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There is a discussion on the Internet:
In a small video, a teacher brings a bunch of bananas and asks the students in the class to line up to choose;
A girl stepped forward and took the initiative to take away the only banana with a slightly broken skin;
The teacher asked her why she didn't take the big one, and she said: I want others to eat the best bananas!
The small video shows the friendship and warmth of the world, showing the selfless realm of a girl;
Some netizens are very touched and want to know;
If it were your child, would you want her to do that?
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Chinese grew up in the cultural atmosphere of "Kong Rong makes pears";
The small one should let the big one, and the big one let the long one;
Courtesy is a symbol of courtesy and cultivation.
Put the interests of others ahead of yourself, and consider others more than yourself;
Sacrifice oneself for others, before others before oneself;
It is a spiritual realm.
That's right, of course;
If it were not for the blood and sweat of the older generation of revolutionaries who drove the invaders out of our territory, where would the comfortable days be now?
Warriors on the battlefield only need to consider their own interests a little, and their courage is not so enough.
Therefore, in the world of elementary school students, big and small things will be closely related to whether the personal style is noble or not.
The class distributes textbooks, test papers, and various items, as long as there are some flaws, the teacher will ask: Which student can carry forward the style, set an example for other students, willing to use these flawed ones, please raise your hand?
Immediately, at the same time, at the same time, brushing together, one by one raised their hands;
Whoever raises his hand slowly will be ashamed not to look into the eyes of others.
At this time, if you behave positively, you will be praised by the teacher, you will feel glorious, and a sense of glory will arise;
A little flaw in the article in exchange for the abundance of spiritual resources;
Although there are regrets, but in exchange for more happiness;
The exchange is worth it.
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However, the exchange of worthy occurs only in the pure world of elementary school students;
Once the rules of this exchange have changed;
Dedication cannot be exchanged for the respect of those around them, and it cannot be exchanged for the kindness of those around them;
Your self-denial only fulfills others, not your own justice;
Then you're not so happy.
The adult world tends to be a different tone;
You are the most enthusiastic in the company, who let you help you are not rejected, happy subordinates and then completed with quality and quantity;
Over time, you will find that no one thanks you;
Others are still like developing a habit, and they will find a high-sounding reason for you not to do it, and they know that they have time to do it;
Everyone is tacit;
You begin to wonder, how can the human world be so vicious?
It's not that others are vicious, it's that you give too much;
Your kindness gives too much, others will enjoy it for granted, and the thought in their hearts is: she is willing anyway!
You say you're wronged?
The same department divides things, and when it is divided into you, it is a little less, and you say that it is okay;
Next time it's a little less, and it doesn't matter if you smile or laugh;
You will find that in the future, as long as you encounter uneven divisions, you will always be the one who makes dedication;
All people, including leaders, want you to stand up and say: Then give this to me, it doesn't matter;
When you're saddled with so much anticipation, as soon as you don't, people immediately start complaining about you.
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Teachers in schools forget to teach their students;
It is good to give, but dedication is conditional;
Kindness and kindness do not mean weakness and deception;
Unless there is a group of rational people who know how to be good and evil, and have a measure, a person can take away the best and biggest banana in a big way;
Instead of giving good things to those who do not know the details and unclear character, it is better to be worthy of themselves first.
Do not know the truth, do not know the character of the good things left to others;
Have you not encouraged these evil people, aided and abetted abuse, and brought calamity to society?
Comity does not equal stupidity, does not mean that it can be used, does not mean that others take advantage of it and privately discuss: she is really stupid, she is really stupid, she is really stupid;
It may be better to be fair to yourself first, and then to talk about giving.
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If someone is just hard-mouthed: I am willing, I don't care, I want to be selfless for others, do not consider personal safety;
That's certainly true;
As long as in the face of interests, you can calculate this account, and you can still be at ease and balance your heart;
Then suffering losses is also a blessing;
At least conscience is worthy of oneself.
The most feared thing is that they still want to make dedication, carry forward the style, and calculate benefits and returns;
The more you calculate, the more unbalanced you become;
That's miserable.
My heart muttered over and over again, and I began to doubt;
I gave so much for those people, what did I get?
Why can't you take away a good banana?
If you are not happy, you have made a dedication and are still entangled;
Then this style of devotion and comity is completely superfluous and self-deceptive.
(Author: Han Feng, MBA of East China Normal University/ Lyon Business School, Lyon Business School, European and American enterprise human resources director, if you read this article want to tell me your ideas, welcome to leave a message to me)