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Watching many issues of "Goodbye Lover", my favorite female guest is Guo Keyu.
Guo Keyu gives me the feeling that it is very tasteful, she is the kind that does not look beautiful at first glance, but look closely, you will feel that she is more and more enduring, beauty in the bone rather than in the skin, Guo Keyu's beauty is the beauty in the bones, although the face has the traces of age, but a smile is so tasteful and temperamental.
She is very calm and sincere, in the show she often does not apply powder, so naturally and generously facing the camera, without hiding anything. The occasional playfulness will make you think she's so cute. Guo Keyu is literary and artistic, and if you look at her alone, you will feel that she is a person with a very rich life level.
Guo Keyu's eyes are very beautiful, very attractive, and her eyes are very expressive.
With the broadcast of "Goodbye Lover", the call for Zhang He and Guo Keyu to remarry is getting higher and higher, and even on Weibo there are super words between the two of them, it is reasonable to say that these two people have divorced and should not be involved anymore, but netizens see that the interaction between them is so sweet, it is hard to bump into the pair of divorced CP.
But after the latest episode of the program was broadcast, the wind evaluation of Guo Keyu on the Internet changed, and some netizens accused Guo Keyu of being too green tea, saying that since she had no feelings for her ex-husband, why did she pick him up during the trip? He also said that since Guo Keyu felt that he had no love with Zhang He, it was not too disrespectful to choose to marry and then divorce and participate in the show.
All in all, this kind of crowd is a sentence: a man like Zhang He is such a good man, what does Guo Keyu do, and a man who is so good as Zhang He does not want to, is it difficult for you to find a better man than Zhang He at your age?
I would like to say that just because Teacher Shen Yifei came to give a quiz to several guests, you said Guo Keyu Green Tea, that is because you are too shallow, just by a few words of a person to conclude that she is not a person, is it too arbitrary. Perhaps in your opinion, this life can find a close partner, have a good marriage, life is considered complete. But what I want to tell you is that everyone's definition of life is different, and it is not necessary to have a married life to be complete.
A woman like Guo Keyu, she has experienced a heart-wrenching love, experienced a marriage that consumes herself, she is also seriously ill, Guo Keyu can be reborn, she wants to have herself again, let herself live well. This is not selfishness, but self-love.
Everyone's relationship with life is different, some people just live, and people like Guo Keyu are experiencing life and the meaning of life, and she emphasizes the experience of life, which is a sensory feeling. People at this level of Guo Keyu no longer need marriage to enrich their lives, marriage is only internal friction for her, and only divorce is a free release for herself.
Those who were harsh on Guo Keyu really didn't understand her, they were very shallow.
"Goodbye Lover" is nearing the end, is Guo Keyu's filter broken? Is she really a big green tea? I would like to say that netizens should not be too naïve, and they do not have to be so harsh on her.
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<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="15" > Guo Keyu and her predecessor</h1>
Guo Keyu mentioned her ex on the show, she said: "One of my exes, he actually gave me a lot of help emotionally and in all aspects, but he got gout." Because he was also much older, and then I said he hadn't been married and he wasn't in good shape. I said I would take care of him if I needed it. I remember Zhang He said yes at that time, he said I can understand, if you need me, I can also be with you. ”
Zhang He was still quite generous in this matter.
So who is Guo Keyu's predecessor?
I checked a lot of information and learned that the predecessor Guo Keyu said was Zhang Jiarui, the director she had worked with.
Zhang Jiarui filmed "Sun Pigeon" in 1991, when Guo Keyu was only 13 years old and played the heroine of the film. After the two collaborated on this film, they staged a "year-old love". To this end, Guo Keyu's family also sued Zhang Jiarui in court, saying that he had seduced minors.
This relationship has a great impact on Guo Keyu's concept of love, and I didn't quite understand at first that she said that she didn't dare to love, but until I learned about Guo Keyu's relationship, I understood why she built a heavy heart wall for herself. At the age of underage, He once understood what true love is.
Zhang Jiarui had a great influence on her, which directly affected her later view of love and marriage.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="23" > Guo Keyu and Zhang He are in love at first sight</h1>
Guo Keyu described himself as married to Zhang He, saying that he especially wanted to be a mother when he was old, and then felt that Zhang He was very suitable, and the two people immediately got married. I agree with what Teacher Shen Yifei said, they belong to love at first sight marriage, the so-called flash marriage is not no love, but love at first sight.
Two people must have a love, but in marriage, because they soon gave birth to children, this feeling was transferred to the children before they could be managed. Zhanghe's emotional needs are also very high, because Zhanghe does not have a mother, so he needs more emotional care. But because Guo Keyu is influenced by her original family, she will not cater to and please men, she is good at concealing herself, and she does not like to express her emotions. Because of the imbalance between emotional needs and giving, the distance between the two of them gradually drifted apart.
It's not that there is no love, it's just that this kind of love is too short-lived, and it quickly translates into affection.
They are very polite to each other, if this is a little more complaining, can quarrel, maybe the marriage will not be so happy. But what are you afraid of? I am afraid that two people living under the same roof as a roommate are so strange, so that such a marriage is an internal friction for each other, which will make people feel physically and mentally exhausted.
If a big fight can also release the dissatisfaction, but even the quarrel is not noisy, then you can only torture yourself and let love die in a quiet relationship, which is the most terrible.
Guo Keyu at the beginning is trying to be a virtuous wife, she personally takes care of her children to take care of her husband, but she likes to pay attention to details, but also likes to share details, but Zhang He is thick lines, the two of them communicate at one level every time, over time, Guo Keyu will not have the desire to talk, and her heart wall will be difficult to be broken.
