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The Beijing Winter Olympics touted two new top brats: Gu Ailing and Su Yiming.
With the continuous improvement of their popularity, the two people's path to becoming talents has also been continuously pickpocketed and reported by the media.
Self-media writers have followed their examples and tried to dig out some replicable qualities from their stories for ordinary people to learn from and learn from.
But many people say that the analogy of a talented person with a good family has no practical significance for ordinary people.
So, today I will tell you the story of an ordinary person.
The protagonist of the story is called Zhang Jiahao.
01
In 2012, 17-year-old Zhang Jiahao graduated from vocational high school.
Because his father was a pastry chef, Zhang Jiahao, who accepted his father's arrangement, inherited his father's business and joined a bakery in a five-star hotel.
After that, he began to work the night shift again and again, beating noodles, waking up noodles, kneading dough...
Slowly, his skills became more and more sophisticated, and he could make thousands of loaves of bread all night.
But that's just his profession, not his passion.
Outside of work, he often went to roller skating, and thus met a group of friends who played extreme sports.
By chance, he saw a video of him playing skiing, was hooked, and decided to start his snowboarding journey.
However, the sport is extremely expensive, and the snow ticket on the weekend of January 8 days alone costs 800 yuan, not to mention the expensive equipment cost.
When the intern salary of the baker is only 1200 yuan per month, in order to support his hobby, Zhang Jiahao can only save money and donate all his savings to skiing.
After a year of skating, Zhang Jiahao bought his first ski.
Finally, one day, he was able to fly into the air and spin.
In 2014, he decided to quit his job as a pastry chef to become a professional skier.
However, most professional players start to start and train at the age of three or four, and they have begun to participate in world-class competitions as teenagers. Those who perform well have even become world champions.
Zhang Jiahao, who was only exposed to skiing at the age of 17, seemed to start a little late. Moreover, he was not yet the one who was gifted.
What's more, because there is no money, Zhang Jiahao can't afford to hire a coach.
There is no way, he can only eat soil to save, himself as a coach, immerse himself in researching online videos, decompose his own actions, and seize the opportunity to desperately ask for advice when he meets an expert.
Fortunately, kung fu pays off.
In 2014, Zhang Jiahao participated in international ski events and successfully won the ranking.
With a prize of $300, he happily and proudly hung the bonus check at home for a long time.
The following year, he competed again in domestic competitions and finished runners-up. The prize money is 8000 yuan.
It was also in that year that he heard that the 2022 Winter Olympics would be held on his doorstep, and he decided to prepare for the Olympics.
02
In order to be able to stand shoulder to shoulder with the world's top masters at the Winter Olympics, Zhang Jiahao began to participate in the competition more desperately and accumulate experience.
His grades are getting better and better, but he has also suffered more and more injuries, with 2 lung breaks, 2 concussions, 1 radius fracture in both hands, and 10 stitches on the lips.
Although his injury has improved again and again, it is still difficult to get a ticket to the Beijing Winter Olympics.
Because he has no organization, he can only rely on himself.
The host country of the Winter Olympics has a privileged place that requires players to earn 50 FIS points and participate in a World Cup match.
Zhang Jiahao could only seize this opportunity.
Therefore, starting from 2020, Zhang Jiahao took a five-star red flag and went to the stadiums around the world alone to save points and began to play for his Winter Olympic dream.
The language barrier, fighting alone, exhausting physical strength after the game, and having to cook your own food are unimaginable.
In September last year, Zhang Jiahao's Winter Olympic sprint was almost half completed, and the points were saved to 39.95.
In Chile, he also achieved a good result of one gold, one silver and two bronze.
Last November, Zhang Arrived in the Netherlands to compete in his final battle.
This battle is the key battle to determine whether he can get tickets to the Winter Olympics.
But unfortunately, he failed.
The moment he landed, he did not stand still and fell heavily into the snow. At the age of 26, he has no chance of the Winter Olympics.
Some people feel sorry for it, but I feel that although his trip to the Winter Olympics has "failed", his life has been successful.
Because compared to Gu Ailing, who was born in Rome, his starting point was only a baker in a small bakery.
