Something happened to Deng Lun, and I saw the most chilling scene.
On Station B, which is known as the gathering place of the back wave, I saw a video of a fire that surprised me.
As of the time I took the screenshot, the video was close to 1 million views, and it was almost a thousand comments. And the main theme of the video is only one -
"My mom collapsed!"
In the video, the owner laughed at his mother for being obsessed with Deng Lun because he watched an ancient puppet drama, while his mother complained that because he was addicted to star chasing, he neglected himself and his brother in high school.
The video is filled with joy and exaltation.
Opening the comment area, it is even more filled with the superiority of the post-wave people looking down on middle-aged women chasing stars.
"No face and no skin"
"Your mom didn't put her life on the family"
"Poor you"
"Spiritual Derailment"
"Middle-aged women chasing stars is too scary"
"Just let your dad beat up"
Oh my God, it's 2022.
I don't know, I thought it was her mother who did something adulterous and murdered and set fire to.
Married women chasing stars have become the bottom of the chain of social contempt, and anyone can step on it.
At the end of the day, behind these criticisms all point to one thing —
It's just incompetent.
The scolding of young people on the Internet about their mothers 'not doing their jobs' is not a day or two.
Last year, a netizen submitted an article to complain about his mother chasing stars, saying that his mother spent 800 yuan to buy a coffee machine, only because he loved beans to endorse, and later developed to spend money to vote for his own love beans.
She felt that her mother had "gone into the fire", so she asked netizens for help, hoping to have a way to stop her mother.
However, after visiting her daughter's Weibo, netizens found that she herself was also chasing e-sports offline competitions, buying expensive skin care products and sending extravagant gifts to her boyfriend...
The life shown by the daughter is far more than 800 yuan in each item.
Whether it is the up lord who is happy because her mother collapsed, or the daughter who is "worried" that her mother is out of control, they look very rational and sober at first glance, but they are a little selfish when they think about it.
Essentially, what if they're in the same vein as "Mom goes on a trip obsessed with buying jade?" "My mom fell in love with square dancing and ignored me and didn't care about me" and other issues are the same.
These mothers are the subject of conversation because they are not the same as our traditional concept of selfless dedication to the family.
Are young children's complaints about such mothers worried that their mothers are "going crazy"? Or are you worried that your mother won't be able to dedicate herself to the family wholeheartedly?
I couldn't help but want to put a big question mark.
Remember a debate in "Strange Story": My mother is crazy to chase the stars and can't go home, should I take care of it?
The debater Fawn said a passage that won the applause of the whole house:
"There is a mother in the candlelight, why can't there be a mother in the lamp?"
"Why is it that a man is a teenager until death, but a woman cannot be a girl until death?"
Behind the mother's star chasing, it is only the self-pleasing of the mothers after they are self-conscious.
Our society has one of the most cunning and cruel traps -
Tie the mom's ego to the family kids.
As long as you enter the identity of mother, you are put into a fixed standard - loving yourself is a betrayal of your child.
Under this set of standards, the most normal and greatest mothers are the most selfless people.
The road from girl to mother is too hard.
Mothers are disciplined by society to pay for the family without reservation, but as the people who pay the most in the family, their occasional willfulness has attracted more scolding.
This is probably the biggest grievance as a mother.
In our society, why do we feel that only young people can have their own hobbies, focus on their own things, and spend the money they earn at will, and as long as a person becomes a mother, he must surround his husband and children, and must be sober, restrained, and frugal...
He ever thought that his mother would also have her own "selfish desires", and also have the qualifications to be willful, and also have the right to make herself happy and happy?
As Cai Kangyong said:
"One of the situations that I am particularly distressed about girls is that once she is put on the title of mother, it is irreversible at this time. You are put on the title of wife and the title of husband, as long as you return to singleness, this identity disappears, but as long as this woman has a child, she is required to carry the title of mother forever. ”
"Maybe many women are proud of this, but I believe that in this proud life, there will be some moments when she will miss the time when she is not yet a mother, and there will be a moment when she will hope that she can take the title of mother off her back, even if it is a few months." 」
When we are mothers, we must also embrace ourselves, love ourselves, and become ourselves.
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