When we are young, we ask to say that we are a little extroverted and lively, so that when we go out, there will be no lack of friends, and we will not be too introverted to do things.
Indeed, when we go out, we are more willing to make friends with those who are cheerful, and in three words, we will have the feeling of drinking less than a thousand glasses of wine for our confidants, and every chat has a sense of happiness.
On the other hand, those who are introverts, they are like gold, they don't like to deal with each other much, and they don't like the atmosphere of groups of three or five.
Most of the time, they don't say a word, we have no idea what they're thinking, and talking to them is often in a very awkward situation.
As a result, we prefer extroverts, and for those who are silent, we are not willing to spend more time to contact, so as not to be embarrassed.
However, the development of things has always required a dialectical way of thinking to see, we look at a thing, we can not only look at the surface and one side, but to take into account the overall situation.
So, you know what? In fact, the more "silent" people are, the more powerful people are.
"Silent" people, used to enjoy solitude
Thoreau, the author of Walden, once said: "I went into the jungle because I wanted to live meaningfully, I wanted to live deeply and absorb all the essence of life." Then learn from it so that at the end of my life, I find that I have never lived. ”
What can determine a person's mood is not the environment, but the state of mind.
Some people are in the group, or feel that they do not have their own place, and their hearts are empty;
Some people stay in their rooms and feel that their spiritual world is so rich that there are so many things that can make them feel happy.
In fact, solitude and loneliness are also two states in the original sense.
One is that they can't stand the loneliness of no one around, even if they are gregarious, they still can't find their inner belonging;
One is that it doesn't matter how many people there are, even if there is no friend, they are happy.
They can do what they like to do, do housework, learn a new song, do a handiwork, these things, can make them feel unparalleled happiness.
That's because they enjoy the solitude of the moment, and that's because they enjoy this solitude without being disturbed.
The heart is at peace, the mind is at peace, and people are naturally happy.
"Silent" people, know how to control their "mouth"
I have seen a public welfare case: a charter wife looks fierce and evil, and as soon as she enters the vegetable market, she yells at the tenants.
She yelled at one of the tenants, and the scene was filmed and posted online.
Subsequently, some unknown melon eaters began to hit the keyboard, frantically attacking the charter wife, and some people attacked her appearance.
But is the truth of the matter really like what is shown in the video?
No.
The reason why the charter wife reprimands the tenant is that she finds that he is shoddy and deceives consumers, so he will treat her with that attitude.
After learning the truth, a large group of people began to praise the charter wife for her kindness, which was in sharp contrast with the previous one-sided criticism, which was ridiculous and ironic.
Some people have learned to speak in a few months, but they have never learned to shut up in their lifetime.
Unknown full picture, no comment, but the truth of the eight words, many people do not understand at all.
Those who are "silent", they know that sometimes seeing is not necessarily believing, they also know what kind of lethality a sentence will bring to others, they all know.
So, they never judge a person casually.
People who are "silent" are not ringing, and they are already a hit
Sometimes, when we decide to do something, we habitually say it and let others know about it.
But in fact, such an approach will make us invisibly form the illusion that we have completed this matter, so as to regard empty talk as practice.
We feel that if we talk to others about our goals, we will be supervised by others, but we don't know that everyone has their own things to be busy with, and there is no time to take care of us.
This is how the "noisy" person deals with the matter of promoting himself, and the "silent" person is not like this.
They don't tell anyone what they're going to do, they just wear the stars and wear the moon, work hard, be down-to-earth, and go step by step.
The process may be difficult, but "silent" people automatically block out the noisy sounds outside, they know what they want and what they should do.
In the book "The Power of Tranquility", there is a saying: "The more peaceful we are, the more efficient we are." The most intractable problems can only be solved by calming the mind. ”
They have no distractions, they carry the burden, they forge ahead, such people have a firm self. So, they can easily reach success and accumulate a lot of money.