
Rather than directly admitting that the other party does not like themselves and admitting that the other party has given up on themselves, we will always tend to deliberately avoid this matter, and we are not willing to think about it at all, thinking that as long as we do not think about it, things will not hurt us.
However, the more deliberately we evade, the more we can't solve the problem at all, but it will only make that memory a thorn in our hearts, and there is no way to pull it out.
When we are in love, when we are not liked, instead of all kinds of pushing and letting go of ourselves and making all kinds of excuses for ourselves, we had better be brave, face it well, analyze the situation we are in, and analyze why each other is like this.
Whether it's just meditation or writing things down, anyway, it's a whole thing to sort it out.
Give yourself a little time to think about all the problems at once, such as you will lose, just because the other person just doesn't like you, just because they are not suitable for each other at all, just because the future you want is different, etc.
Combing through clearly, and then thinking about everything clearly, and putting a complete end to this relationship, it will really be very beneficial for us to no longer always reminisce and be able to work hard to move forward.
Accept parting and stop having illusions.
Can't put down a person, many people can't put it down, and they don't actually feel how good the other party is.
He even said that in the past years, the other party was not very good to himself at all, and he did something very sorry for himself.
At the end of the day, a lot of times we can't put it down, it's really not because of how good the other person is, how sweet it used to be, but just that we don't want to bear the fact that we have separated from each other, and we are still unwilling and eager for the other party to turn back.
For those who have left, they still have such thoughts, and they still live with each other in their hearts, time is really not too meaningful for us, no matter how much time passes, we will only stay where we are.
Forget or forget, put down or not, our own true will, that has always been particularly important.
Unable to accept reality, unwilling to admit the fact that we are separated from each other, of course we will only be unable to let go.
Only when we are really willing to accept the fact that the other party is leaving at the end of the moment, and no longer have any hope for the other party, and hope that at some time in the future, the other party will return to our side, we will be easier to let go.
When we think about it, the end of the world is not far away, we always have a way to remember, and when the thought is extinguished, it will also become the end of the world, and we will also have a way to let go.
Focus on yourself and get on with your life.
When a person leaves his own world, there are always people who will secretly pay attention to each other.
Whenever there is time, I will go through each other's various accounts, read all kinds of information about each other, I will secretly look at it, and I will also inquire with others about the news about that person.
Spend all your time on the other person, even if the other party is not in front of you, you will only always be in your heart, never really leave, even after several years, it is still fresh in your memory.
If we want to forget, from the moment we are separated, we should not pay attention to all kinds of attention, and all kinds of inquiries.
Take back all the time and energy that was once spent on that person, and then use it only on yourself.
Go into a career, work hard to make money, improve your skills, make yourself better, do something you like, and pass your spare time.
When we can do this, not because of the departure of the other party, and too much influence on ourselves, just keep making ourselves better and better, constantly going to the places we really want to go, when we go farther and farther on the road ahead, we will really stop missing.
Even if the memory is touched occasionally, it will only be a little thought, and then quickly withdraw, and will not stay too long, because everything you want is around, and you really live like it.
The key to quickly letting go of a person lies in yourself.
Be able to think through for yourself, be able to accept yourself, be able to focus on the years in front of you.
Can't figure it out, the departure of the other party will always be pressed on our hearts, so that we have no way to breathe.
Being able to think clearly, being able to face it calmly, no matter what the past is like, what has happened, it will not affect us too much, we will only be able to turn everything around very quickly.
To love someone, we should be affectionate, but for a lost love, we do not have to.
Just a little bit of affection, wave goodbye, say goodbye to each other, and say goodbye to us who once were.
When we can coexist emotionally and rationally, in our feelings, we will not always be so messy, and we will be more comfortable.
Text/Tan Meng
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