Text / Wake up
Editor / Little Love Letter
"If I had met Xu Yajun a few years earlier, I might not have fallen in love with him, but I loved what he felt after he experienced it."
Zhang Shu and Xu Yajun were married in the tenth year, and in this year she proved that the decision to marry Xu Yajun resolutely in ten years was correct.
Ten years ago, 28-year-old Zhang Shu met Xu Yajun, who had been married three times and was twelve years older than her, and fell in love with him at first sight and was desperate to marry him.
Everyone is not optimistic about this marriage with a huge age difference, thinking that Xu Yajun is difficult to change his nature, and it will not be long before he will like the new and get tired of the old.
Who knew that this marriage had been maintained year after year with Zhang Shu's efforts, and was stable and happy while everyone was waiting to see the joke.
01
Zhang Shu entered the entertainment industry not long after graduating from the Central Academy of Drama, and received public attention because of his resemblance to Mei Yanfang, and also got many opportunities.
After that, the response to the works he starred in was also very good, and he was a well-known actor.
Perhaps it is the heroism of Mei Yanfang in Zhang Shumei's eyes, and some directors have taken a fancy to her heroism and invited her to star in "The Days We Walk Together".
Zhang Shu didn't think much about it, and felt that the role was quite suitable, so he gladly agreed.
What she didn't know was that because of this play, she met her partner in this life, Xu Yajun.
At that time, Xu Yajun was already a well-known acting school and a male god in the hearts of many people, compared with Zhang Shu's newcomer status when he just entered the circle, Xu Yajun can be said to be a big predecessor in the show business circle.
Before Zhang Shu had actually seen Xu Yajun's "Count", Zhang Shu did not like Xu Yajun at that time, and felt that a man who looked too handsome must be unreliable.
Instead, she likes the little Buddha in "The Count" and feels that the man who has experienced a lot of precipitation like little Buddha is very handsome.
Perhaps there is providence in the darkness, and this time when Zhang Shu met Xu Yajun, it was exactly when Xu Yajun experienced ups and downs and matured.
Zhang Shu was very respectful of this showbiz senior at first, and often asked Xu Yajun some acting questions.
The two gradually became acquainted with each other, and occasionally chatted when they were not filming.
During a casual chat, Zhang Shu unexpectedly found that she and Xu Yajun were crazy about golf, and then the two of them often went out to play golf together like opening a conversation box.
In the process of golfing, Zhang Shu found that Xu Yajun was not as unkind and "flower-hearted" as the outsiders said, but was very gentle and careful, and he usually went out to take good care of her.
With a lot of work and meticulous life, where can a girl in her twenties resist the temptation of a mature man in her forties?
Not long after, Zhang Shu fell into Xu Yajun's "gentle township".
And Xu Yajun is also gradually impressed with this girl in the process of getting along with Zhang Shu, although he knows that he is not worthy, he still can't help but want to be more kind to her, take care of her a little more, and hope to see her smile like a flower.
It turns out that true love can't be stopped, Zhang Shu and Xu Yajun finally came together against all odds, and after three years together, they began to discuss marriage.
When two people in love try to be together forever, there is always a steady stream of things that come out to hinder them.
When Zhang Shu and Xu Yajun planned to get married, the parents of both sides, especially Zhang Shu's parents, were resolutely opposed, unwilling to marry their daughter to a man who was so much older, and was also a man who had been married three times with a son.
But Zhang Shu is a very stubborn person, and there is nothing that cannot be done if he decides.
She and Xu Yajun constantly did the ideological work of both parents, and their attitude was resolute, and later the older generation saw that they could not move, so they let them go.
Finally, in 2008, Zhang Shu married the man, who was twelve years older than her.
However, this huge age difference and experience difference dooms this marriage to be difficult to be as plain and simple as an ordinary couple.
02
The first question we face is who quits work and takes care of the family.
At that time, there was no doubt that because Xu Yajun's acting career was better developed than Zhang Shu's, Zhang Shu faded out of his career and became a full-time wife.
After becoming a full-time wife, the family is their own business, worrying about chai rice oil, salt, sauce and vinegar tea every day, and Xu Yajun's son Xu He.
The child's hostility towards her was not too great, just calling her aunt.
But Zhang Shu was already very satisfied, after all, everything had a chance to change, but her life after marriage was not as smooth as she wished.
After marriage, Zhang Shu and Xu Yajun found that there were many differences in their lives.
For example, Xu Yajun is a talker and always likes to talk non-stop, while Zhang Shu is a person who does not like to talk at home and likes to do what he likes to do alone.
In the face of such differences, it is often Zhang Shu who compromises, slowly accepts Xu Yajun's long-winded and long-winded words, and even sometimes he is unconsciously assimilated and becomes worried.
In addition to being wordy, Zhang Shu also found that Xu Yajun was completely different after marriage and before marriage, did not understand romance at all, and never spoke sweet words, and felt that it was too hypocritical and unnecessary.
In this way, I lived the life of an old husband and wife at the age of twenty years old, and there was no romance to speak of.
In other words, no newly married little girl will accept such a life, but Zhang Shu accepts it and has a good time.
