A virtuous wife, a wise mother, is the angel of a family.
How does it feel to marry a wife who doesn't look good?
Especially as a famous gate, a famous gate of the Three Kingdoms period.
There are thousands of horses in the heart, actions are rejected, and abandonment is necessary.
In the 1940s, the official residence of the Xu family in the State of Wei, with big red lanterns hanging high, was full of joy, gongs and drums were noisy, although it was not said that the whole world was celebrating, but at least it was a street of joy and joy.
However, after the night was quiet, the uncle still refused to enter the cave room, and on the day of the great joy, he was handsome, but he looked loveless.
What night and night, why worry the prince?
Don't ask for affection with the boss, but be reasonable
The groom does not enter the cave room, it is nothing more than the bride is not good-looking.
It is said that women are sensual, while men, most of whom are sensual, do not look at the facial features three times.
The groom Xu Yun, a famous and prestigious family in the State of Wei.
The bride's surname is Ruan, a famous family of the Wei dynasty.
The doors can be matched, but the appearance is not equal.
The bridegroom mourns outside the cave, the bride is worried in the cave, and the stars are bored in the sky.
There has to be a Terminator out.
Huan Fan came, a famous minister of the State of Wei, who was just not angry, and was the most feared figure of the groom official.
Figure | Derived from the stills of "Three Kingdoms"
Immediately, a lady reported to the bride, and the bride broke into a smile: Brother Huan is coming, and my Lang Jun will be reliable when he enters the cave room.
Huan Fan said: "Xiao Xu, the Ruan family must have given you a sister Xu out of deep consideration, and you have to consider it in the long run." ”
Then he turned around and went, and he didn't have an epiphany, and looked at the creation you promised.
Thinking of the long-term consideration, Xu Yun entered the cave room.
Seeing the bride's dignity, he turned and pulled his leg and ran.
It's so ugly, I'd rather not have that long line or something.
This turn, this leg pull, is likely to be a lifetime.
Figure | Originated from the program "China"
The happiness in hand, how can the old woman give up, so The Ruan girl reached out and grabbed it.
The groom struggles, and lays out the facts to be reasonable: "Which of the four virtues of women today, virtue, eloquence, looks, and housework, do you occupy?" ”
In fact, as long as you look ugly, in many men, even the other three are saved.
Ruan Girl's combat effectiveness exploded, and she immediately hit back: "Except for the appearance, I can do anything, a hundred gentlemen's character, which one do you occupy?" ”
Xu Yun smiled lowly, "I can do anything." ”
Aunt Ruan sneered: "You can't do the first thing, the gentleman's first: morality." You are lustful and unethical, just the first one is vetoed, and the back is all white."
Xu Yun instigated.
The struggle ended, and Xu Yun was taken in by The Ruan girl.
After all, he is a bookworm, and he is also reasonable.
If you change it to Cao Cao, it is estimated that you will take out the vigorous running of the beard and abandoning the robe.
It turns out that Xu Yun was married right.
After marriage, the first crisis faced by the husband came, and someone reported that Xu Was allowed to be nepotistic and cultivate a private party.
Xu Yun was in charge of personnel at that time.
Nepotism is small, and cultivating private parties is big, how big is it?
Big enough to be a capital offense.
The family is not lightly frightened, in fact, whether there is a private party, this is difficult to quantify, as long as you promote, can be counted as your dead party.
What's more, Xu Yun did promote many fellow villagers.
When the Xu family was in trouble, Ruan Tai ran out barefoot and gave her frightened husband a trick:
"The Lord can be rationalized, but it is difficult to ask for it."
A clever boss who can reason with him and argue, but it is difficult to intercede.
The implication is: The current emperor is smart, and you reason with him.
The master leads into the door and practices in the individual.
Ruan's sister's husband was also a wise man, and he immediately had an epiphany, so he went to see the emperor of the State of Wei at that time: Cao Rui, the Emperor of Wei Ming.
Cao Rui was clever and the son of the beautiful woman Zhen Mi, and even the old and cunning Sima Yi trembled when he saw him.
The Wise Emperor questioned Xu Yun, "Why are most of the cadres promoted by you from your hometown?" ”
Following the instructions of his wife, Xu Yun did not kneel down and beg for forgiveness, but sacrificed Confucius's king fried: "Ju'er knows."
Promote what you know, and the other subordinates will follow suit.
I was not familiar with it, and I did not dare to promote.
My process of promoting people is strictly adhering to the personnel principles founded by the saints.
Next, another sentence was thrown out: If the person I promoted is not qualified after the assessment, I am willing to accept the punishment.
The latter sentence is a ballast stone, which can hold the field.
