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See a paragraph.
One girl said that every time her father came home, he would be angry because her mother had collected a new coffee cup. Now her mother has a new boyfriend and has built a wall to display her mother's collection.
There are netizen comments at the bottom: This is the difference between love and no love.
The person who loves you, respects your preferences, understands your ideas; the person who doesn't love you, you do anything he doesn't like, it's a mistake.
In life, there are always some people who get along with their lovers, whether in love or in marriage, and the standard of their love for each other is: You must listen to me.
That is, the love he pursues is, I am better than you, I am better than you, you should listen to me; or, I am better than you, I am better than you, you are not satisfied?
He is in love, and what he loves more is the self who gives for the other party; what he enjoys is also the feeling that he loves you, and it is not too much to say that he is narcissistic.
In his world, his lover must be integrated into his world, into his life, with his three views, even if he loves this person very much, he will have a kind of "bitter love drama" role plus, he will give himself an illusion: I have given everything for you, you have to love me.
Therefore, many people who obviously seem to love deeply, in the end, two people will end with "inappropriate", and the root knot is that there is always a person who feels "I am so good".
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Remember, I saw a video.
At a concert, the headlights obliquely illuminated a beautiful fan to order a song, and the young girl said: I think my ex-boyfriend should be present today, but now I don't know where he is, I only know that he is getting married, although he looks ugly and his eyes are blind, but I still want to bless him and order a song "What man gives him".
A lot of people are applauding.
However, many people are saying that on the surface, it seems that the girl won, but in fact she lost. Some people even said that when the girl sang this song on stage, she cried a lot.
Yes, it seems to be very frank and very real, but in fact, what is hidden is the love that cannot be forgotten and cannot be put down, and it is also the sadness and sadness that is difficult to let go in the depths of the heart.
Just because in her heart, she still feels such a good self, how can a man let go, how can he turn to marrying someone else?
It can be seen that her inner "I am so good" is at work.
Perhaps, she is young and beautiful, she is extremely good to the man, takes good care of her, and always considers things from his point of view, but the man just does not know how to cherish her;
Or maybe, she has a hot temper, love and hate, has something to say, cheerful, and when men first started, they loved her very much, but later, they became more and more intolerant;
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In short, one is giving, and the other is enjoying, or one is being wanton, and the other is always being inclusive.
In the end, it is "I am so good", abandoning me, you must regret it; "I am so good", you are such a person, not worthy of my love.
-03-
In life, we will always see such drama.
One person said to break up, the other desperately tried to save it, and then, there would be some "kneeling", "shouting the girl's name downstairs in the girls' dormitory", "chasing for a long time, confessing in public, being rejected"... And so on.
We will always wonder, how can there be such a person? Only because they have no sense of boundaries for love.
In their impression, as long as it is what they like, then for them it is: "I am so good", you should like me.
However, in the eyes of his favorite person, he is not so perfect, and he is not the ideal type that the other party likes.
So, they'll add a lot of drama to themselves, I'm super nice, you can't reject me; you're super good, so it must be mine.
The domineering president's pursuit of silly white sweet stories will always be seen in some love TV series, and it will also be a plot that many women especially like to watch.
The reason is that women always want their love to be simple, clear, romantic, and long-lasting, and always hope that the person they meet is handsome and golden, gentle and single-minded.
But in real life, most of them are related to the interests if two people do not have the unity of the three views, the family situation is comparable, the experience is similar, and even the interests are related, otherwise it is difficult to go to the end.
Fantasy is beautiful, reality is very bone.
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I always hear some people complaining: That man is so good, how did he marry that ugly woman? Or maybe the girl was so beautiful, how did she marry the scumbag?
Once saw an article.
Someone asked the male protagonist: She looks so ordinary, weak and not beautiful, there are many girls who are smarter than her, why did you choose her?
The man smiled and replied: You see that she is weak because she is by my side now, and when I am not there, she is stronger than anyone.
Yes, the person who is "not so good" in your eyes, it is likely that she hides an admirable charm that you can't see, attracting her sweetheart.
She won't think of herself as "I'm so good," but will give his lover the feeling that I'm already fine, but, with you around, I'll be better off.
Therefore, a love that can stay together until the old age is never two people comparing who pays more, who pays less, who loves more than whom, but who adds up fifty percent of themselves to reach one hundred percent, achieves each other, depends on each other, and achieves a better self for each other.
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Remember that Hu Xing'er once said in an interview:
My ex, one of them taught me how to be an obedient girl and the other taught me how to be a mature woman. But I'm more thankful to my incumbent because he taught me how to be a toddler.
Yes, the person who loves you will make you a naughty and willful child who needs to be relied on, rather than a person who is obedient, mature and stable everywhere, "I am so good".
No matter how two people are outside, no matter how cold and cool, no matter how independent and capable, in front of their lovers, they will only remove the armor on their bodies, want to give each other warmth, give each other protection.
There is a saying that it is called one thing and one thing.
That's exactly what it is.
Before meeting this person, it is a person who resists the vicissitudes of time; after meeting this person, it is one plus one equals two, and since then all kinds of swords and lights, wind, frost, snow and rain, there is a person and themselves to bear it.
Man, only with such a mind can we find a true lover, and only in the long years to come, no matter how sinister the world is, how cold and warm people's feelings are, they can take the days of chickens and dogs to pieces, and live a quiet and good taste of the years.
Good love is not to make a person feel that they are "so good", nor to make you become a fool and a sweet, but because of that person, you have become each other's umbrella, and each other has supported a blue sea and blue sky.
And it's not about competing with each other, comparing with each other, and being jealous of each other.
Finally, may everyone who is in the red dust be able to meet someone who makes you gentle and strong, independent and kind, and when you are idle, you are at dusk, and the porridge is warm with a smile in front of the stove.
Author, Frank Fox
Figure, network
May you find in my words the ordinary years, the strong affection! Thanks for your attention!