The anchor reads the classics and accompanies you to say goodnight, hello everyone! Here is the lightning night reading, I am Yucheng Rong Media anchor Pang Weiwei, tonight to share with you Mr. Ji Xianlin's essay "Warm, indispensable atmosphere of the family".
In the vast world, all sentient beings, except for those who have seen through the red dust and become monks, will have a home. When it comes to home, people will involuntarily ripple a little warmth, a sense of happiness.
It is also impossible not to do so. Whether it is a single employee or a dual employee, he works in a variety of places such as government agencies, schools, companies, factories, shops, etc. during the day. Whether it is mental or physical labor, it will take great strength to cope with complicated situations, meet people with different personalities, and sometimes exhaust themselves. There is a saying: "Unsatisfactory things are often eight or nine." "Where will everything satisfy you?" After work, like a tired bird returning to its nest, with a tired body and full of joy, I returned to my home. It's a real place to live, and the main thing people pray for here is warmth. If there are parents, they ask the elderly for warmth, and the old and the young feel warm; those who have children, talk with their children, and the parents and children feel warm; the husband and wife say a few whispers, and both men and women feel warm. When it is also the time, the tiredness of the body and mind during the day, the occasional resentment in the heart, the occasional setback at work or in competition, a little nail in the handling of affairs or interpersonal relations, and so on, will disappear, and in its place is the pleasure of melting. In short, what I feel is a warmth that cannot be expressed in any language.
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You can also wear casual nobility and fall into the shape. The mask that sometimes had to be worn outside during the day can be completely shaken off. Some have to pretend in order to adapt to the so-called politeness of coping with advances and retreats, and they can all be thrown away, and you can be returned to your original face, round and unhindered, pure and true. Has the joy of the world been better than this? All this comes from a real home from within the family.
But is every family warm and at your fingertips? No, no, absolutely not. Although there is a husband and wife relationship and a blood relationship (parent-child relationship) in the family, all these relationships cannot guarantee that a warm atmosphere will inevitably appear. As the saying goes, pots and pans collide. Everyone's temper is different, hobbies are different, habits are different, beliefs are different, and people are living, moody and sad, sometimes there are sudden changes, emotional instability, especially in front of their relatives, it is easier to show it. Sometimes a small matter of sesame green beans will also disagree, and it will not be handled legally, and it can also produce discord. Every day, no one can guarantee that this will not happen.
So, what should we do? From my personal point of view, it is extremely difficult to deal with such a family affair that is difficult for officials to judge, and it is quite difficult to say that it is not difficult. As long as the words "true" and "forbearance" can be achieved, although they are not in the middle, they are not far away. "True" people, true feelings also. "Ninja", tolerance also. I summarized it into a few words: mutual affection, mutual sincerity, mutual understanding, mutual tolerance, true affection, no selfishness, family harmony, and boundless happiness.
One may not understand why I have emphasized tolerance to such a high level. You know, tolerance is one of the Chinese virtues. Most of our sages taught us to tolerate. In folk proverbs, there are also many contents of tolerance, teaching people to tolerate. Some statements, which seem negative, actually have positive significance. The Book of Tang records that Zhang Gongyi lived together, and Emperor Gaozong of Tang asked him about the way of the Mu clan, and Gongyi wrote more than a hundred "forbearance" characters and handed them to the emperor. Since then, the surname Zhang Duo has appointed himself as "Hundred Ninja Family Voices". The Buddhists also attach great importance to the essence of forbearance, and there are many stories of immortals who endure humiliation in the sutras. As the saying goes: "If you can't bear it, you will plot big." In the family, it is "a small family that cannot bear it." Between husband and wife, parents, children, sometimes it is inevitable to have different opinions, if one party has a little temper, you let him (her) a little, the storm can be calmed. After his or her mentality is balanced, he or she will admit his mistake. At this time, if you are not calm, angry, light mouth, heavy hands, may eventually sue the court, the verdict of divorce. Isn't it sad! The same is true between parents and siblings. As a result, a good family will fall apart. This will affect your temporary emotions at worst, and affect your future in life. Am I being alarmist?
In short, warmth is an indispensable atmosphere for the family, and warmth needs to be cultivated. The way of cultivation is not out of two ends, one is true and one is forbearance.
About the Author
Ji Xianlin (6 August 1911 – 11 July 2009) was a Native of Linqing, Liaocheng City, Shandong Province, China. Internationally renowned orientalist, linguist, writer, sinologist, Buddhist scholar, historian, educator and social activist. He has served as a member of the Department of Philosophy and Social Sciences of the Chinese Academy of Sciences, honorary president of Liaocheng University, vice president of Peking University, director of the Institute of South Asian Studies of the Chinese Academy of Social Sciences, and a tenured professor of Peking University. In his early years, he studied abroad, spoke English, German, Sanskrit, Pali, could read Russian and French, and was especially proficient in Tocharian (an independent language in the Indo-European language family with the widest distribution in the contemporary world), and was one of the only scholars in the world who were proficient in this language. For "the study of Sanskrit, Buddhism, and Tocharian, and the study of Chinese literature, comparative literature, and literary and art theory Qi Fei", his works were compiled into the "Collected Works of Ji Xianlin", a total of 24 volumes. Before his death, he wrote three laurels: Master of Traditional Chinese Studies, Titan of Academia, and National Treasure.
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