Sure enough, it was a smart boss, who understood the situation in one sentence, and then repeatedly said that Xu Aiqing was innocent.
Just when Xu Yun Xie'en turned around to leave, the Taobao clothes and pants on his body that were only a few hundred yuan a piece stimulated Cao Rui, so Long Yan was ashamed and said, "Almost wronged a Qing official." ”
So he sent Xu Qingguan Aya luo silk satin.
Not only was there no punishment, but rewards were received.
In addition to striking iron, it is also hard to be hard, and Nguyen Tai's guidance has played a key role.
This shows that Nguyen Tai was well aware of the government and politics of the time and the emperor at that time.
Divine ingenuity, female Zhuge Ye.
A false alarm, Mr. Xu returned home, the family is preparing for the funeral, see a big living person returned, the family's out-of-control surprise, everyone can make up for it.
At this moment, the mastermind behind Xu Yun, the Ruan girl, was not surprised, the wind and waves were calm, the years were quiet, and he cooked a bowl of steaming chestnut porridge and brought it to her undecided husband.
She knew that, according to her plan, her husband would return safely.
At this moment, taking the fragrant chestnut porridge, in Xu Yun's eyes, his wife, the sister of the Ruan family, must be the most beautiful girl in history.
At a glance, I can see through the deep intentions of the Sima family
But it could not stop the tragedy of the husband
What is the Three Kingdoms Era?
That must be a wave passing, a wave coming back.
New situations always emerge in an endless stream, echoing the poem of the later Song Dynasty poet Yang Wanli: "It is not difficult for Mo Yan to go down the mountain, and it is not difficult to earn the wrong likes of pedestrians." Entering the Wanshan Enclosure, a mountain released a mountain barrier. ”
I thought that I had ascended to a high mountain and overcome difficulties, but I did not think that when I went down the mountain, those difficulties were resurrected and came out to besiege you.
The Xu family faces another wave of risks.
In 249, Cao Shuang, a powerful minister of the Wei state, took the young emperor out of Luoyang City to sacrifice Gao Pingling, which was cao rui's mausoleum.
Figure | Derived from the stills of "Tiger Howling Dragon Yin"
Cao Rui was dead, and no one could stop Sima Yi.
So Sima Yi staged a coup d'état, isolating Cao Shuang's troops outside the city.
Cao Shuang was hesitating whether to return to the city or pull up people and horses to resist.
Huan Fan went out of the city and urged Cao Shuang to resist, and he took out his own Official Seal of Si Nong, guaranteeing that he could mobilize grain and grass.
Cao Shuang shook his head.
Huan Fan cried and scolded: You are a stupid pig, and you have failed your father Cao Zhen's excellent genes.
Xu Yun went out of the city and persuaded Cao Shuang to surrender, and the glory and wealth could be guaranteed.
Cao Shuang agreed, disarmed, and surrendered.
This is Xu Yun's loyalty to the Sima Clique.
But in the blink of an eye, Cao Shuang was killed.
Xu Yun was also not trusted.
However, at this time, Xu Yun thought that he was at ease between the Cao family and the Sima family, and he could sit back and relax.
People around me think so too.
There is only one exception.
That's Nguyen Tai.
Ruan Tai believed that this kind of behavior of Fu Jun could not be exchanged for the approval of the Sima family, and it was precisely this way to take the misfortune.
So she wrote a letter exhorting Xu Yun.
The content of the letter has drifted and blurred in the storm of history.
Figure | Qingke ©
Only the style is still vaguely remembered:
"Words are very sour".
The words are very sad and sad.
Probably say: Pro, you don't move between two groups, ambiguity is dangerous.
Xu Yun gently set the letter aside.
His understanding of Wei politics was far inferior to that of his wife.
How naïve is Xu Yun?
In 251 AD, the old fox Sima Yi hung up, probably at Sima Yi's funeral, Xu Yun said to his colleague Xiahou Xuan: "The old fox is dead, and we should also breathe a sigh of relief." ”
Xiahou Xuan sighed disapprovingly, "Uncle Sima is at least an elder, and he will still treat us with the attitude of looking at the younger generation, so we must consider it before we start, now that his sons are all our peers, there will be no such thing as affection." ”
Xu Yun disagreed.
In 254, Xiahou Xuan, Li Feng, and others prepared to go to work with the Sima family, and before they could do so, they sent a document to Xu Yun's house early in the morning. Xu Yun took it, opened it, and looked at it, but he was silent.
The document was a false edict that drew him into trouble and made a wish from the official.
This laid the foundation for him.
He wanted to save his friends, but he didn't want to betray Sima and live up to his friends and not live up to the king, was it possible?
Sima Shi and Sima Zhao, knowing that he had received the document, also remained silent.
