In the eyes of her parents, it is natural for her sister to help her brother. In the countryside where feudal ideas are pervasive, this situation is not strange, but it can help for a while, it cannot help for a lifetime, but parents will forcibly instill this idea into the cognition of the sister.
And the Fu Di Demon is the product of son preference. From the subtle influence from childhood to adulthood, to the continuous moral kidnapping from parents and relatives the day after tomorrow, the sister helped the younger brother became a habit, laying the foundation for the younger brother to reach out to the sister's clothes and open his mouth to eat.
But when my sister was kidnapped by this kind of morality, she didn't know her situation. Although they are highly educated, they do not think that this kind of self-serving behavior is stupid, and even feel complacent about their actions, not knowing whether it is sad or ridiculous.
It can't be said that it is wrong to help the younger brother, and the sister spoils the younger brother too much, wants to make the younger brother as happy as others, but uses the wrong method and becomes a demon.
Liu Mei and her younger brother Liu Jun have a deep affection.
Liu Mei's eldest brother is 8 years old, because his parents often go out to work, let his sister take care of his younger brother at home, that is to say, his sister grew up with his younger brother, so he loves his younger brother more.
Liu Mei, who came from a poor family, studied hard, was admitted to a key university, and entered a large company after graduation.
In order to thank his parents for their nurturing grace, he gave most of his salary to his parents to subsidize the family and provide for his younger brother to study.
In fact, Liu Mei has experienced a short marriage, but who can endure a person who often helps her brother, normal mutual help, should be back and forth, not unilateral payment, and finally the two people are divorced.
My sister built a new house in her hometown and helped my brother buy a new car.
For her brother, she always responds to everything she wants, the money for her brother to fall in love is hers, and she still helps her brother pay a large part of the dowry for marriage, in order to make her brother happier.
The younger brother had to need a job for the sake of the family, and his parents called his sister to arrange for him to work in his sister's company. Distressed by his brother's sister, he asked his brother to work for the company.
After a year at the company, he approached his sister and hoped that she would give him a chance to be promoted.
The sister ignored it, and when she saw that her brother's favorite position had failed, the sister kept comforting her brother, asking him to work well first, and there would be opportunities in the future, and the sister hoped that he could rely on his own efforts in exchange for work opportunities.
But the younger brother ignored it and still blamed his sister for not helping him.
In order to show her guilt, the sister gave her brother a lot of living expenses every month. But how can money measure emotions, it's just pushing itself step by step.
The sister fell in love again, and it was Zhang Tao's persistence and meticulous concern that finally touched her, and the two decided to get married.
But the younger brother did not say, however, he did not like his sister to remarry, perhaps he was afraid that his sister would no longer help him.
The younger brother, who has nothing to do at home, has a lot of bad habits, leaving a lot of mess, and his wife is very disappointed in him and is ready for divorce.
After learning of the situation, her mother called her sister and hoped that she would wipe her brother's ass so that her brother and wife would not be separated.
The sister and her husband discussed, hoping to help the younger brother. Zhang Tao felt that Liu Jun had too many vices, and if he helped him solve them all, he would certainly not repent, so it was better to let his brother have a long memory first, so that he could understand his sister's good intentions.
At the repeated insistence of his sister, the husband gave the money from the sale of things to his brother.
But after the younger brother received the money, he was not grateful, and thought that he deserved it, thinking that it was because the brother-in-law obstructed it, the sister did not give the money to himself, and said that the brother-in-law was with the sister for the money.
Not long after, the New Year, the sister prepared some gifts, ready to go home, the younger brother who heard the news was not happy, the sister hoped that the family would be harmonious and bring her husband home.
After returning home, the sister asked the village committee to mediate, the younger brother did not attend, and said that he was not at fault, and everything was caused by the sister.
The sister finally realized her mistake, it turned out that after so many years, she was not helping her brother, but let her brother become what he is now.
The younger brother's indisputable anger, so it is reasonable to spend the sister's money, may wait until the sister can not afford to provide, the blood is overdrawn, will suddenly wake up, the terrible thing is that she has adapted to this environment and life.
There is nothing wrong with kindness, it depends on who your kindness is to, and some people help to talk about love, not duty.
It may support Liu Mei's love for her brother, which is exactly the affection that blood is thicker than water.
No one will refuse and help the family, but Liu Mei's love for her husband seems to be less, if you want to help your brother, you would prefer to help the gang before marriage, because of helping your brother and divorce, it seems to be a problem, this problem can not be solved, because it is a bottomless pit.
Like Liu Jun, if you always take the kindness of others to you for granted, it is a selfish thought. In this world, no one owes anyone, but if you always take and don't give, there will be no action.
For this situation, many girls are willing, but the seed has long been rooted in the heart, and now it is just a leaf. It may also not be leafy, but entangled. There is nothing wrong with helping the younger brother, but if it is the public property of the husband and wife, it should be decided after the consent of both husband and wife.
Relatives are in an emergency, not in poverty, and everything pays attention to a degree.
"Voldemort" often has some fluke psychology, thinking that only when helping his brother, his parents will have a good face, so he will tell himself again and again, as long as he is better than his brother, give his brother better, help his brother for a lifetime.
So we have to start by learning to refuse, live our own lives, and cut off some moral kidnapping. Some family affection does not need to be maintained with money.
If you want to help your brother, it is better to use actions to tell him what is the right way to survive, and it is better to teach people to fish than to teach people to fish. What he needs is to get more happiness through his own hands.
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