Wen 丨 Jing Ma said, original content.
By chance, I met this film, was attracted by the title, but after watching it, I could not calm down for a long time, and I knew that I was deceived by the name of the film.
The heroine's name is Barbara, and she is a doctoral student studying philosophy. She is full of infinite expectations for her future, and the arrival of the relationship makes her believe that she is experiencing the best time of her life.
The boyfriend said: I want to have a child with you.
Barbara, bathed in happiness, readily agreed.
But it was the arrival of this child, from pregnancy to birth, that shattered all this beauty.
He is still a mentally immature child, but he wants to be a mother and take care of a newborn baby.
She hesitated but also expected...
In the entanglement, he finally chose to leave the child, but did not think that the birth of the child was the beginning of another nightmare.
She didn't understand that this should be a happy thing, why was there so much sadness and fear hidden in it?
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As the fruit of happiness is conceived, Barbara's troubles follow.
Due to the severe morning sickness in the early stages of pregnancy, many foods could not be eaten, and the doctoral supervisor on the other side was still urging her to write a thesis.
The mother who knows that she is pregnant does not approve of the practice of having a child before her daughter is financially independent, which makes the already relatively stiff mother-daughter relationship even worse.
In the days after pregnancy, she often woke up from dreams, and her work and rest habits were disrupted;
Emotions are changeable, sometimes crying and sometimes laughing, making people feel inexplicably wonderful...
Look at the increasingly bloated body, and even the idea of losing weight;
When she goes to parties, she can't drink or smoke like everyone else;
There is also the "pregnant mother team" that I do not want to face and integrate into, and learn prenatal courses.
Then, alone, play games, watch movies, wander around...
As a result, the day of childbirth finally came, and the pain of grade 10 childbirth made her ache, cramp, and almost faint, and she regretted that she had not studied and prepared well during pregnancy.
After a century of torment, my daughter was born.
She and her boyfriend, after seeing this vivid little life, burst into tears.
When she first fed her daughter, she looked at her daughter in her arms, and her eyes were filled with tears of joy, satisfaction and pity.
After that, the day of taking the baby alone is the beginning of "chicken flying dog jumping"...
The daughter's endless crying, the fact that she has not eaten a meal peacefully after giving birth, the lack of time to dress herself, the exhaustion to be able to fall asleep on her stomach at any time, and the increasing number of quarrels with her boyfriend... She's breaking down!
Later, the boyfriend invited his mother to help take care of the child, but in the end, because the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law had different parenting concepts, the mother-in-law overheard the conversation between the two of them, and sent the mother-in-law away.
The day of taking her baby began again, Barbara and her daughter's relationship became closer and closer, but the relationship with her boyfriend gradually drifted away, often quarreling over various trivial things...
During an argument in front of her boyfriend's friend, Barbara said she wanted to get herself back, and the boyfriend said something very hurtful: You can go, but the child must stay.
Barbara returned to her mother, and from her mother she learned another attitude of motherhood, and finally had time to think about herself.
The boyfriend was busy with the baby alone, and also experienced the hardships and difficulties of taking the baby, and began to miss Barbara's days at home, hoping that she could come back soon.
At the end of the film, Barbara and her boyfriend are reconciled.
Although the two still love passionately, the reason for reconciliation in life is even more for the sake of the children.
The continuation of life is a happy thing, but it is not only happiness.
All kinds of discomfort during pregnancy, postpartum pain, and hardships with a baby can only be deeply understood by those who are mothers and have experienced it.
I believe that everyone who has become a mother can find their own shadow more or less from the film.
Each stage has a different bitterness, but from the moment of pregnancy, a new life begins to be conceived, when the mother's mission is born, and the feeling of being a mother is more and more intense.
If the child is regarded as a "product", not only can not be selected, tried, and there is no "product manual" when it comes, let alone return or exchange...
In the face of this "human cub", the new mother needs to constantly repeat the process of "learning - breaking through the self".
Among them, there is not only physical exhaustion, but also the rapid repetition of different emotions, but also the cultivation of a strong psychology and the test of the relationship between husband and wife.
After countless times of experience, it is possible to find a "handy" feeling and get along harmoniously with this human cub.
Therefore, pregnancy and giving birth to a baby is by no means a breeze, and it is not an impulsive decision.
Before having children, we must be more prepared so that we can minimize all kinds of "harm" and become a happy thing.
And the "preparation" mentioned here is not only psychological preparation, deciding to have a child, and being willing to shoulder responsibilities for this child.
There is also physical preparation, in the preparation of pregnancy, the couple to check the body, only in the state of both of them are healthy, the child is healthier and smarter.
Life and financial preparation, to a certain extent, to have children, is not a matter of two people, but a matter of two families.
Many mothers complained that before having children, everyone got along harmoniously and beautifully, and after having children, trivial things may become the fuse of family wars, and everything before has changed.
The arrival of children can indeed bring joy to the family, but it is not only joy.
In addition to getting along with the elderly and husbands, there is also financial pressure, children are called "four-horned gold beasts", you can imagine how expensive it is to raise a child.
Finally, borrow the last monologue of the movie, pay tribute to the great mothers, but also give it to the fathers, to cherish the woman who is willing to bear children for you.
She pushed me into the trenches, surrendered my arms, let me cross all the lines, and let me face the absolute: love, sacrifice, tenderness and trust. She broke me down and recast me.