But the killing heart is left here.
Xiahou Xuan and Li Feng failed in the incident.
Xu Yun ran all the way to the imperial court to show his loyalty, but he hesitated again halfway, feeling sorry for his friend, and turned back.
This turnaround is a big failure.
Sima Shi and Sima Zhao looked in their eyes, and the killing machine arose in their hearts.
Who came to allegiance and ran back halfway?
The dispute between the three kingdoms can respect the wind and bones, and can also tolerate retirement, that is, to look down on ambiguity.
Wei Jin weighed on demeanor, and Xu Yun eventually failed in demeanor, unhappy and abrasive.
Not long after, the imperial court came down and bailed xu Yun as the general of Zhenbei.
Xu Yun joyfully announced good news to Ruan's sister.
The ruan family sister had tears in her eyes, and her sorrow could not bear it: "Xu Lang, Xu Lang, you are going to be fierce and ji less, I'm afraid..."
Sure enough, suddenly someone reported xu yun's use of imperial court materials.
Immediately punished and exiled.
In fact, this report had long been prepared, so that everyone could feel that Xu Yun's punishment had nothing to do with Xiahou Xuan's rebellion.
Xu Yun is on the road, and Nguyen is sadly waiting at home for bad news, knowing that her husband will never return.
Ruan Tai's understanding of the ecology of the Wei court was far higher than that of her silly husband.
Sure enough, Xu Yun died on the road of exile, some people said that he was starved to death, some people said that he was killed by sima shi.
In short, unnatural death.
When the family came to report Xu Yun's death, Nguyen Tai sat down in front of the loom and said lightly, "I knew it would be like this." "How much sadness, how much helplessness, are all held in this sentence without wind and rain and without sunshine."
Next, what about Nguyen Tai's orphaned and widowed mother?
A calm and strong mother
Take the family through the storm
Xu Yun was dead, but Sima Shi was still not at ease.
Because Xu Yun also has two sons: Xu Qi and Xu Meng.
At this time, Xu Qi and Xu Meng, following their mothers, lived in front of their father's grave with sorrow and affection, and went to cry every morning and evening, crying for several years, rain or shine, and crying so much that the townships were sad.
Crying made the civil and military officials of the imperial court also feel sad.
So Sima Shi sent Zhong Hui to scout the situation.
Zhong Hui, a famous general of the Three Kingdoms, later had the merit of destroying Shu, this time as a spy.
He once tried Ji Kang, who did not buy it and was later killed.
A few years before testing Ji Kang, he was ordered by Sima Shi to visit Xu Yun's family.
Sima Shi's instructions were: If two children are outstanding, then get rid of them by the way.
For this meeting, Ruan's mother taught the two children to deal with it: how to find it, cry when you want to cry, but if Uncle Zhong collects the tears, you must also hold back the tears in time and control the rhythm. "Don't ask about the affairs of the imperial court."
Ruan Tai decided that Sima Shi would not treat these two children as well, because their talent was not as good as Xu's father, "Although Ru and so on are good, there are not many talents", talents, talents and talents.
When Zhong Hui came, he shed tears when he talked about the deceased, and the two children also shed tears; as soon as Uncle Zhong stopped shedding tears, the two children also appropriately collected tears.
The acting skills on both sides are very natural, and I will perform whatever you want me to perform, never one step further.
Ruan's mother's script was very good, and Zhong hui returned to Sima Shi, reported the situation, and said: That is, two mediocre children.
Sima Shi suddenly felt guilty and did not continue to pursue and pursue.
A few years later, Xu Meng and Xu Qi, one is a long history, the other is a thorn history.
After some bloodshed, after the adjustment of this virtuous wife and virtuous mother, the Xu family finally escaped the massacre, got rid of the downward trend, bottomed out, and went up.
Thinking about that wedding night, when the disgusted Xu Lang was tightly dragged by the ugly bride, Xu Lang may not understand: it is this girl whose appearance is really unbearable, that is, the angel sent by heaven to protect him and protect his family.
A virtuous wife, a wise mother, is often the angel of a family.
Some relatives, some friends, and some classmates who appear around us are likely to attract your disgust, feel that he or she does not match your grade, and lower your level.
They may not appear in a very flattering guise, but they are our angels.
If you encounter them, be sure to treat them well.
Only by being kind to the surroundings will we meet the angels who protect us.
If Xu Lang had knowledge underground, he would have sung affectionately:
"The spring wind and rain warmed my heart, and I gave it away wordlessly all my life. It was what a warm gaze it was that taught me to look resolutely at the road ahead. ”
Figure | Empty Valley Hunt ©
Most of the pictures in the article are derived from the program "China"