A person's maturity begins with learning subtraction. Deleting the complicated and simplifying is precisely the performance of living and understanding.
The richer the heart, the simpler life is.
Make small changes in these aspects, and life will change wonderfully.
First, the material is minimalist
In the age of materialism, buying things may not be able to buy real happiness, but it will make you dazzled and overwhelmed.
Buying only the necessary things and using them with a high frequency, as much as possible to reduce the material constraints, will help you lighten up. If nothing else, at least in such an environment will be refreshing.
Qiao Sang, a post-90s girl from Shijiazhuang, experienced such simple happiness, she lived in an 88㎡ house, only 6 pieces of furniture, in her wardrobe, there were only a few sets of fixed clothes; in the shoe cabinet, there were only a few pairs of fixed shoes.
Because there are few things, it seems that the house is big. More importantly, she is in a good mood and can read books and do yoga without restraint.
I've heard of a "rule of three sevens": in a big house, 70% of the space is idle; 70% of the items in the house will no longer be used.
In life, only about 30% of the people who can really come in handy. Smart people are good at "doing subtraction".
Less is more, reduce unnecessary material desires in life, and kick out 70% of the useless parts of life, in order to play the truly meaningful 30% to the extreme.
Second, the energy is minimalist
Everyone's energy is limited, if you describe your energy as a battery, the power will be exhausted, your energy will also run out, to save some money, not what people are worth worrying about.
Spending energy on the blade is the sobriety of the world. Song Yunhui in "Great Rivers and Great Rivers" uses his own experience to tell us the essence of counterattack.
He was originally a poor boy in the countryside, and in just a decade or so, he climbed to the position of the second in command of the Donghai Chemical Factory, a large state-owned enterprise, and his living situation was not what it used to be. He can enjoy all this, inseparable from the help of noble people and the rapid development of the environment, but also inseparable from his daily diligent attitude.
Whether it is during college or after work, Song Yunhui uses his spare time to study chemical technology and learn foreign languages, making him the country's top scarce chemical talent, and when the opportunity is ripe, he will ride the wind and waves.
How to manage energy, how to live a lifetime.
Third, the mood is minimalist
You may have heard the concept of emotional labor, which means that when a person falls into excessive anxiety and entanglement, they will consume a lot of physical strength and energy.
Our greatest difficulty does not come from external pressure and external forces, but from emotional internal friction. You are not defeated by things, but by your own unstable emotions.
Truly mature people have long since given up their emotions, not disturbing their rhythm for temporary gains and losses, and calming their minds when they are idle, guarding their minds when they are busy, and cultivating their minds when they are difficult. Regardless of the circumstances, Wu Zi walked idly.
By letting go of self-grasping, we can naturally do everything without thinking about it, and we can see everything openly. People who are good at controlling their emotions are better at mastering life.
Fourth, the circle is minimalist
Many people think that networking is productivity, and that knowing strong people can make themselves soar, which is actually wishful thinking.
Strength is your stepping stone, equivalent exchange is the essence of the circle, if you can't give the other party what they want, then your flattery and hard work are wishful thinking.
People who really understand life are regular gatherings with close friends, do not participate in various dinners at will, leave other time for themselves to be alone, do whatever they like, and be at ease.
A real friend must be quantitative in your variables, not too much, and it is enough to keep in touch with three or five friends and treat each other with sincerity.
For the rest of his life, the circle is clean, the relationship is pure, and he is only with people who make him comfortable.
There is a "threshold" concept in psychology, which exhausts the cause of many people's troubles, to the effect that with the stimulation of desire, the threshold value of people's happiness will become higher and higher, and the happiness brought by the same thing will show a decreasing trend.
In other words, a person who is unhappy is often not having too little, but asking for too much.
Material minimalism, energy minimalism, emotional minimalism, circle minimalism, can help you cut off in all directions, let the days be clean, and have a new beginning in the new year.
May you not argue or grab, and have your own years to tip.
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