Two people with hearts together, quarrel, no heart together, two people with different thoughts, not quarrelsome will also disperse.
Although the reason is so, but get along still need to pay attention to the way, the way is in place, the communication can be in place, the communication in place to communicate the heart can be easy, after the heart to get along can be at ease and stable.
Today, I picked out a very meaningful question from the private messages you sent me, which should help some friends.
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For young people, in most cases, it is based on feelings, by the degree of like, by feelings, and like each other, even if there is some problem, it can be finally eliminated.
But for most people, there are many exquisite problems of getting along, such as the three views problem we often say, the communication problem and so on.
In other words, there will be contradictions when there are problems, and contradictions are also divided into subjective contradictions and objective contradictions, but whether subjective or objective, as long as the contradictions can be well resolved, it is a good thing for getting along, not a bad thing.
We can't say that two people often have contradictions together, which is a bad thing, nor can we say that two people don't have contradictions together, which must be a good thing.
The results of handling contradictions are directly related to the quality of getting along, and if they are handled well, the quality of getting along will slowly become better, and if they are not handled well, contradictions will accumulate, and the quality of getting along will naturally decline.
Today we have chosen to revisit the contradiction between the two constellations.
One is Virgo and one is Scorpio.
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People who get along with Virgos, there are generally contradictions between getting along, basically for several reasons, either the Virgo self, or the Virgo's own living standards, or it is a real problem.
This is a very targeted question, let's start with the first, Virgo self, the clichéd problem, a Virgo does not ego but can not say it, many Virgos themselves can also recognize this, can accept it calmly.
The second question, Virgo's own living standards, this is a detailed problem, you have to get along with Virgo, slowly you will find this type of problem, such as what to put, what clothes how to wear, how to match, what standards to eat and so on.
The details may be a small problem for you, but in the eyes of Virgo, it is not a small problem, after all, to get along with you, so this problem has become a "everyone" problem, and the standard has become the standard of "everyone".
As for the last practical problem, you don't have to spend energy and time on this, if there is too much gap in reality, it is generally uneven.
In summary, the most likely contradiction with Virgo is the first two questions, and you must keep in mind the logic of these two issues.
Let's go on to the core point, Virgo can endure, but also like to observe, such as finding that you have done something wrong with her, he will remember.
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Sometimes you may wonder why he found out what you did wrong and you ignored it and he didn't bring it up? Not surprisingly, it's not time yet.
I have said before that Virgos will settle accounts before and after, and when they think they can bear it, they will endure it, and when they can't bear it, they will give you all the evidence inside and out, and then reason with you.
Why do you say that you have to have a number in mind when you get along with Virgo, the reason is here, two people need to run into each other in one piece, and the run-in is also "fighting", and the fight must be counted in your heart.
Of course, do not make a pejorative understanding of this, "fighting" does not mean that you deliberately target the other party, treat the other party as an enemy, and the fight does not affect your good for the other party, which is the meaning of a hole card.
So on the other hand, if when you get along with Virgo, you don't count in your mind, and often engage in some problems, such as looking for things, the Virgo will settle accounts with you one day after that.
Then this time it "squeezes" you down, and you can understand what this means, so all you have to do is control yourself before you have enough certainty and evidence, and don't argue with Virgo before you count.
Otherwise, this is the way to seek "death", and when they settle their accounts after the autumn, they will "suppress" you at one time, and you will be uncomfortable.
In the same way, the logic of this way of resolving contradictions can also be used to solve the problem of the Virgo self, and if you can't grasp it, then I can only say that you may not be very suitable for Virgo.
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Compared with the rational right thing of Virgo, Scorpio people are emotional and rational together, so here in Scorpio, there is also a common "temptation" move.
Moreover, Scorpio's temptation will not make you feel deliberate, and anyone who has been with this sign should know that when Scorpio is looking for trouble, it often happens after some of your unconscious actions.
However, young Scorpio, the more insensitive Scorpio may have an attack when it finds some clues, and the mature Scorpio will basically not attack at that time, but will attack the next time you make a mistake.
Why? The reason is not complicated, Scorpio but if he does not have a seizure at that time, it means that his sanity is working, and the next time you make a mistake, it is for you to "have nothing to say, nothing to say." ”
There is also a core point about this matter, such as Scorpio finding out that you don't care, finding that you don't have him in your heart, finding that some of the things you did hurt him, and then putting up with it for a while and finally having a seizure.
Ordinary people encounter this kind of problem, look at people angry, make a contradiction, most will coax, will apologize and admit mistakes, and finally find that there is no use, especially people who have apologized several times or many times.
Why didn't it work? Because you don't count in your heart, do you think that Scorpio wants an apology, or admits mistakes?
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If you think so, then I'm still the old saying that you may not be a good Scorpio person.
Scorpio wants attitude and sincerity at this time, just like Scorpio thinks you don't care about him, which means that he must have found something that you don't care about him, or words and deeds, and not only once or twice.
So does your explanation make sense? No, there is no point in apologizing and admitting mistakes, you should think carefully, whether you care or not in your heart, if you care, you will take the attitude of caring, and pay attention to words and deeds afterwards.
If you don't care, you admit it, don't explain it, don't argue, this is the attitude, but this is not the "death" road, because you don't care at the moment, does not mean that you will not care about it in the future, and you will not learn how to treat a person well.
There are a few points in the heart, do not care is not to care, wrong is wrong, Scorpio people can accept such a fact, as long as they get better and develop well, which will give Scorpio a sense of security.
But if you argue, superficially agree, and act without actual action, then you will lose faith, and you will be late to do anything when a Scorpio does not believe you, or increasingly does not believe you.
Then, on the other hand, as long as you have a number in mind, many problems that occur with Scorpio can be solved with attitude, which is a good thing for you to get along.
You yourself will also find that the contradiction is resolved once and twice, and your feelings are becoming more and more stable.
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