Many times when a person confesses that he is rejected and is not willing to give up, he must comfort himself or be persuaded, he (she) will slowly find your true heart, and you can indeed see people's hearts for a long time, but you may not really be able to have a relationship for a long time.
For a time purposeful self-disguise is ability, but behavior is doomed to fail to become true to oneself. Just as the so-called road remote horsepower has been seen for a long time, with the deepening of time, it is inevitable that there will be clues and traces exposed, so over time, the probability of finding the truth will inevitably increase, but the feelings are different, scientific to interpret, when a man and a woman walk together, the body will produce a hormone, called "phenylaminopropionic acid".
It's a pleasurable chemical, and feeling each other increases secretion, makes us emotionally high, and produces a feeling of joy. When the concentration increases and two people are affected by this hormone at the same time, the feelings become the most intense, and this state and relationship are therefore defined by us as "love".
So Ador likes, to put it bluntly, is the physiological response under hormonal stimulation, so that after this physiological response, people's bodies and thoughts will have some symptoms. We will have all kinds of emotions of missing, fantasizing, excitement, and loss, and maybe we will find it inappropriate in the future, or we may break up, but like is like, there is no root, it is an instinctive feeling.
However, "long-term love" is not necessarily the case, when we did not have such a throbbing at the beginning, nor did we have such a hormonal effect, but only the good feelings that arise with the deepening of time interactions, it is not just love itself.
Born lonely, so instinctively afraid of loneliness, long-term companionship will more or less produce a habit, habit of having that existence, thus producing a "sense of dependence". At the same time, it will also be moved by the attachment of the other party, the human heart is long, long-term waiting and obsession, how can it be indifferent.
But the heartbeat does not mean that there is affection, but more of a trade-off, because the other party's various behaviors will make themselves aggravate the probability of being cared for and pampered.
We have a "sense of dependence" on those we love deeply, but having a "sense of dependence" does not equal love.
Being waited for a long time, pursued, in our cognition, we will inevitably feel that we can be valued by our lovers for a few points, after all, the time, the cost of the economy is increased, and it is also an increase in body value. Thus the long-term love, the birth of the real is not necessarily love, but the results and choices after accurate accounting.
People tend to infinitely exaggerate the intentions behind each other's behavior, including the investment of each other's feelings over time, and we think we will get what degree of heartfelt and spoiled, but forget that the person may need to double the effort and repayment.
Paying, not necessarily have the expected return, waiting, not necessarily the expected ending, the test of the answer is not necessarily the result of our cognition.
Although love at first sight is full of instinctive joy, it may not be able to become a lover who looks good, and the continuous intimate relationship between two people needs each other's achievements, growing up together, loving people first, only their own self-sufficiency and self-reliance can have the ability and strength to be liked.
What is true love? Intimacy mentions:
"In order to promote the maturity of oneself and others, it is a willingness to constantly expand one's boundaries and achieve self-improvement." Mature rational and self-disciplined relationship feelings, so as not to affect each other's lives and feelings.
Where there is pure long-term affection, only the second is almost no longer picky, want to be loved, want to get the feelings and respect they want, what we need is always to do ourselves first, enhance their charm and value.