Once upon a time, the carriages and horses were very slow, the letters were far away, and there was only enough to love one person in a lifetime...
Now everything pursues speed, love is like fast food, and feelings only set templates. Loving only one person in a lifetime is called a myth, and loving only one person at a time has become everyone's long-cherished wish.
Loving only one at a time is exclusive
Loving only one in a lifetime is a long-term love
Some emotionally frustrated people often feel that they can no longer love the next person well. But when the wound heals and they meet the heart-pounding person again, they will still choose to love each other wholeheartedly.
Some people say it's good scars forget the pain. But in fact, only she herself knows how fascinating the pleasure of loving someone like life is.
They are not called love brains, nor is it because they never count gains and losses, but they understand that in love, only one at a time is just the bottom line.
The story behind the song "Mohe Ballroom" that was fired a while ago moved many people, Zhang Dequan did not marry for life after losing his beloved wife, and remembered his wife with a solo dance. In this life, he has achieved long-term affection.
And for some people today, only loving one at a time, it is already a great challenge to be dedicated, not to mention to love only one in a lifetime.
Loving only one in a lifetime requires the patience, persistence, ability to think differently, and so on. If necessary, it may also test whether this person has the courage to face life and death and give up good resources...
But love only one at a time? In reality, many people can't even do the most basic thing as long as they have a true heart. We acknowledge that love can become difficult to define because of the complexity of human nature, but that doesn't mean you can focus on more than one person.
I know that I am in a relationship, but I am not clear with others. When you are investigated, you can even say that you love it and it is difficult to choose.
When it is difficult for one person to meet all his needs, he wants to integrate these advantages in multiple people. He is not only infatuated with Zhang San's gentleness but also unwilling to give up Li Si's thoughtfulness, but also in the name of setting up a "deep affection" for himself. To put it bluntly, it is only one's own greed.
Loving only one person at a time is not only to appreciate the advantages of each other, but also to learn to tolerate and understand each other. Instead of turning around and throwing yourself into someone else's arms when your passion is exhausted.
So, you don't have to do the most ruthless thing under the guise of affection. If you love someone, as long as you do it, it is already precious.
Once unfaithful, never used
Once unfaithful, never used, this is the rule of the business world. A betrayal in the business field may cause a heavy loss, so everyone is very afraid of people with two hearts.
In the relationship, many people hold an unrealistic illusion about the person who has lost their loyalty, thinking that as long as they give the other party a chance, he will change. As everyone knows, he feels that this is his ability, not your tolerance.
In the TV series "Children of the Qiao Family", Qiao Simei's husband Qi Chenggang derailed three times before she chose to divorce. The first infidelity has already shown the fact that the other party does not love at all, but Qiao Simei still chooses to forgive after struggling. Then it was the second and third times, and if Qiao Simei continued to choose to forgive, then Qi Chenggang was destined to continue to be unfaithful. In the years of tolerance, Qiao Simei suffered from feelings.
If from the very beginning, Qiao Simei had given up on her unfaithful husband and held the attitude of "one infidelity, no use for life", perhaps she would not have had to waste her great time on a half-hearted person.
Emotional infidelity involves not just a person's ability, emotions or personality defects, but more importantly, a breakthrough in the moral bottom line.
Many people will have a character pass in the mate selection criteria, but when you really encounter things that challenge the bottom line and violate morality, you will still choose to forgive in your heart. Otherwise, there would not be so many people who choose to return to their families after cheating, and rightly tell others: I just made a mistake that men all over the world will make.
In an emotional relationship, as long as any problem is between two people, it is relatively easy to solve, and once a third party is involved, the relationship becomes complicated and difficult.
The price of choosing to forgive is that you have to bear the risk of the other party's betrayal again, and you have to bear the pain of being hurt again. If the first time you are passive and innocent, then the second time, more or less have the ingredient of your connivance, you have to do it yourself!
Many people say that this is their helpless move, there are not enough financial resources, children can not be without parental care, the elderly do not want to see themselves alone... These objective dilemmas do exist, but your subjective consciousness has long boiled them down to: unsolvable, get by.
There is a saying: Thinking more is all a problem, and doing more is all an answer.
The other party treats you disloyally, instead of thinking about how to catch the adulteress every day and whether to forgive or not, it is better to pay some practical actions and insist on yourself. If he does not meet your mate selection criteria and undermines your principles, then quickly cut through the mess and jump out of the predicament.
The first time is mostly with a sense of temptation, if you really reach that step, you may wish to show your bottom line, with practical actions to tell them: a disloyal, never use!
Love is not difficult, what is difficult is attitude
Wherever they go, people are always emphasizing the word 'attitude'. The word gives the impression that as long as a person has a positive and healthy mindset about something, then even if the thing does not end up with a particularly perfect ending, others will not say much.
And when you really have the right attitude, you will understand that many things can be successful because of a serious attitude in the first place. All efforts, determination to solve problems, and reinvigorating begin with a good attitude.
The same is true in relationships. If at the beginning you have a playful mentality about love and feel that nothing matters, then after you play a circle, you will find that you have played it out, and it is likely that the emotional life of the second half of your life will also be fixed under the mentality of your hanging child Lang Dang.
And if you have respect and expectation for love at the beginning of love, and have a correct attitude, then you must be a plump and colorful person on the emotional road.
A netizen said that the people he had loved at different stages would make him feel that he was the one who was destined for a lifetime. Even if they end up being each other's passers-by, it won't affect his reverence for his feelings.
He thinks that the feelings he did not understand when he went to school and the mature and stable feelings when he grew up are the same in a way, because he invested 100% sincerity and effort in every emotional need. Even if I look back now and think that my former self is a bit silly, that attitude is something he has always been proud of.
We say it's hard to love someone all the time, but is it hard to love only one person at a time? It's not hard because it's just the bottom line. The so-called difficulty in the eyes of the public is not because love itself is full of hardships, but that we have not mastered the attitude towards love.
Sincere, hardworking, brave... These are the attitudes we should have in our relationships!
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