Today there are two small examples of the workplace, to share with you.
The newcomer did not complete the goal, and the leader hollowed out
A friend who is doing recruitment, a new company, their leadership is relatively strong.
First of all, let me explain the strength, in fact, there are two kinds: one is the strong existence in the depths of the heart, through the recognition and affirmation of self-worth, the positive mentality of positive knowledge and action is generated, and a powerful force is emitted, which is what we often say, the aura!
Presence
The other is that the heart is originally weak, but because it is in a certain unruly position, it can only control others through control and rights, reflecting its own existence, which is what we call flying and stumbling!
Psychology of vulnerability
With these two realizations in mind, I'll move on. Another colleague of hers, who had come a week earlier than her, had not made a performance so far. According to her description, this colleague is still quite highly educated, and his self-esteem is relatively strong. Then I understand that there is no performance, it may be that the method is not right, but I can't put down my body, so that my expectations and appearances form a contrast, so that I fall into anxiety. The result was not good, and she distracted her concentration on doing things.
sarcasm
At this time, if you need someone with an aura, go and open this deadlock. I guess you thought of it too, yes! It is the need for the affirmation or help of the leader. But on the contrary, the leader told other colleagues locally: No performance, why stay here.
Because I don't understand the scene, I don't know the tone and context of saying this sentence. I will only make a personal interpretation of the psychology conveyed by this sentence: First, as a leader, you should not convey such negative and sarcastic thoughts to your subordinates. Her essence is to try to shock others by disgusting her. I don't make evaluations because the questions are more open-ended and only represent my own values.
On reflection, if I were the colleague, my approach would be: what you love to say and say, non-help, is all noise to me. I should summon up the courage to play as long as it works normally, and then respond with success (even if it is not successful, the kind of guilty) instead of fighting back. Then finally it is exactly the same sentence: When the person who disgusts you is useless, it is the person who is disgusted by himself.
Selective disregard
The old man does not choose after a salary increase
A friend who makes products suddenly chats with me and wants to find out about the recent recruitment market (because I've been looking for a job lately). He had been with the company for a long time, and it was time to renew his contract. He hesitated, talked to the technical director and the vice president of the system once, did not mention the salary, and he planned to withdraw.
He talked to other colleagues and gave advice: renew the contract, and then ride a donkey to find a horse...
I gave a similar answer: the solution can not be naked, because we are at this age (35 years old) and have a long cycle of job hunting. When there is no job, the mentality will be different while looking for it, and there will be a lot of anxiety. He also knew that now that he had a house and a wife and children, he had more worries. His current salary is relatively low (how much inconvenience is not to be informed), and then he is in the management, and there must be dissatisfaction. Although there is unwillingness, this is normal, just know it yourself, don't show it, and darken Chen Cang.
Darkness Chen Cang
Before there is any other opportunity, accept it first, and just don't move the sound.
No sound
Two skills of a product manager: generic and professional.
Generic: Standardized skills that are inductive and summarized and can be reused.
Professional: It is the ability to personalize a certain field, which is highly targeted and requires long-term accumulation and precipitation.
peak
The above two small examples only represent my personal position and do not like to spray me at any time.