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As we all know, the custom of marriage is different everywhere.
But one of them has almost achieved national unity, that is, in order to let a couple give birth to a noble son early, the family will find a healthy baby from a relative to roll on the marriage bed, commonly known as "rolling a new bed" or "pressing bed".
From a scientific point of view, this is a superstition, but from the perspective of customs, this is an auspicious expectation, hoping that the baby of the two newcomers can be as healthy and cute as the baby of the rolling bed.
Not long ago, someone on the Internet posted a video of the baby rolling a new bed, and surprisingly, because the baby is a boy, many netizens have a hot discussion on the topic of "son preference" in the comment area.
In the marriage room, the "press bed" of the male baby of the relatives has attracted heated discussion, is this a preference for sons and daughters?
In the video, a baby dressed in a festive costume is placed on a new marriage bed by an adult, and the bed is arranged with red dates, peanuts, cinnamon balls and lotus seeds to form a pattern of "early birth of Takako".
With the help of adults, the baby rolled around on the new bed, and relatives and friends who were watching also took out their mobile phones to take pictures of this scene.
Originally a festive and lively custom, after the release of the video, the message in the comment area has changed, some people bluntly said that the baby boy was allowed to press the new bed, and it was obvious that the family was patriarchal.
Some people think that this is very normal, if it is in the countryside, the vast majority of the presses are male babies, and it is rare to see female babies to roll the bed.
Netizen Comments:
Why is it that only boys can roll out of the new bed? Why can't it be a girl? Son preference is too serious! ”
"Our hometown rolling bed is either a male treasure or a dragon and phoenix fetus, anyway, I have never seen a female treasure rolling bed, although now advocate equality between men and women, but the idea of preferring sons to daughters is still very serious, especially in rural areas."
It's funny, if it's a female treasure rolling a new bed, will anyone complain about the preference for women over men? This kind of thing is too unnecessary to go online. ”
Does the "press" of the child have an impact on the birth of boys and girls?
The answer is clearly no.
In some folklore, the bed of newlyweds is more "spirited", and the child rolling up will bring good luck to the bride.
In the past, many people had the traditional idea of passing on the generations, so they would deliberately choose healthy baby boys to roll the bed, hoping that the two small families could continue to live smoothly.
With the change of the times, many people's thinking has also changed, so there is no gender requirement when selecting a press baby.
Even many young people have omitted this link, but replaced it with a pair of festive rag dolls, which are also called "press dolls".
Of course, there are still some places where there will still be the concept of son preference, so in this link, the family will deliberately arrange for the baby boy to roll a new bed.
In addition to the "press", what other folk customs are related to small babies?
☆ After the full moon, the baby "moves the urinary nest" to go to grandma's house
In many places, there is a custom of "removing the urinary nest" of small babies, that is, after staying at grandma's house until the full moon, they have to go to grandma's house for a few days, which means that the child will be able to be healthy in the future and everything will go well.
It sounds like a superstition, but in fact, there are many benefits to the baby's "urinary nest".
First of all, the mother can take the baby back to her mother's home and live a relaxed and unfettered life for a few days, and secondly, a different environment is also conducive to improving the child's adaptability, which is very good for physical health.
☆ Pass the "Twelve Days"
Many places attach great importance to the 12th day after the birth of the baby, on this day, relatives will bring gifts to visit the baby, and will also wrap the child in red envelopes.
As the owner, Bao Dad and Bao Mom will return to relatives and friends, and distribute dyed red eggs to relatives and friends.
Of course, many young people now buy gift boxes directly for convenience and give back to relatives and friends, but the custom of twelve years has not changed with the development of the times, and its meaning is that adults celebrate a new life and come to the home.
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What other folk customs do you know about small babies? Do you think that making baby boys "roll out of the new bed" is patriarchal? Welcome to leave a message in the comment area!
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