Ending song: Zhao Zhao - When you are old
What is the most important point in finding a boyfriend?
There are many girls who answer:
Similar age, any topic can be talked about;
Or find a mature bar, everything do not have to worry;
If you want two people to be together, he must learn to be responsible;
Nothing to ask for, as long as he is good to me;
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I think that one of the most important things about choosing a boyfriend is that he will definitely hold you on the tip of your heart.
So how do you properly spoil your girlfriend?
In fact, compared with material pampering, girls need spiritual pampering more.
Only those who put love into practice will always be spoiled to the point.
Instead of sticking to formal things such as buying bags and lipsticks, it is actively understanding her needs.
Comforting her when she's upset, accompanying her when she complains, there's always a way to know what she likes, keep it in mind, and then one day give her an unexpected surprise.
Just like Chen Ming, the debater of "Strange Story", once said such a passage:
"In intimate relationships, the image of a man should be a Transformer, changing with the heart, you have to be like a glass of water, following the shape of the cup to change, and the woman's heart is this cup."
You don't ask her if she likes big men or small men, she wants everything, but there are different needs at different times, it depends on whether you have this sense of smell to judge, to get the rhythm. ”
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There is a line in the movie "Mindcatcher" that touched me very much:
"Our little flaws allow us to find the right people."
Good love as I understand it is that while we love someone, that person can also take care of us to love ourselves and be "myself" back.
The person who truly loves you is the one who will be the master of the relationship with you, not to see you as his appendage in this love;
The person who truly loves you is to understand your bowing your head and not speaking at the same time, but also to understand and guard your childishness from the bottom of your heart;
The person who truly loves you will tell you not to be stressed in this relationship, you just need to be yourself.
I know that there was once a hot spot, a girl said that the other party ordered flowers for her on the Tanabata Festival, but did not ask her out. Obviously, the two were on the same campus, but they didn't even meet each other.
And a netizen's comment is the most to the point, he said: When a person loves you, he wants to meet you and wants to get close to you. If he doesn't even want to see you, giving a gift is like a mission. That love or no love, you don't have that number in your heart?
It can be said that meeting is the standard for detecting love.
To judge whether a person really loves you, it depends on whether he really wants you, and if he really thinks of you, he will definitely come to see you.
Because the logic of truly falling in love with someone is: "I miss you, I want to meet you, I want to be with you."
Love is a miss that counts every second, accurate to every breath.
The more a guy loves someone, the more he cares about each other's feelings.
He would willingly understand her and respect her, not to please her, but simply to reassure himself.
He will always think from your point of view, and because of this, he can always give you the most understanding and tolerance.
He will first ask for your opinion before making various decisions, and if you do not agree, he will never force it.
To love someone, understanding and respect are the most basic prerequisites.
Why are more and more "people who love you" beating out "people you love"?
Because rather than pandering to the curve and seeking perfection, being taken care of by people 360 ° without dead ends is really addictive.
The sentence in "The King of Comedy": "I raise you", I don't know how many people are like Liu Piao, bursting into tears.
It is not necessarily me who raised you that moved us.
But the one that was not said, let me take care of you.
Every girl is cat-like, she will be clingy and spoiled when she meets someone who reassures her, she will only be vigilant when she has no sense of security and no sense of belonging, and everything will be solved by herself.
Good feelings never move you badly at once, but make you feel at ease in the days of thin water and long streams.
It is often said that money is like a parasite attached to love, and we can pretend to turn a blind eye, but we cannot ignore its existence.
But many people like to confuse miserliness with frugality when talking about money, in fact, you and I understand that this is basically two different things.
Some boys always complain that their girlfriends want too much, but they are not willing to pay anything.
For the girl, "Even if you have gold mountains and silver mountains and family wealth, it is also yours and has nothing to do with me." All I want is the heart that you are willing to do for me without reservation. ”
In the heart of a girl, she will be excited and happy because of the sparkling gifts you bought with money, but she will also be in tears because of a dinner you have spent so much effort to prepare.
And the boy who loves you will not let you be bent on money, he will let you know that he is loving you wholeheartedly, he will only be afraid of giving you less, and will never dislike you too much.
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I know that a boy once wrote a sincere word:
"One thing I've learned over the years is that if there's a road ahead of you that someone else breaks his head and bleeds, but the lover wants to go, I hope the way I love is no longer desperately trying to pull her and say don't go, don't go."
Instead, I prepared the most durable shoes for her, told her that the second intersection was slippery, that there were thieves at the fifth intersection, and that it would be okay to go, and that as long as she came back, there would always be dinner at home that I had prepared.
I don't do your weaknesses, but I want to be your armor. ”
Girls have always been the most special species in the world.
They can walk alone, gritting their teeth, through a difficult part of the road;
You can also bear the pain in life and refuse to say a word;
But in front of the people they like, they will want to become the little children who can be spoiled and can have small emotions.
A child's greatest confidence is the unconditional love of his parents;
The biggest confidence of adults is that little "childish".
It represents that someone is willing to spoil you, coax you, and cherish you.
In fact, what girls want has not changed from beginning to end, a person, a room, a lifetime.
At the age of eighteen, he wrote his tenderness toward her on the first page of his textbook;
At the age of thirty-eight, he cooked the tenderness to her into the first meal of the day;
At the age of seventy-eight, I put my tenderness toward her at the first glance of waking up, and the other person in her eyes was still the most adorable.
"What is love?"
"Rejoice."
"Can you be specific?"
"In your eyes, in your heart, it's all you."
"Can you be more specific?"
"Morning sun, sunset, whitehead."
Click [watch], people who really care about you, there will always be sugar in their pockets, not big truths, he knows the dangers of the river and the lake, and he just wants to take care of you.
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