Career Planning Navigation - Five Major Troubles of Working Fathers

It's not easy to be a mom, and it's hard to be a dad. The father is the "top pillar" of the family, not only to have a good career, but also to take care of his wife and children, and to provoke various pressures and burdens. Father always seemed to have a solution to the problem, and nothing could stop him. In fact, the distress and pressure in the hearts of working fathers often have nowhere to tell, "Those who know your heart are worried." Xiangyang career for the workplace father poured out the five major troubles in his heart, and attached practical career development suggestions, to help the working father stretch his eyebrows and relieve his troubles.

1. Desperately working, milk powder money is difficult to earn

Camera playback: After the baby was born, D obviously felt that his sense of responsibility and sense of mission was stronger than before, just the baby's eating, wearing, and use was already a big expense, and at the age of studying, the education fee was a fixed large expense. For the sake of the child, D has to work harder, even if he can't give the best, at least he has to let the child live a rich life.

Expert comments: "After becoming a father, the sense of responsibility will be stronger." In order to give children a safe and secure environment to grow up, fathers need to take on more responsibilities. Hong Xiangyang, chief career planner of Xiangyang Career, believes that it is best for men to do a good job in medium- and long-term career development planning before starting a family, find their career positioning as soon as possible, accumulate core competitiveness as soon as possible, and improve their business value, so as to gradually release energy in the later stage of development and obtain more generous remuneration. If there is no long-term plan, holding the idea of "taking one step is one step", it is likely to encounter various setbacks in the development of the cause, and then encounter the double pressure of career and family, and encounter the "ceiling of development".

2. Whether you like work or not, no matter how much pressure you have, you can only hold on

Camera replay: For the sake of the wife and children, for the sake of the family's big and small affairs, how can it be done without the ability to do things, without a decent income? X worked in finance for ten years, but he had little interest in the job at all. Now as a small director in the unit, every day all kinds of ledger numbers have made him dizzy, want to be promoted to coax good leaders, cheat subordinates, all kinds of interpersonal relations competition, pressure so much that he began to lose hair. However, for the sake of this home, you can only carry it.

Expert comments: As the saying goes, "women are afraid of marrying the wrong man, men are afraid of investing in the wrong line", men invest in the wrong field of development, not only their own development will be hindered, but also may affect family harmony due to unsuccessful careers. On an inappropriate platform, working with pressure and resistance, personal ability, enthusiasm, and innovation are difficult to exert. Judging from the consulting experience of Xiangyang Career for many years, most of the career problems of 35-year-old men are due to the deviation of their previous career positioning and do not understand their own "career anchors", and as a result, they have entered the plateau period of their careers in advance. If you can carry out systematic career planning as soon as possible, correct your positioning in time, and clarify your own advantages, you can greatly reduce the development obstacles and risks after middle age.

3. The old man is not promoted, afraid of being looked down upon

Camera replay: T worked as an editor at a newspaper, and he managed to stay up to the position of director of the editorial department, but this son sat for six years and did not see the movement of promotion. Some of the people in this circle have become editors-in-chief, but they are still in the same place. At this time, when a child is in primary school, he still has to use some relationships to choose a good school, but how capable can he be as a director of the editorial department? At home, I was muttered by my wife, and I couldn't hang up my face when I was out.

Expert comments: "Unmotivated" is one of the most painful things for men. Not only because of the love of face, but also because of the need to give the family a reliable guarantee, but also to lay a solid foundation for their future development. Regarding promotion, Hong Xiangyang believes that after entering the middle of career development, men have accumulated more stable vocational skills and rich work experience in the field they are engaged in, and if the promotion is blocked at this time, it is necessary to re-examine their career development plan, combine the actual situation of the family and their own actual situation, and make a choice suitable for the current situation. If you have to face transformation, you must be mentally and economically prepared to pay the cost of transformation.

4. Work is too busy to take care of the family

Camera replay: C was married for three years, and his life was not comfortable. Half a year before getting married, C was promoted to become a channel manager, and with the happy events of promotion, he also did lifelong events together, and the double harvest of career and family made outsiders envious. Not long after, the baby was born, but the channel manager's "trapeze" job squeezed out C's personal time, and there were twenty days in the field in a month. The burden of taking care of the family and children all fell on the shoulders of the wife, because the busy and the wife had less communication, which caused the wife to complain often, and when the two quarreled, the child cried.

Expert comments: Career and family are difficult to complete, which is a major problem faced by many middle-aged men in the workplace. Hong Xiangyang believes that for men, career is important, but the family is always a reliable safe haven. If you focus all your mind and energy on your career and ignore your family, even if you achieve something, it is difficult to achieve happiness in your heart. Learning to arrange time reasonably, maintain good communication with your family, and cultivate trust, understanding and support will also be of great benefit to career development.

5. Ambition is not rewarded, and the body is old first

Camera replay: "How can people not be knifed" when people are floating in the rivers and lakes, even if they are not knifed, "an incomparably much work + all the time socializing" will crush the body. F works in a state-owned enterprise, is specifically responsible for foreign business, wants to use five years to promote officials and raise salaries, looks forward to changing a bigger house for his wife and children, buys a car to travel with the whole family, and does not work hard to socialize how to do it? As a result, after two years, it is difficult to have a fixed number of career matters, but this alcoholic liver, high blood lipids, and lumbar disc herniation have entangled themselves, torturing F often to run to the hospital, and the quality of life has seriously declined.

Expert comments: Because of the pressure of work, more socializing, the upper to the pension, the lower to raise small, have to run around to make money, long-term lack of exercise and sufficient rest, even after the illness is also delayed and not actively treated, resulting in many middle-aged men in the workplace to change into a variety of diseases that do not age and decline. Scheduling time to do the right amount of exercise, paying attention to health care and self-care is also responsible for the family, and considering the performance of the family.

Working fathers are not easy, shouldering most of the responsibilities and burdens in the family, and many pains are not willing to be humane to outsiders, and can only bear them silently. Xiangyang Career believes that it is not easy for men to work hard, and it is even more important to do a good job of career planning as soon as possible. After all, it doesn't matter if a person is shaking, as a father, carrying the burden of the family, only by doing a good job of career positioning and working hard can you become a winner in the workplace and become a good father in the eyes of children!