This big year has passed the fifth day of the first year, and it should be complete and full, and it is extremely happy. But the wish of reunion, the endless delicious food, the visit to relatives, the visit to old friends, will the girlfriend be small, not happy? High probability, I am afraid that many friends will worry about weight, but do you want to think of the spiritual tonic and fullness? The increasingly harsh reality and the fiercely competitive workplace, as well as the various changes to face, do you have to recharge yourself, not only this short vacation, but also a longer planning and arrangement. Overcoming impetuosity, having patience, and giving yourself time to sit down and read some books with your heart is a worthwhile choice.
@ Da lin As a middle-aged man, these two years have deeply felt the hardships of life. The pressure of work and the burden of family have become more onerous under the epidemic. "Anxious Man" is the first book I read in the New Year, and Batman is really poisonous, talking about all the anxieties that may be encountered at the moment. In the absurd and ridiculous story, the core revealed is the classic saying that "every family has a difficult scripture."
"Waking up every morning scares us half a life. We have no plan, we just try to get through each day, because tomorrow we will start all over again. ”
Thinking about how many things I have to face every day, this feeling of depression is simply suffocating. But read on, and you'll discover the true meaning of life: something beautiful can heal blandness and pain.
"Even if he knew that the world was going to be destroyed tomorrow, he would plant a small apple tree today."
Author Buckman begins with a rather bloody robbery and kidnapping, giving the reader a glimpse into a group portrait of this group of anxious little people. Seemingly unrelated strangers, but in fact have unexpected connections; seemingly glamorous elites, but have many years of untied knots; they go from being strangers to each other, to being close to each other, healing each other.
Reading this book is like chatting with a warm and wise elder, you feel anxious, feel that you can't do anything well, and are afraid of facing an uncertain future. He will gently tell you a little story, and voila! It's no big deal, everyone has the troubles you face. There is no always happy and happy life, life will always ripple from time to time, sometimes even ordinary waves. But even if the head that was hit yesterday is broken and bleeding, today still has to get up to meet the sun, no matter how sad and anxious, life should not be like this.
@Duoduoyu Someone always said to me, "The money you have in the bank can't beat inflation." As an office worker who does not manage money, every month's salary is deposited in the bank except for the necessary expenses. Because I don't have to worry about eating and drinking, I haven't had much desire for money. A friend recommended me to read "Puppy Money Money", which was originally a financial book written specifically for children, but after it was published, it was unexpectedly well received by countless adults.
At first, I also read "Puppy Money" as a children's book, and gradually I straightened my body curled up on the couch and carefully wrote down the quotations and every little suggestion in my mind. After reading a few chapters, I went to the bookcase with a serious expression to find a small book, completely ignored the jokes of my family, set up the table, and carefully wrote a "success diary" on the title page of the book. Whether or not to have a long-term investment plan like Gia in the book, I desperately need to regain my self-confidence and believe that I have the confidence and ability to do a lot of things.
There is also the need to clarify the goal of life, should have their own dreams, in order to be able to spend every day to the fullest. Living for the sake of dreams, rather than perfunctory eight hours of work per day, people will have passion and enthusiasm.
@ Cool Bo I feel that I did not do well in the college entrance examination, and in the first few days of college, I suppressed the clouds every day. Later, because of the epidemic, he could not go abroad and could not go to exchange, so he complained about bad luck every day. An argument with my mother during the epidemic made me feel enlightened. At that time, she said to me, you are only 20 years old, you can do whatever you want!
Yeah, why didn't I even think about changing in the past? It wasn't until I read the book "Who Moved My Cheese" and thought about breaking through the shackles that had been bound for a long time, that I wanted to understand many truths.
The book has four protagonists, two little mice sniffing and hurrying, and two dwarfs humming and chirping. In order to find the cheese that represents happiness, the different attitudes shown also represent the things we encounter in our lives, and different choices lead to different results in the end. Hum, when change comes, unwilling to accept the facts, self-deception, indulging in the pain of loss. After some self-struggle, I finally began to adjust myself and slowly experienced the joy of finding cheese. Sniffing and hurrying are the first to embrace change and the first to find cheese.
This is also the case when we face things in life. I want to get what I want, but I am afraid, I am worried about this and that, and I hesitate to move forward. Because of the fear of always not knowing what will happen to change, so that they dare not face change, but passively changed by the environment, and the beginning of change grasps the initiative of things, won the life of the self-personality unchanged.
The line in the book: It is safer to search in a maze than to stay where there is no cheese, just as no risk is the greatest danger. When you want to do something, you must first overcome your fears and act, the beginning of change is the beginning of things getting better, staying where you are will never help things much. The change has already begun, the cheese is always ahead, it will not move towards you, only you make adjustments, to move towards it.
@月月月 two days ago with a friend at the bookstore, she knew I had been plagued by emotional issues. As I passed the counseling bookshelf, I jokingly said to ask her to help see if anything was right for me. She flipped through it for a moment and picked out the book "Maybe You Should Talk to Someone."
As a psychotherapist, the author tells the story of healing, death, and life. There are young alcoholic women in their 20s, Hollywood screenwriters who have lost their children in middle age, young newlywed women who are dying of cancer, and 70-year-old grandmothers who are ready to commit suicide. Everyone's troubles are different, different childhoods are different experiences of different ages, but at a certain juncture they have encountered a depression that they cannot overcome alone, and psychotherapy has become an outlet for them to open their hearts.
Following the healing process of the characters in the book is also the process of my self-healing, and I feel the joys and sorrows in those books, and I can feel everyone's struggles and entanglements in pain, refusal to deny, and closing myself into thinking that it is my protective cover. Reading this book, looking back on the past year along the story line of each character, after surviving it, I found that it was not so painful, and most of the pain was added by myself. "The essence of life is change, and human nature is to resist change." As the author said, I have been resisting change, life is a long way, but I will never live enough.
The book ends with a lot of love, the scorching sun falls on the skin, and when every minute and second of the present moment in life is worth cherishing and enjoying, then we do have a lot of time.
@YOYO I have long been accustomed to e-books, and I went to the book city a few years ago to buy a few books. The reason why I went to the bookstore to buy physical books was because a book called "The Courage to Be Hated" did not have an electronic version. Picking up the book at home that night and flipping from the prologue to the afterword in one breath, I realized that the time was a little faster. The last time I stayed up late like this to read a book, I couldn't remember when it was.
The book is quite complete in its speculation, in-depth and simple, integrating the truths of philosophy and psychology into the confusion of interpersonal relationships in life, gently pushing open a door, making people suddenly enlightened. Many people plan a lot for the future, but often let time pass, but it always has little effect, either because of procrastination or because the plan can't keep up with the change. In fact, in the time that has passed, what has been cut piece by piece, can not systematically complete the planning, of which interpersonal troubles undoubtedly account for a large part of the space. Time management, not only is the time allocation reasonable, the goal refinement is clear enough, but also need to sort out their own thinking system, plus see through the essence of interpersonal relationships, unlock the lock of interpersonal troubles, and let the heart return to peace, so that they can more efficiently go to the other side of their own plans.
In the book "The Courage to Be Hated", through the various interpersonal troubles of life, trace their origins, focus more on the appeal of the goal, and then come up with a solution. Many people have heard that no matter how far you go, don't forget your original intention. In fact, many things are troubled, many of which are all kinds of obstacles we encounter on the way to achieve our goals, and psychology often reminds ourselves of our purpose, even if we can't avoid obstacles, we can understand what obstacles are, and we won't take too many detours.
The books mentioned here are only used to throw bricks and stones. In fact, the books you can find, should read, and read are really countless. Remember, unwinding is beneficial.
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