After a few years of marriage, Zhang Shu also gave birth to a son to Xu Yajun, and the family of three became a family of four, which was happy and harmonious.
After that, Zhang Shu put his whole heart and soul into taking care of his children and families, carefully managing all aspects.
The stepson Xu He may have felt Zhang Shu's sincere kindness to him, and his title for her changed from aunt to mother, and he truly accepted her as a family.
Xu He used to ask his father Xu Yajun:
"Dad, why do I have several homes?"
Since Xu He really accepted Zhang Shu, he only had one home, and finally stopped blocking his heart as he once did, sticking to Zhang Shu and his brother every day, becoming much more lively and cheerful.
Xu He's change, Xu Yajun saw it in his eyes and remembered it in his heart, he knew that all this was Zhang Shu's credit, and he was very grateful to Zhang Shu, so he was also quietly starting to make changes for her.
03
Xu Yajun used to think that sweet talk was the most boring, and she didn't like to make those bells and whistles, but there was one thing that made her very satisfied.
There will always be friction or unpleasant times in the life of the husband and wife, and every time Xu Yajun is right or wrong, he will first admit his mistake and apologize.
Sometimes Zhang Shu was very helpless, and every time he wanted to get angry, before the anger was spilled, Xu Yajun apologized himself.
Having said that, in fact, Zhang Shu is very satisfied with Xu Yajun's behavior, so the couple has rarely really quarreled since they got married, which is why their marriage can last for so many years.
But even so, the two will still be a little unsatisfactory.
For example, Xu Yajun can often forget Zhang Shu's birthday and the wedding anniversary of the two.
Zhang Shu has been silently accepting such Xu Yajun, although his heart is always uncomfortable, but in the end he has no complaints about Xu Yajun.
Perhaps because he was used to it, when it came to his birthday, Zhang Shu did not have much expectations, or as always, he sent his children to school and then washed and cooked.
But who knew that Xu Yajun gave her a big surprise, he used "private money" to send a car to Zhang Shu as a birthday gift, and also romantically sent a bouquet of flowers to her.
Zhang Shu was happy and touched in his heart, but after being moved, he remembered where Xu Yajun got so much money, so he immediately asked angrily:
"Where did you get so much money?" You're mad at me, you've hidden so much money! ”
Xu Yajun could only confess and be lenient when he saw the situation, and said with a straight face:
"If you don't hide some private money, where will the money come from to buy you gifts and flowers?"
Zhang Shu thought it was also reasonable, and later he did not care too much about hiding private money, so every time Xu Yajun would hand over most of the money to Zhang Shu, and the rest would be collected by himself to buy gifts for Zhang Shu.
Perhaps it is really hearted, on the day of Zhang Shu and Xu Yajun's ten-year wedding anniversary, Xu Yajun specially held a romantic confession party for Zhang Shu.
There are flower balloons in the room, and the floor is also covered with heart-shaped petal rings, which is very careful and meticulous.
Xu Yajun stood in the petal circle holding a rose and said to Zhang Shu, who was standing opposite:
"Heaven let me meet you, it is a gift, but also an honor."
Zhang Shu was already in tears, and then the two sons appeared in front of Xu Yajun and Zhang Shu with flowers and said to Zhang Shu:
"Mom. I hope you and Dad have been able to be good and happy together all the time. ”
Finally, the parents and friends who had opposed their marriage all appeared together to witness the couple's tenth thought, looking at the lovers, sons, parents around them...
Zhang Shu felt that there was nothing wrong with his decision ten years ago, and everything was worth it.
This ten-year wedding anniversary is also a sensation, and some reporters have interviewed Zhang Shu's impressions on the ten-year marriage journey, and Zhang Shu just smiled lightly:
"Ten years, it's still early, we have another decade."
Zhang Shu smiled like a flower, and the light in his eyes was not at all erased because of the ten years of married life.
Nowadays, Zhang Shu and Xu Yajun are still in love, covering their ears to isolate the outside world from the outside world and the family is stable and happy, and in 2019, his son Xu He was also admitted to the Central Academy of Drama.
In the year of college, Zhang Shu and Xu Yajun personally sent him to school, and the group photo in the school was like a family.
Throughout the love of Zhang Shu and Xu Yajun, they accommodated each other, understood each other, and walked through one decade after another together, and they were happy.
Perhaps it was Zhang Shu's appearance that terminated Xu Yajun's flower heart, and only then did he have this happy family.
However, zhang shu certainly made a lot of efforts to turn a boy who spent his heart and pursued freedom into a responsible and family-oriented man.
And under the experience and thought of life, it is easy to catch up with a three-married man who is twelve years older than himself.
From her experience, we can at least know whether we are happy after marriage, which is originally in many aspects.
This is not to say that as long as you are about the same age, you will be happy, nor does it mean that if you have a huge age difference, you will be unhappy.
If two people are truly in love, age doesn't become a big obstacle.
But there will be some impact, and when there is such a problem, we should think more about how to solve it, how to throw away this external obstacle and be single-mindedly together.
As long as two people work together and compromise and understand each other in life, they can always live happily and peacefully.
Of course, in love, you don't have to care too much about the age gap, but you can't ignore the impact of age.
If you manage love with your heart, love will bear sweet fruits.