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In real life, we often hear such a sentence "marry someone not to marry a phoenix man", the reason for not marrying is because the phoenix man is very selfish, if you marry in the past, not only to be wronged, but also to endure the in-laws bullying, or to endure the phoenix man subsidies the in-laws, so how can marrying such a man be happy? It will only make you miserable.
Today's discussion for everyone is that a greedy phoenix man threatens his wife: "Give me the dowry house, or you will divorce me." ”
After the phoenix man finished speaking, his wife directly fulfilled him, and he instantly regretted it.
Let's take a look at this case.
Ms. Yang / 29 years old
I am 29 years old this year, my surname is Yang, my parents have taught me since I was a child, when I grow up to find a partner, I must polish my eyes, do not look for a mother treasure man, a phoenix man, otherwise I will really regret it.
At that time, I also listened to my parents' words, and I also knew that these two men could not marry, so I was very cautious when looking for a partner at that time, for fear of meeting a bad man.
Later, when I reached the age of marriage, under my thousands of choices, I finally found a more satisfactory partner, I chose to be with him, because he was very good to me, usually very good at people, although the family conditions are not very good, but I think others are very good, with him I also feel very happy.
That's why I chose to be with him, but I don't know why, my parents thought this man couldn't marry, and they made me think about it.
At the time I didn't understand, why did my parents say that? Obviously this is my carefully selected man, and his kindness to me, everyone around me knows, so I really don't know why my parents are against it.
At that time, I also asked my parents why they didn't let me be with him. My parents said: "Daughter, it is not that your parents want to hinder your happiness, but your parents can see that this man is not a good person, his family conditions are so poor, he is not a good match at all, and men with poor conditions like this generally subsidize the family, plus he is admitted to college through his own efforts, so he is 100% a phoenix man, although he does not show it now, but he will definitely show his true face when he gets married in the future."
At that time, my parents said it very reasonably, but I didn't believe it, because I had been talking to him for more than two years, if he was really a phoenix man, he would have revealed his true face a long time ago, and it was impossible to disguise for so long, so at that time I always believed that he was a good man.
My parents saw that I had such a firm attitude and could only agree to this marriage, when my parents directly bought me a 120-square-meter dowry house in order to let me not be crowded with my in-laws after marriage, which wrote my name and did not write my husband's.
My parents did this just to make this suite my pre-marital property, and if I get divorced in the future, this suite will still belong to me, so my parents will think about me very much.
After the house was renovated, we both got married, and after we got married, the two of us moved into the dowry house.
At that time, my husband wanted to take her parents and family to live with her, and I refused to live because I didn't like to live with them, I just wanted to live with two people every day.
My husband saw that I refused, and did not dare to say anything more, after all, he had just married, and he was afraid that everyone would be unhappy.
But after getting married, I found that he especially loved to subsidize the family, and he has been subsidizing the family all along, but I didn't know it before.
I didn't find out until I got married, then you see I instantly felt that what my parents said was right, but thinking that two people were married, I didn't want to mess with him, and then I advised him not to subsidize the family, but to think more about his family, otherwise he wouldn't have money to raise children.
As a result, he responded directly to me: "This is my money, what qualifications do you have to manage me?" I subsidize my parents to do what my son should do, so no one can stop me. ”
I said, "I can't manage the premarital allowance, but I have to manage it after marriage, because you are my husband, if I don't care about you, will this family still be like this?" ”
He said: "If you want me not to subsidize, the family can do it, then you have to transfer your dowry house to me, so that this house will become the joint property of the husband and wife." ”
At that time, I didn't want to, because this was what my parents bought for me, and it was my only premarital property, so I couldn't be stupid enough to transfer the house to him, not that I was guarding against him, but after I found out that he had subsidized his parents' behavior, I didn't believe him even more, and I didn't think he was a good person.
At that time, I felt that after leaving him, he was very angry, directly saying that I was not a qualified wife, and at that time I did not bother to pay attention to him, and directly chose to walk away.
Later, after a period of time, he directly forced his whole family to live with me in the dowry room, and when I came back from work, I was very annoyed to see the whole family crowded here.
What made me most angry was not this, but my in-laws who actually occupied my master bedroom.
When I saw that my luggage had been taken out by my in-laws, I didn't say a word, ran directly into my master bedroom, threw all my in-laws' luggage out, and told them: "It's my dowry room, you are not yet qualified to occupy it."
My in-laws were frightened by my behavior, and originally thought that I was a good bully, and thought of bullying me well, but I did not expect that I dared to refute it.
After seeing it, my husband was very angry and directly scolded: "What happened to my parents living in the master bedroom?" They are the owners of this home, and it is right to live in the master bedroom. ”
I said, "This is my dowry room, the owner of this house is me, not your family, please make this clear, I can let them live here, but don't think about the idea of hitting my master bedroom in the future, or you will wait to be kicked out by me." ”
After I said this, my husband directly quarreled with me, and also scolded me, the scolding was very ugly, at that time I was also very unconvinced, and I also quarreled with him.
Later, the two had a cold war for a long time, and later after they reconciled, he proposed to me to let me transfer the dowry house to him, and when I heard it, I directly refused, and then he asked me why I refused to transfer the house? Obviously they are all family, why should they guard against him?
I said, "It's not that I'm guarding you, it's that you're not a good person at all, and if I transfer the house to you, then one day you'll dump me?" Don't I have to give you half of the house? So I can't be so stupid, if you have to let me transfer the house is not impossible, unless you do to drive your parents out, and then cut off the subsidy for them, you can't give them money in the future, if you can do it, I will promise you, can't do it, don't bother me. ”
My husband said: "I can't promise this, my parents are my most important people, I can't ignore them, so what?" I have to subsidize so that I can be considered a filial son. ”
I said, "Since you can't do it, don't let me transfer the house to you." ”
My husband was very angry at the time, but he didn't have any way at all, and then once he thought of a way to get my suite, that is, to threaten me, because he knew that women are very afraid of being threatened, and they are also afraid of becoming a second-marriage woman, so he thinks that I am such a person, if he threatens me slightly, I may agree to transfer the house to him, so he decided to threaten me with divorce.
That day he pretended to be angry and said to me, "If you don't give me the dowry room, we will divorce." ”
But he was so confident in his heart that he thought I would be afraid and would compromise.
As a result, I didn't expect that I actually fulfilled him, and I responded at the time: "Well, leave, anyway, I have had enough, I originally wanted to leave with you, I didn't expect you to take the initiative to mention, let's go, now drive to the Civil Affairs Bureau." ”
At that moment, my husband panicked, and then quickly apologized, and said that it was a joke, I ignored him, but forcibly went to the Civil Affairs Bureau for divorce.
Later, he had to agree to the divorce, after the divorce, their family returned to the farm, because they were driven out by me, so they could only go back to their hometown, at that time they regretted it, but I was a very stubborn person, and the things decided would not change again, so no matter how much they came to ask me, I would not forgive.
Conclusion
If a man does not want to ruin his marriage, do not die, and do not take himself too seriously, otherwise he will really regret it.