When she encounters her husband's betrayal, many kind-hearted women's first reaction is self-examination, and even fall into deep self-doubt, thinking that they are not good enough, male

When encountering the betrayal of their husbands, the first reaction of many kind-hearted women is self-examination, and even fall into deep self-doubt, thinking that they are not good enough, and men's betrayal is their own fault.

Even Gu Jia, an independent and self-reliant woman in the TV series "Thirty Only", began to review herself after her husband Xu Huanshan betrayed her:

"All these years, I've been helping him clean up the mess, and I really didn't give him the opportunity to learn to take responsibility.

Indeed, many women will have a knot in their hearts after experiencing their husband's betrayal, that is, they can't understand why their husband will betray themselves?

Therefore, in the process of finding answers, women will attribute their husband's betrayal to their own lack of goodness, and their husband will betray others.

But this idea is really biased, even if the woman herself is really not good enough, but this is by no means a reason for men to betray. There is only one real reason for a man's betrayal, and that is himself.

But many men do not recognize their mistakes, let alone take the initiative to correct them. After betraying the marriage, men who actively bear the consequences and bear the responsibility are really rare.

This is the real reason why in the face of betrayal of men, the original deserves can not be saved by changing themselves.

Because no matter how women change and improve themselves, men can pick the wrong ones. There is no perfect woman in this world, and taking ten thousand steps back, even if a woman is perfect, men will blame her for being perfect.

In "Thirty Only", Gu Jia was so strange to her husband. The reason for Xu Huanshan's betrayal was because Gu Jia was too perfect, stronger than him in all aspects, and he wanted to find an imperfect one.

Therefore, whether or not the man pushes the responsibility to the original match after betrayal, the original match must learn to distinguish the problem of wrong attribution.

As for the words that accuse you of being wrong after your husband's betrayal, whether they are right or wrong, whether you should listen to it or not, how much you should listen to, you must know it yourself.

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