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Mr. Jin Yong wrote in "Smiling Proud of the Rivers and Lakes": "As long as there are people where there are people, there will be grievances, there will be rivers and lakes, and people are rivers and lakes." ”
It is impossible for all people to escape the rivers and lakes, just as all people cannot survive without relying on food. How to face the jianghu, this is the attitude. How to protect oneself in the jianghu is wisdom.
The so-called "people are floating in the rivers and lakes, who can not be knifed." ”
As long as you are in the middle of the jianghu, then you will definitely be subject to the calculations and routines of others. Seriously, you will also end up with two people and money.
How can you be good in the face of those who harm you?
Some people feel that in the face of those who harm us, we should tolerate it in time, retreat again and again, and never argue with them.
Such an approach cannot be said to be wrong, but only too weak. To put it bluntly, if the other party has to make inches, then your tolerance is just "aiding and abetting abuse".
Forbearance is actually a double-edged sword. At the right time, tolerate it, then you will avoid its sharp edge and have a chance to breathe. On the other hand, if you tolerate it at the wrong time, then you are easy to be pinched and become a small sheep in the eyes of others.
In the face of the villain who calculates you, no matter how kind you are, you can't blindly tolerate it, but you have to fight back like this.
02
In the face of the villain who harms you, you have to be "tough enough".
Mr. Yang Dai wrote in the "One Hundred Year Speech": "If you give in generously, others will invade you and harm you." If you don't have to fight with others, you have to have nothing to ask for from the world, and at the same time you have to maintain your strength and prepare for struggle. ”
If you are so good at being a person, then you are vulnerable. You know, the evils of this world never come to bad people, but only to good people.
Why is there such a contradictory situation?
Because good people are so kind, so kind that they lack sharpness. Just think, what jackals, tigers and leopards would be afraid of good people without sharp edges? Like sheep, the kind of them can only become someone else's meal forever.
If you want others not to bully you, then you need to be prepared to "fight". You are confident and tough, and you are only committed, and the problems you face in the follow-up are particularly large.
You are confident, tough, and that little man will not easily invade you. And you promise to believe that you will be targeted by others, even if you have not offended others. This is the human nature of bullying the soft and fearing the hard.
03
In the face of the villain who harms you, you must have the courage to "punch and open".
The so-called "punch one punch, lest a hundred punches come." ”
We only have two choices, either open our palms and shake hands with them, or clench our fists and fight with them. How to choose, we have to look at the direction of things.
If others are too aggressive with you, or even disregard your interests, then you don't have to put up with him anymore, just have a showdown with him. A person's upright courage can often deter villains and demons.
If the other party takes the initiative to bow his head and admit it, then you may wish to make peace with him, and then observe his future words and deeds. However, it is the principle of being a human being when it is time to strike.
Some people disagree with the practice of "punching open with one punch, so as not to come with a hundred punches", believing that it will only breed more trouble. In fact, this concern is superfluous.
As long as others are eyeing you, or even targeting you, then even if you don't fight back, you will cause trouble. In this way, giving the arrogant villain a powerful counterattack is the most principled posture of your life.
04
In the face of villains, you must have the wisdom of "borrowing strength to fight".
People fight with each other, relying not only on self-confidence and courage, but also on the oppressive power of groups and circles.
To put it realistically, the workplace is a place of gangs, you do not participate in the circle, some people in the circle will still find you trouble. In this way, learning how to take sides depends on our choices.
In the workplace, people with circles and backgrounds often get very different results from people without circles and backgrounds.
Whether you have a strong personality or not, then you need to smooth out your edges and corners, just like the copper coin of the circle, the outer circle and the inner square, the inner saint and the outer king, both their own opinions and the support of the group. In this way, you can do things unimpeded, and even excel in dealing with others.
When it comes to the problem of "dealing with", in fact, we don't need to do it ourselves, we just need to "borrow strength to fight".
The so-called "enemy of the enemy is the friend." ”
As long as you win over some like-minded friends, I believe they will become a powerful boost to you. This is the reality of "hugging and warming" in the workplace.
05
In the face of villains, we must have the ability to "dress up as pigs and eat tigers".
In "Journey to the West", there are such four roles, the chairman Tang Monk with a background, the general manager Sun Wukong with strong business ability, the marketing director Pig Bajie with excellent popularity, and the logistics director Sha Wujing, who does not leak anything.
What kind of person do you want to be in the workplace?
If you are extremely capable of business, then you become a strong character like Monkey King. If you have good social skills, then you may wish to become a social master who can eat like the Eight Precepts of pigs. On the other hand, if you are average in everything, then you can become a "safe" Sha Wujing.
Of course, ordinary people can't be the chairman of the board, Tang Monk, because the strategy and background of the people sitting in this position have long exceeded the imagination of ordinary people.
Perhaps, becoming a "sand monk" is the best choice for ordinary people. Try not to offend people, try to have a good relationship with others, and share benefits. In this way, you can also kill a bloody road.
From a deeper point of view, after becoming a "sand monk", we can achieve the purpose of "playing a pig and eating a tiger". That's the key. Everything needs to be secretly accumulated and ready to go.
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