Neither of them made too many mistakes, but the way the two people loved was wrong, plus the original emotional foundation was not very strong, so they gradually became the most familiar strangers.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="31" > Guo Keyu was also influenced by his original family</h1>
Why did Guo Keyu fall in love with Zhang Jiarui? It is also related to his original family.
Her parents divorced, her father later remarried, and Guo Keyu lived with her mother.
The marriage of her parents, Guo Keyu said in an interview with "People", her mother also did not understand her father, "Like my father, who can he go to?" He felt utterly lonely and incomprehensible, very depressed. My mother was also very poor, my mother had been reading when she was young, just to be able to walk into him. Later on, my dad was very emotional, and my mom and I often didn't know what we were doing wrong, and he became unhappy. He installed a special entrance lock in his room."
It is very strange, why should you be so defensive of your wife and children?
This is something that ordinary people cannot understand.
Literary and artistic youth have always been very sensitive, they are easy to think more, and their emotions are more complicated.
Guo Keyu is still a little similar to her father, her father has set up a heart wall, and she herself, why not? What Guo Keyu needs is the man who can understand her, but Zhang He is obviously very big, and he may not be able to really coordinate with her. All we see on the show is an eighteen-day trip, rather short, not necessarily the real thing about themselves. We cannot simply rely on these eighteen days to conclude that we can live happily for the rest of our lives, and if we can, we will not divorce.
Guo Keyu seems to be very gentle, but have you noticed that she is a very wild and rebellious girl inside, her ideas are so different, she is a woman who really perceives her own life.
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<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="41" > a turning point in Guo Keyu's life and a serious illness</h1>
One night in December 2016, Guo Keyu collapsed in a bed in the United States, dizzy and frightened, when she was in the same foreign land as her 4-year-old son, and if anything happened to her, what would happen to her son. The local hospital gave her a full-body examination, but she eventually decided to return to her home country for medical treatment.
After returning to Beijing, a hospital diagnosed her with heart problems. For the next eight months, she began to take the medicine regularly, and then because of the side effects, she directly gained 30 pounds.
Guo Keyu described himself as ill in an interview with People:
"At that time, I always dreamed of jumping on the leather band when I was a child. My body may know that it can't be so comfortable anymore, so I keep dreaming like that. I cut my hair very short, gained weight in an instant, partly because of my medication, and couldn't exercise. Even with the simplest of erlang's legs, I had to laboriously carry one leg to the other with my hands. When I was the fattest, I was a full thirty or forty pounds fatter, and when I walked, the flesh of my two legs was "snapping" and squeezing into each other. There are a lot of clothes that I can't even wear without taking off the tag, and they don't belong to me. I had a real sense of guilt, and it was something out of my body. When I go to the hospital, I just take a plastic bag, put my phone and car keys, and if I am a little heavier, I will feel that this is uncomfortable. I thought, are those designer bags useful?
I often get up at four or five o'clock in the morning to go to the hospital to queue up for registration. I think that if I carry medicine for life in the future, I also recognize it, it was too smooth before, there was a highlight moment, and it was time to be satisfied. Why should you get everything in life? ”
Guo Keyu has experienced so much, but she has never said this paragraph on the show, she was so difficult at that time, she did not blame Zhang He for taking good care of herself, never said anything.
I have always felt that Guo Keyu gave Zhang He enough decency, and she never said that Zhang He was bad, which would cause some netizens to think that Zhang He was so good.
On why divorce?
She said: "After a heart problem, a lot of things become inadequate. Before, I was all hands-on to take care of the children, take care of the husband, and deal with the trivial things at home. That time forced me to put down my phone and let go of all the things that were related to my family. At that time, I didn't want to see the child, and the child was handed over to my mother to bring. I go back to the house at 7 o'clock in the evening, read a book or stretch out alone, sit for a while, I want to be alone with myself, filter the feelings of the day, and at night I will not touch the mobile phone, no one should look for me. There's something particularly big you call me. I need this, I'm going to tell me that I'm myself, I'm going to talk to myself.
This is the revelation of a disease, that I am going to respect myself. It is precisely because of this illness that I am more determined to end this marriage, to end a state of discomfort that everyone is bound to each other, and I want to use myself better. ”
She's going to deal with her relationship with herself.
Marriage is internal and unhappy for her, so she must end the marriage, which is why she told Zhang He's third aunt that she would never be able to remarry. It took a while to get divorced, is it difficult to return to the previous state?
Don't want to go back, unhappy marriages are all bondage for each other.
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Don't be harsh on Guo Keyu, you are not her, nor have you experienced her suffering, what right do you have to question her?
For someone who "died once", she just wants to make herself live well.
In the past, she gave up her job for the sake of her children, and even bent on marriage without love, she tried to make herself a virtuous wife, but she found that she tried her best, but she still could not go to the depths of the other party's heart, and the other party could not enter. Simply give up, just want to live for yourself, experience and perceive life.
We have come to this experience so hard, not for the sake of marriage and children, the so-called life in the end is only experience and perception, some people are just alive, and some people have a richer and more layered sense of life. We have no right to question the way others live, and no one is more noble than anyone else, just respect.
I still like Guo Keyu, she is a very spirited woman.
Bless her and hope she will live well in her own way.
As for marriage, it is good that there is no one, and she still has a very complete life.
Today's topic: Can you understand Guo Keyu? Is she green tea? Welcome to leave a message.
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★ Author: YIBAO; emotional original author, writing about the warm emotional affairs of this world.