Emotional sharing: My boyfriend and I met through a friend we are not familiar with, we have been dating for more than a year and should be happy most of the time.
He is 7 years older than me, 34 years older, in his words, children from the countryside, bitter as a child, 20 years old when he went to work, his father died, he had just gone to work at the time, he didn't want anything, he just wanted to earn money!
He was really smart, he made money quickly, and by the time he was 27, he thought it was time to get married, so he found a girl who was considered "in town", and he was probably two or three years old.
After getting married, he still blindly thought about making money, starting a company, running a business, and thinking of nothing but money. At that time, his ex-wife cheated.
He couldn't stand it and divorced, a marriage that lasted about a year and a half. But now I'm thinking backwards, maybe he's talking about moisture.
Let's talk about myself. I am one meter seven tall, belong to the type of body temperament is good, have a stable job (state-owned enterprises), my parents are intellectuals, cheerful personality, good upbringing.
I have a short history of marriage, and my ex-boyfriend has been separated for 4 years, but I have gone through divorce procedures less than half a year after officially obtaining the certificate, and even the formal wedding has not been done.
Maybe people only know what they want if they have experienced it. I don't want a man who can only laugh with me every day, laugh with me every day, get hairy when things happen, love greedy and cheap, and think about playing CS every day, don't want a man who just loves himself, but he can't talk about how much he loves!
My current boyfriend, although he rarely mentions things about himself to me, but he has to know everything about me, he loves to ask about my past, and after I said it, he will show a lot of distrust, although these make me feel uncomfortable, but in general, I like his personality, he is tough, he is not chaotic, he will talk and laugh in front of you in the face of great difficulties, I think it is a special man!
Everything was fine between us, and if it weren't for a woman, maybe I wouldn't have the slightest doubt about his love for me.
About half a year ago, a woman suddenly appeared, harassing me on the phone, and scolding me. His explanation to me was: the ex-girlfriend made unreasonable trouble, sought him out, let me ignore it, and he would deal with it.
But then every two or three months there would be a call, and many times not to harass me, but to him, smash his car, and go to his house for a night.
The most recent time, he even cut his arm with a knife and stitched him more than a dozen times. But he only reported to the police, and in the end there was no result.
Because we live in two places, we will see each other once a week, either I will go back or he will come to see me. Because he socializes a lot in business, I also understand this, so if he has social or inconvenient, I generally do not bother him.
I also trust him 100% and trust him so much that I don't want to owe him money!
He told me that the woman came to him over and over again because of their business relationship and debt relationship. He owes her money, (and I guess his company probably has her shares too,) and he can't be too tough on that woman.
But two people breaking up is breaking up, and he feels that the two of them are not suitable. And he only took him to meet a few friends and never let her see his family.
And between us, both families have approved of our relationship, and we will choose a date to get married.
But I felt like he was lying. Because, I checked his mobile phone call details for half a year, and the frequency of the two people's calls was higher than mine! And it's often you and me talking back and forth, at any time, day and night, even in the middle of the night.
When it's not convenient for me to play, she can hit it. Sometimes calling her or hitting me is one after the other.
I don't understand, even if there is a business, do you need to talk in the middle of the night? Now it seems that most of the time he is inconvenient is because he is with her.
I felt bad in my heart and felt cheated. But he is very unprepared, wants to break up, but is not willing, and is afraid that he may really have something "difficult to hide".
Because he often told me recently, in the past two years, because of raw material prices, capital turnover and other issues, his factory has encountered unprecedented difficulties.
He also said to me that he would marry me, and if I didn't feel at ease, he would sell the factory for me, and then accompany me without doing anything, and every time he said this, I didn't dare to answer the stubble, because I really didn't know if I had the courage to face his bankruptcy and debt! Maybe he's already in debt and is waiting for me to pick up this stubble!!
However, if I dare not pick up the stubble, I have to endure his connection with the woman - his friends around him have a wide range of contacts with this woman and her friends, to put it bluntly, they are people in a circle, eating, drinking and having fun together every day! What the hell should I do?
Sometimes I think I was cheated on by him, but when I proposed to break up, he would beg me again and say that he would get married immediately.
He said that the woman who was always pestering him actually wanted to marry him, and if he married me, the woman would definitely not be able to stand it, and she would not pester him anymore.
But is it really just like this to get married? What if, after marriage, he is still so unclear? Did he really love me or did he cheat on me?
I really wanted to have a direct showdown with him, put the bill list in front of him, and break up, but I didn't dare to do that, because first, I was afraid that the two people would completely break up, and even the money lent to him might not come back!
Second, I was worried that maybe he really liked me, so that I would hurt him and hurt our feelings, after all, checking his phone bill list was a disgraceful thing, which would make him feel that I did not trust him enough and appear that I was at a loss.
Find a third party, his fox friends, alas! There is no man who does not help men!
Let them talk about it, it will seem like I am making a big fuss. I wanted to go to the woman again, but then I thought about it, so that I was more passive, besides, I was not as hot as her, and looking for her, it may also be to find myself angry.
But I can't stand the fact that they're still dating each other every day! And it's hidden from me! What the hell am I going to do?! Is he lying to me or does he really love me?