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Not long ago, on Valentine's Day, Hu Xing'er posted a photo of her husband dating on Weibo.
In the photo, the two are snuggled close together, and their eyebrows are full of sweetness.
However, after the release of her group of photos, it was complained about by some netizens:
After giving birth, it is really a lot older, white hair, wrinkles, and your husband looks much younger!
There were even people who said evil words to each other, saying, "This big mother's face really disappointed me!" “
It is a bit too much to maliciously judge the postpartum status of others.
You know,
Hu Xing'er is already in her forties, and some gray hair and wrinkles are normal, not to mention that she is still a mother who has given birth to three children.
And because of the postpartum body shape is out of shape, the appearance of aging is ridiculed, Hu Xing'er is not the first.
Previously, after the same frame photo of Gao Yuanyuan Zhao and Ting's family of three was exposed, Gao Yuanyuan was ridiculed by the group.
After many netizens saw this group of photos, they wrote down mean comments:
"Is this the goddess Gao Yuanyuan?" I can't even recognize the old age! ”
"Just having a child, I collapsed into such a body, like a village girl..."
"The figure is so bloated, and it's too old!"
And this malicious speculation, the words are full of ridicule and malicious denigration of a postpartum mother:
"I feel that Zhao Youting will not be able to stand her when she is old."
After giving birth, Gao Yuanyuan is indeed not as slender as before, but this is also the normal state after childbirth, and some people's harsh appearance is really ugly.
Bao Ma, who has the same experience, explains for Gao Yuanyuan:
"At a glance, I knew that Gao Yuanyuan was still breastfeeding.
I didn't dare to look in the mirror when I was breastfeeding because I was easily hungry, ate a lot, and had a hard time controlling my weight.
Eating more is for milk production, and it is certainly not possible to lose weight. ”
There is also Zhang Xinyi, also because she is breastfeeding and cannot lose weight, she is out of shape and is met by passers-by, took photos and posted them on the Internet.
As a result, it can be imagined that it ushered in the crazy spit of netizens, accusing her of not doing image management and being too sloppy to be a star.
In the face of these accusations, Zhang Xinyi can only helplessly send a Weibo response, eager to get more tolerance and respect.
You know, figure loss and facial damage are the pain that women will experience after giving birth.
Whether they are public figures or not, they deserve the respect they deserve as a mother.
Because giving birth to women is undoubtedly one of the most cruel tests on the road of life.
02
How hard is it to have a child?
Only by opening ten fingers can women have a smooth delivery, and what is the concept of opening ten fingers? The following picture may be clear at a glance.
Previously, actor Sha Yi experienced the pain of giving birth to a child in a variety show.
The incremental pain from 0 to 10, to level 8, he could not stop screaming, and the pain of level 10 lasted for a few seconds before stopping the experience.
After the experience, Sha Yi said:
"It's painful like a lot of tractors pressing through your stomach. Hopefully, every husband can fully understand his wife and understand what she has done for the family. ”
And pain is only the first threshold for women to give birth, and those physical injuries caused by childbirth may be accompanied by life:
Leakage of urine, hair loss, cracked nipples, milk blockage, hemorrhoids, visceral sagging, uterine detachment, toe bone separation...
Ella once shared her postpartum feelings in a long post on her personal social platform, in which she wrote:
"My sneezing, jumping in place, running, etc. all cause urinary incontinence."
Because pregnancy and childbirth caused uterine and bladder prolapse, resulting in urinary incontinence, Ella eventually had to go to surgery.
Some of these sequelae may rely on medical treatment and are fortunately cured.
But many people, especially our mother's generation, may carry these traumas with them for the rest of their lives, until their old age.
They gritted their teeth and held back not to say, maybe the relatives around them would never know for the rest of their lives.
In our unknown time, these hidden pains and heavy blows are torturing them day after day.
03
Safe childbirth is only the first step on the road to becoming a mother.
Yao Chen shared his postpartum feelings in his speech, the most obvious of which is:
After giving birth to a child, the body should collapse, the sagging should not sag, and the fat is more stubborn than before.
Zhang Ziyi, who came from a drama background, is recognized in the industry as a desperate third lady, and filming injuries have long been common for her, and she has never complained.
However, the physiological milk was described by her as "torture", and for the first time in her life, she felt what it meant to be in pain.
For postpartum mothers, they have to take good care of their newborns and ensure that there is milk, and just doing this requires them to pay all their energy.
Feeding several times a night is the norm for mothers, and if a child is sick, it is almost impossible to sleep.
This also makes many mothers sincerely sigh: having children will look old, raising children will be older...
The short film "Tribute to Every Naturally Strong Working Mom" tells the story of a day for Jenny, a new mother:
At 6:30 in the morning, Jenny, who had only slept for 2 hours, woke up to the baby's crying, feeding, hiccups, changing diapers...
At 7:40, After washing, Jenny began to prepare the family's breakfast, and due to the rush to work, she could only eat two bites of breakfast and leave for the company.
From 9 o'clock to 18 o'clock, while working, she also had to deal with the phone call from her mother-in-law urging her to go home.
When the end of the work time comes, push off all social activities, rush to the bus home, and take a vacation to sleep.
When I got home an hour later, I started cleaning, preparing dinner, bathing and feeding my children, and putting them to sleep.
Before going to bed, turn over the work that was not done during the day.
At 12 o'clock, I had to lie down on the bed, and the child cried again...
What a mess...
But no mother does not want to live a delicate and beautiful life, but in reality, confined to various trivial matters, mothers often even have the luxury of getting a good night's sleep.
So
Please have more understanding and tolerance for them.
04
Today, about 50,000 newborns come into the world every day in China.
It also means that every day, 50,000 expectant mothers are experiencing all kinds of dangers and pains during childbirth.
It is really not as easy as we think, but thrilling, it can be said that every mother and her child are "life and death friends".
The World Health Organization has publicly released a survey data:
Globally, about 1500 women die every day from complications related to pregnancy or childbirth.
Behind the cold numbers, but the passing of fresh lives, the greatness of the mother is not only the dedication to the child, but also the courage of "life".
In our daily lives, we can always see the happiness of women who can't help but be happy after giving birth.
But we must not forget,
They are
From a girl, to a wife, and finally to a mother, and this "ghost door" of childbirth, every mother takes her life to cross over.
Even if you can't empathize with this pain, please don't fall for them.
What about getting fat after giving birth? Grow out
What about wrinkles and scars that can't be removed?
Wrinkles are the gift of time, scars are the badge of motherhood.
They bravely gave life to their children, which is already the greatest thing in the world.
All they need is some understanding and consideration, especially from the other half.
There was a news that made people very moved:
In the hospital, the husband of a pregnant woman walked in front, holding a handful of cash in her hand, and for every two small steps she took, her husband handed him 100 yuan.
It turned out that because his wife had just given birth,
Doctors recommend getting out of bed and walking around.
But the wound hurts just after giving birth
It hurt so hard that it hurt to inhale the cool air.
thereupon
In order to help the wife relieve the pain, the husband came up with this method.
Indeed, the way the husband accompanies his wife to recover after childbirth is very interesting, but the comments of the highest praise netizens point out the key reasons for everyone's envy:
"The important thing is not the money, but the heart and patience to accompany you."
I hope that the public will no longer be too harsh on the appearance of mothers, and I hope that mothers will not be harsh on themselves to meet the worldly standards of "perfection".
Because choosing to become a mother is already remarkable in itself.