For whom do you live in this life?
From a lifetime point of view, this life is just a one-way train.
How to spend it, in order to have less regrets and more consummation, is something worth thinking about for friends.
Some people love face, and in the journey of growing up, they always care about other people's opinions, so these people's every move will seem to shrink their hands and feet, for fear of doing something wrong and making themselves the laughing stock of others.
In fact, really smart people, of course, will also pay attention to human contact.
But they don't blindly live for others. Instead, it will grasp the scale, in interpersonal communication, be a person with a degree of control, and live out their own personality and style.
Will these people become criticized by others? The answer is often no.
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Middle-aged in life, relying on strength.
When I was young.
Everyone lacks experience and experience, and if you want to achieve something, you can't do without the guidance of others.
At this stage, if a person has a humble attitude and asks for advice from the people around him, he will not cause any criticism, but will give people a sense of politeness.
And when it comes to middle age, if everyone still achieves nothing.
In this case, even if you lower your posture and be "generous" in front of others, it may not be able to win you recognition and respect. Because, in our cognition, middle age represents maturity and achievement, not "poor and generous".
If you want to be the admirable person in everyone's eyes, please put away your generosity.
For a middle-aged person, the most important thing to do is to focus on their own field, continue to live their own way of life, and live a wonderful life of their own.
When you have enough strength, even if you are a strong person, you will win your sense of accomplishment and happiness, and you can become the admirable person in the eyes of your family and friends.
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Don't let the trivia affect your growth.
A person's energy is limited.
How to grow up, rush to the direction of success?
I have to admit that everyone needs interpersonal relationships, and when necessary, it is inseparable from the guidance of your nobles. And many young people, just have this kind of wisdom, in order to maintain a faster growth rate.
After crossing the threshold of middle age, everyone will have to abandon this awareness.
Because, in the middle-aged stage of life, friends have enough experience, and there will be precipitation in life. If at this time, you also pin your hopes for success on others, and the results can be imagined.
No matter how you lower your posture, no matter how "generous" you are, it is difficult to make people look up.
On the contrary, if you pay too much attention to interpersonal relationships and pay too much attention to your own face, you will face the situation of "dying to face and suffering", which will eventually consume your time, consume your energy, and drag you down to success.
After middle age, don't be "poor and generous".
Be a truly intelligent person, continue to focus on personal growth, do what you can do, and don't let trivialities drag you down, so that you can run to the other side of success and grasp the lifestyle you want.
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Pay to a degree, to do what you can.
Focus on improving can earn you respect.
Of course, from the perspective of middle-aged people, everyone is inseparable from the necessary communication.
For example, the interaction between friends and relatives are all things that everyone must face. So, for middle-aged people, how to maintain a harmonious relationship with the people around them, and not embarrass themselves?
To use a cliché:
Do everything according to your ability.
In the face of other people's requests, when encountering a person who asks you for help, you should not blindly show kindness, but should realize that you have your own life and a family that needs to be taken care of.
Their own income is also obtained through hard work.
Even if you're eager to help someone, understand the fact that there needs to be a limit when it comes to giving. Otherwise, there is no bottom line for paying, which will not only make you fall into a dilemma, but also affect the happy life of your family.
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If you care, it's a matter of courtesy.
In life, there is a very realistic situation:
When it comes to middle age, many relatives and friends gradually draw a line.
Only people with similar family situations can maintain a harmonious atmosphere. If the income difference between the two families is large, and the person with a better family becomes strong, in fact, the friendship with each other will end.
There is such a friend, the couple are both salaried people.
Two people have to take care of a pair of children, and there is a pair of elderly people to take care of, and they also have to pay rent every month. Compared with other friends, the couple's life is actually very poor.
But when interacting with people, friends are still very generous, going to friends' homes is always carried in large bags, and friends are too willing to go after seeing them. In fact, is it really necessary?
There is an old saying: "Etiquette is light and affection is heavy".
In fact, the friend who looks up to you will never measure the feelings between you by the weight of the gift. Conversely, if a person doesn't consider you a friend, even if you take more things, the other person may not cherish you.
Entering middle age, the most important thing to do is not to be "poor and generous" in front of others. Instead, you should find your own position and pay more attention to your family. When your family life is thriving, it will be truly admired.
There are different stages in life.
In the young years, we must work hard to forge ahead.
When you meet a noble person who carries you, you must have the wisdom of certainty and need to treat it with a grateful attitude.
When the years grow older and the middle age is ushered in, friends must have a new enlightenment. After middle age, we should not be "poor and generous", do not let ourselves fall into an embarrassing situation for the sake of face, and tell the big truth.
Even if you help others, everyone should do what they can, don't "punch the swollen face and fill the fat".
People who really treat you as friends never care about the weight and amount of your gifts.
Deliberately trying to please others will not win good popularity, nor will it help you meet real friends. Especially when you are down, don't pin your hopes on human relations.
After entering the ranks of adults, everyone should find their own life positioning. Take time out to spend more time with your family and focus on what you're good at. In this way, you can find the motivation to persevere and win the day of situation change.
Author: Zhou Woodman, an emotional cultivator with an attitude. Write the warmth of the world, read the heart-warming story, and thank you for your company along the way. I only hope that the years are quiet, the clouds are light and the wind is light, and you and I can pour out our heartfelt feelings when we meet in a piece of text.