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Every man wants to have a good marriage and to be able to grow old with his wife.
But in marriage, it is always impossible to avoid the contradiction between mother-in-law and sister-in-law, if men will not solve these contradictions, always conniving at the family, bullying the wife, then the marriage will not last.
Therefore, a man must know how to deal with the relationship between mother-in-law and sister-in-law, so that the wife will follow the man with a dead heart, and the marriage can be long-lasting.
Today for everyone to discuss, a sister said to her brother: "Brother, your wife earns less, let her resign and serve for our mother's pension." ”
The younger brother responded: "Your monthly salary is only 5,000, how can you say that my wife earns less?" My wife earns 20,000 a month. ”
My sister was dumbfounded after listening to it.
Let's take a look at this story.
Mr. Qiu / 37 years old
I am 37 years old, my surname is Qiu, I have an older sister, and now my sister has been married for many years, and his children are also in junior high school.
When I was young, I had a good relationship with my sister, and my sister was also very good to me, no matter what I wanted, my sister would try her best to satisfy me, and usually what was delicious, my sister would also let me, because my sister knew that I was younger than her, so she would think about me for everything.
Later, after my sister grew up, in order to let me successfully go to college, she directly chose to drop out of school and go out to work with relatives, and it was very hard when she worked, but she never cried tired, but she worked hard every day, and the money earned every month would also call back to study for me.
So I am very grateful to my sister, and I know that my sister is the best sister in the world, because around me, I have not found anyone who is so willing to give as my sister.
In the past, I often swore that when I grew up, I would definitely repay my sister well, and later, after I went out of society, I often bought gifts for my sister, and my sister was very happy, and often praised me as a good brother.
Later, after I worked for a few years, my sister also got married, when my sister got married, I bought a car for 200,000 yuan in full to give to her, although I didn't have so much money at the time, all of them went to borrow, but I was willing to pay for my sister, because my sister had paid too much for me, as a younger brother, I have to return, so that I can be regarded as a qualified younger brother.
At that time, my sister was very moved, because she did not expect me to do this, so she was particularly relieved, and she also knew that all these years of efforts had not been in vain.
Not long after my sister got married, I also talked about an object, and this object, that is, my current wife, my wife is also a very capable person, but she is usually very low-key, never let others know how much she earns, only me and her parents know, none of her friends around her know.
Because she thinks that it is too high-profile and will attract others to borrow money, she does not like to show off, nor does she like to tell others how much her salary is, she just wants to live that ordinary life.
My wife and I met at a party, I fell in love with her at first sight, although she is not very good-looking, but she is particularly gentle, very kind, usually very good to people, because of this, I especially like her, because I think such a person is very suitable for a wife.
Later, when my sister learned that I had talked about someone, she asked me to take my girlfriend to see her because my sister wanted to see what kind of object I was looking for.
At first, I thought that my sister would be very satisfied with my wife, but I didn't expect my sister to be particularly opposed, especially after asking me about my wife's income, she especially disliked my wife.
At that time, my wife told her that the income was very average, not very high, and my sister said directly after listening to it: "Brother, how can you find such a woman so poor?" Break up quickly, find a better condition, don't be with this kind of cat and dog. ”
At that time, my wife was angry with my sister's words, and directly turned around and left, and then my sister kept scolding her, saying that she did not understand things, at that time I also advised my sister not to be so excessive, and this is my business, I also hope that she will not interfere.
As a result, my sister also scolded me and said, "You don't understand things at all, once I helped you so much, have you forgotten?" Shouldn't you listen to me? If I don't let you marry, you can't marry, or you're not a qualified younger brother. ”
I responded directly to my sister: "I know that you have paid a lot for me, but I don't want you to use this matter to suppress me, and I don't want you to threaten me, because I hate it most when people treat me in this way. ”
I know that I am not good at this kind of behavior, but I feel that finding a partner is my own business, why should I listen to other people's arrangements, so no matter what, I will not abandon my beloved woman because of my sister's dislike.
Later, I also forcibly married my wife, and my sister was very angry afterwards, but there was nothing I could do about it, and later I had to reluctantly agree.
But since then, my sister has often come back to bully my wife, or just scold my wife, anyway, no matter what my wife does, it is not to her liking, she will always look at it.
I also often talk about my sister, but my sister does not listen, but often tries to find a way to get my wife whole.
Once, my wife had a miscarriage, and at that time he knew that my wife was pregnant, but he also cooked something for my wife that pregnant women could not eat.
Since then, my wife has hated my sister so much that she will divorce me for life and death, because she feels that if she stays with me, she will be killed by me sooner or later.
Later, in order to stabilize my marriage, I directly scolded my sister: "From now on, I will not allow you to come back, nor will I allow you to bully my wife again, don't treat me like this because you once helped me, and now I will no longer condone you, if you dare to be bad to my wife, I will double my offer, you don't believe it, you try it." You obviously have your own family, why do you prefer to mess with other people's families? Am I having a bad time and you're happy? If that's the case, then I'm going to mess with your marriage and make you miserable. ”
After my sister was told this, she did not dare to go back to her mother's house, and later my marriage was stable, and after my wife's body recovered, she also gave birth to a son for me.
In the blink of an eye, our children are also in elementary school, at this time, my mother is also older, and then she moved to my sister's pension, because she knows that my wife will not give her a pension, so she is very conscious and obediently went to my sister's house.
But after my sister raised for a while, she couldn't stand it, because my mother had a lot of things to do, and she was also very harsh, so my sister was also very irritable.
In order to be able to have someone to help share the pension for my mother, my sister directly came to me and said: "Brother, let your wife resign to serve our mother, anyway, her income is small, she should go to serve the elderly." ”
After listening to the direct response: "Your salary is only 5,000 a month, why do you hate other people's low wages?" My wife's real salary is 20,000, several times higher than yours, so you are not qualified to ask her to take care of our mother, don't you wear the same pants as our mother? Often bully him together, since you two are so good, let's live together for the rest of your life. ”
After I finished speaking, my sister was instantly dumbfounded, because she did not expect my wife to earn so much, and then she never asked for it again, no matter how hard and tired, it was her own responsibility.
Later, our two husbands and wives also lived a happy life, although I helped my wife everywhere, for the sake of my wife even the family did not want, but I think I did not make a mistake, because my wife is the person who has lived with me for a lifetime, so I will definitely maintain him, so that my marriage will be long, and my wife will not be disappointed in me.
Conclusion
In a marriage, men who generally know how to maintain the family have lived a happy life, and only those who do not know how to maintain it do not have a long-term marriage, and they are still miserable.