The brave Zhang Jiahao, however, dared to break through himself, and challenged the ceiling of family achievements with good perseverance and unremitting efforts.
In the end, he not only succeeded in his challenge, but also achieved many dazzling results, and in this regard, he was successful.
Moreover, he was only 26 years old, and no one could predict how far he would eventually go.
03
Compared with the genius girl Gu Ailing, Zhang Jiahao's story seems to be closer to most ordinary people.
So, in his body, what is worth learning and learning from?
In addition to persistence and hard work, I think the most important thing is his love and passion.
When he lived alone as a team in order to prepare for the Olympics, as a doctor, cook and logistics, and went to various countries to compete alone, what force supported him through this long lonely journey?
There is only love, only passion.
Even Gu Ailing, who has the blessing of talent, is also because of her love that she can be invincible in the snow field.
When she was 13 years old, Gu Ailing once gave an interview, and the reporter asked her, will you become a professional skier?
Gu Ailing's answer is: the premise is that it can bring me happiness.
Love is the premise of everything.
There is no love, and talent is only talent, not enough to support her to get to the present.
After all, being a professional athlete means enduring boring training day after day and injuries that are commonplace.
But Gu Ailing believes that tiredness is a physical feeling, and hard work is a concept in the brain.
Training is tiring, but I enjoy it, and I think it's a feeling that everyone feels when they give to their hobbies.
It is this love that allows her to concentrate 100% in the few training hours and focus on challenging difficult moves.
A few days ago, psychological counselor Wu Zhihong shared on Weibo: "Love is an extremely scarce quality. Only love can have internal driving force. ”
After all, people are happy and avoid suffering.
When you encounter something you don't want to do and have to do, you often force yourself to do it in order to complete the task.
If there is no love, the experience in this process is bitter, people are often prone to anxiety, abandonment, and even self-criticism, and the final result of things is difficult to achieve.
On the contrary, if there is love in the heart and the experience of doing things is happy, things will naturally become simpler and more likely to succeed.
04
When a person really likes something, he must be fully committed to doing it.
People who like to swim will feel the feeling of physical contact with the water when swimming, and the wonderful changes in people underwater; people who like to play the cello can hear the subtle differences in timbre between different sounds.
Feeling things with a deep heart is the booster to accelerate improvement.
However, not many people can actually do what they love.
Some people, even never find their love.
Why? Where does love come from?
Daniel Gilbert, a professor of psychology at Harvard University, once proposed a psychological theory called the prediction bias theory, which means:
People make decisions based on their imagination, and when deciding whether to do something or not, the first thing they think about is how they feel about doing it. If the feeling is pleasurable and exciting, we will choose to do it.
However, imagination does not help us accurately predict what we really feel in the future, and it has biases that are often the source of people's unhappiness.
Many people can't find what they love, in fact, it has something to do with imagination bias.
For example, we suddenly have the idea of learning a skill or starting an action, usually because we see others achieve enviable results through learning.
At this time, we unconsciously imagine our feelings of having this kind of achievement, and this good feeling will be transformed into our inner motivation to act.
But the problem is that there is a deviation between the brain's imagination and the real situation, it only predicts the happiness when we get the results, and it does not allow us to predict in advance the setbacks and challenges that we will encounter in the learning process.
And once frustrated in the process because of the lack of success, many people will give up.
Conversely, if we know from the beginning that we will experience difficulties and setbacks and are mentally prepared in advance, then it will not be so easy to give up in the process of learning.
And in the process of persevering, one day we will experience the satisfaction of progress.
Love gradually arose in this process.
At this time, we no longer need to struggle to maintain motivation, because the self-satisfaction we get from it is the best incentive and reward for action.
Love, as a powerful internal driver of action, drives us in the direction of mastery.
Self-media author Susan Kuang said:
When we talk about "things we love", we always like to use the word "search", which reflects the public perception of "love" - thinking that it is a thing that exists in itself, and all we have to do is to find it.
However, this perception is wrong, and the so-called "love thing" is not actually a given, but something that we need to create.
Deeply.
If you want to turn a "3-minute hot thing into a "real love thing", hard work and dedication are indispensable.
Once you put in it, the more you like it, the more you like it, the more you put in it.