In this life, no one will have a smooth life, we will always stumble on this road of life, fall over, get up and continue to move forward. Life is difficult, whether it is study, work, or life, or love, there are always things that cannot be let go of your heart.
Every decision we make with courage is based on the best of illusions. Choosing a job, we imagine that if we work hard, we will definitely make a lot of money. Choosing a relationship, we think that as long as we are really good to him, we will definitely be able to go to the whitehead.
All the beautiful imaginations of everything often cannot withstand the blows of life, and we want to choose again, but there is no regret medicine in this world, and life cannot be repeated. Those unavoidable happiness and happiness, regret to miss or not, are all destined to experience in this life.
The same is true in love. Two people who originally loved each other, experienced the four seasons together, witnessed each other's growth, and you always thought that he was the person you were going to walk hand in hand in this life.
But then, one day, when I heard the other person say, "Let's go our separate ways." Or when the other party doesn't say a word, disappears out of thin air, and never finds him again, you find that all this came so unexpectedly.
Too many shared memories appear before your eyes, and they play like movies, fast-forwarding, rewinding, looping. You can't forget the man who brought you sweetness and finally pain.
However, if people are immersed in memories and pain every day, then life cannot move forward. People always have to learn to break away, so as not to carry the weight forward.
In fact, the most important reason why you can't put down a person is that you haven't made up your mind fiercely. If you're determined to forget the past, then the best way is with only three words: no contact.
Delete, delete all contacts and memories
While true letting go doesn't simply mean deleting contact information, I think this is the first step to letting go of someone.
The bits and pieces of life that have been lived, the photos taken, the transcripts of the text, and the testimonies of the videos are all memories that two people can share when you are together.
But now that man is gone, he no longer dwells on how gentle and sensible you are, and as he said, he is tired, and his heart is no longer surging anymore. So I chose to be separated from you.
Since the other party has been so determined, why do you have to force yourself into that memory. Watching and thinking every day will only make it more and more difficult for yourself to extricate yourself.
Delete all, contact, memory credentials. Because of this, you will not be tempted to look at him again when you look at your phone.
The feelings that are destined to end, the sooner they leave, the best protection for themselves.
Divert, divert attention from him, do what you like
When you focus all your attention on one thing, it's hard to start a new life. At this time, the best way for you is to make a plan for what you didn't have time to do before, but you want to do, and then start to implement.
For example, in the past, because of his existence, you gave up the trip you had made an appointment with friends for him. During the trip, you can see the mountains and the sea, strange rocks and strange scenery, you can empty your mind, broaden your horizons, let your whole body and mind be relaxed, and thus abandon your troubles.
Then you can go to your friend now and ask for her forgiveness, because at this time, the friend is your most solid backing.
Friends will help you not think about negative things, will take you back to the happy times of crazy play before.
You can also start your running plan, when two people are together, you have a biological clock disorder every day, against the danger of being late for work the next day, but also for him to chat all night, those bad habits make your body start to eat.
When sweating makes you focus on running, you'll know the sense of accomplishment that exercise brings you, it makes your fat burner, and it makes your body healthier.
Doing what you love with your heart can not only change yourself, but also divert your attention and give yourself the courage to accept a new life.
Accept, accept the fact of breaking up, in order to gradually release this relationship
Bai Luomei wrote in the book "Because I Understand, So Compassionate": "This is a world of chaos, bustling, coming and going, only by letting go, can you be at ease." ”
Some friends in life are always unable to accept the fact that they have been broken up, choose to humblely ask each other to be reunited, or use some extreme means to try to win back each other's hearts. In doing so, in the end, it can only make the other party more disgusted.
Think differently, if you no longer love that person, no matter how hard the other person tries, you are full of thoughts about how to leave, because you know that you are no longer possible. So again, learning to accept the facts and letting go in time is the wisest choice.
In just a few decades of life, the most important thing to waste is love and time.
You have to understand that breaking up does not mean that you are a failure, this person no longer loves you, can not see the shining point in you, does not mean that everyone can not see, there are so many people in this world, we have to come out as soon as possible, there will always be another person who can see all your good, willing to accompany you to see the long stream.
Emotional Message:
We will meet many people, some people accompany us for a while, some people sit with us for a stop, and not everyone can stay around consistently from the beginning to the end.
Life is destined to be just passers-by, they give us an experience, teach us to grow, let us know what we need more.