Feb.
10
BURNING (ID: penetratingview)
Really, don't be afraid. It's not too late.
Author | Douban @ Zeng Xiao Pocket and Pocket
Whenever I was depressed, my mother was able to give me unlimited strength.
She was born in 70 years, three children in the family, as the only daughter is also the eldest sister, in that era when it was extremely difficult to study, and the family's livelihood was repeatedly discouraged because of the cost problem, she chose to work again and again to save money to re-study, and finally was admitted to the secondary school and entered our county hospital, becoming the first person in the family to register in the city.
Later, I went on a blind date, met my father, and had me, but she never stopped studying, self-examination undergraduate, graduate school, although four or five times of examination and research were finally stuck in English, the foundation is too poor.
Therefore, I put my English on me, and lived up to my expectations, and my English was indeed good from childhood to now...
Poof, off topic.
After about ten years of rotation in the hospital, my mother also began to have a variety of opportunities to go to the big hospital for further study, and the major hospital training was usually three or four months, and she was exposed to psychology.
She really has a passionate attitude towards learning, and when she was studying in the hospital department, she visited many psychologists and began to learn from within the hospital.
In fact, I am not particularly aware of this process, I only know that she has taken the exam, bought a lot of books, and constantly paid extra money to attend classes and internships to participate in various tutors' tutoring classes.
She is just a layman, there is no platform, there is no resources, probably nothing, and so many mentors she has followed may not have helped anything, how many contacts she has brought.
In the era that began in 2010, psychological counseling and psychological counselors were very watery and confused, and no one paid attention to the so-called mental health and family education, and few people were willing to spend two or three hundred and one hours on psychological counseling.
My mom knew about it, but she was so eager to change the environment.
She was fed up with the emotional torture of the patient's family, the mutual complaints of her colleagues in the department, and the parting of life and death in the hospital. She was originally a person who loved to read and write poetry, a person with very delicate feelings, but she was facing a hospital that condensed the world.
So she chose to resign at the age of forty-two, after twenty years in the hospital.
No one understood her, and my grandmother kept blaming her to this day. Even if it's been nine years.
The road later seems to be too tortuous, she rented a small shop to open a psychological counseling room, the resources of the small county town are nothing more than that, can not receive a consultation a month, free or even will be abandoned.
I went to the big city, met a group of people, and was pit money, and then pit labor.
From her exposure to psychology in 2013 to the official finding of the market in 2017, the money has been spent more than 100,000 yuan, and my dad has no complaints and has always been very supportive.
The good times are not long, and 2017 is also a particularly big turning point. Bankruptcy, debt, infidelity, divorce, every month on my mother is more than 10,000 loans to repay.
No one can help her, I'm still in my senior year, dropping out of school is denied, I'm reading, she's making money.
From scratch, it took another 5 years, she was already one of the best counselors in the city, from two hundred and one hours of consulting fees to eight hundred, from not a single case a month to a week full.
Recognized by the Education Bureau, he began to lecture in various primary and secondary schools, and was recognized by the Normal University, and the studio became a practice base for psychology students.
Of course, there are also boyfriends.
Three words and two words really can't say the hardships of my mother in the past ten years, the notebooks she has written, the case information she has recorded, constantly thinking about sharing, to expand networks, to maintain parents, to teach and run units, every time I see her, she is always optimistic and cheerful, I always feel that she is blindly optimistic, but she has never crossed.
No matter what I said, she could always drive away my negative energy solidly.
I'm 27, I want to change careers, I want to go to graduate school, I want to quit, I worry too much, she said: "I can break through the sky at the age of 42, you are so young and afraid of something." ”
Yeah, what's the fear.
- Follow-up -
Share the post and everyone's support to her, sure enough, it is a very gentle mother, thank you for everyone in the comment area, I hope you can get strength and courage!
- Netizen Reviews -
@_dali：
Such a mother is such a good example! Good envy 🤩
@Tina:
I really think it's a brave decision to give up everything and start all over again! Your mom is awesome!
Author Reply:
Yes, she has actually been in the hospital for twenty years, and she has entered the management without the need for night shifts, in fact, the salary is also very impressive, but she has not been able to keep her.
@Wallflower Girl:
Oh my God, I was so touched by the last conversation between Auntie and you, really very gentle and powerful strong woman.
@GreatGodFineOK：
I am 29 years old, I saw the light from you and my mother, choose the path of the heart, although bitter but there is always a sweet day, want to do anything to eliminate all difficulties to do it!
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