The word "kawaii" always flashes in the minds of Japanese girls. Japanese people really like to use the word cute to describe everything, and Japanese girls are constantly trying to get closer to this word. "Cute" has become the best compliment for Japanese girls, and it is also the most stringent standard.
Girls, let's start by learning to hold chopsticks well.
That's what my first Japanese teacher said to me. When I first arrived in Japan, I still had the beautiful filter of Japanese dramas on Japanese things, but reality told me that I was too naïve. My first challenge in surviving in Japan began with learning how to hold chopsticks. Obviously, chopsticks were invented by the ancestors of the great Chinese culture, but only the Japanese who control the details almost perverted will completely implement the so-called "correct way to hold chopsticks"!
Whether the way you hold chopsticks is correct or not directly affects whether you are a "well-mannered" person in the eyes of the other party.
Whether it's dining with a customer in a business situation or just working with colleagues in the staff cafeteria, maybe the other party will silently help you score in your heart when they see the way you hold your chopsticks.
Whether or not the bones of the fish can be perfectly removed when eating grilled fish and eaten beautifully will become a matter of etiquette that attracts attention in TV programs.
Sakura's cute aesthetic is influenced by society.
"Japanese style" has always been a popular fashion pursued by young girls. Many domestic friends told me that Japanese girls are very good at makeup and wear clothes with great taste. But in fact, in Japan, many girls pay attention to their appearance because they have to do this in the context of life - in order to wear the "right" clothes.
Every season, japanese media will recommend the latest fashion trends of the season. Each station will also have popular magazines in the relevant areas for the public to learn from for free. In the weeks after the media and the Internet published the quarterly information, we would see the corresponding style of furnishings in the clothing windows of major department stores and shopping streets in Japan.
Of course, these styles are not just sweet as we know it. Maybe spring and summer are plain dresses, autumn and winter will become dark skirts and blouses, polka dot patterns have faded from popularity the year before, and this year began to take a neutral style. But without exception, this kind of fast food popularity will be very systematic wave after wave, and it is easy to feel the change of trend throughout the year.
So walking on the campuses of universities, or on the streets of Shibuya or Harajuku, it's easy to see that every girl is wearing almost the same style of clothing. Curious, I asked the female classmates around me, and they replied to me: "I see that everyone around me is dressed like this, I don't want to wear it too strangely." "Once I went to play with my classmates and saw several fashion magazines piled up on the side of the closet, and she said she bought them so as not to wear them wrong." In fact, I also want to wear jeans to school, but this season will be seen by people. ”
This idea is deeply rooted in the heart. Su Yan would go to school and be asked, "What happened to you?" Even if you see a girl without makeup on the road, others will look back and look at it more.
This excessive concern for the eyes of others and the emphasis on "unity" have worn away many independent concepts of personality, and it is really difficult to identify!
Virtuousness is a compulsory course for girls!
Although in 1985, Japan enacted the Equal Employment Opportunities Act for Men and Women. However, the idea of "male superiority over female inferiority" is still deeply rooted in the hearts of some Japanese people.
In the workplace, women are generally lower than men, and fewer women can be promoted to management. The social status is unbalanced, and the economic ability is naturally inferior to that of men.
In the workplace, it is common to see working such as serving tea, preparing meeting documents, printing and copying errands, etc. it is often done by girls. This is still the case even if you can be promoted to the management of the team leader, the minister, etc. In daily life, a group of people eat together, often girls are responsible for pouring wine, cloth dishes, ordering and other trivial matters, but also always observe everyone's cup, timely addition of wine. When the party is accidentally cold, it may also require the girls to think of ideas to enliven the atmosphere.
The irony is that when we lament that this kind of girl is very virtuous and capable, it must be very popular, in the eyes of Japanese boys, these are just the average girl should do. (Sweat)
However, Japanese girls have also developed a skill that allows them to still relax in such a distorted society - superb acting skills.
Japanese girls are well aware that in the social environment, the annual salary is generally not high, and there is no opportunity for promotion. So I turned to dreaming of becoming a full-time housewife. Because after marriage, not only can you naturally take care of your husband's salary, but the government also has a tax reduction and reduction policy of "maintenance control and removal". Therefore, some girls will learn some bridal courses, actively participate in networking activities, pay more attention to external management, and show a very elegant and temperamental temperament in front of outsiders, just like everyone's boudoir.
However, their acting skills are very superb, and they will only confide in front of their good friends. A lot of my swear Japanese was taught to me by my Japanese friends. [Laughs]
Before coming to Japan, I thought that the female image of Karasawa Yukiho in "White Night" must be just a special case, but after coming to Japan, I learned that this kind of acting skills and ability to cultivate themselves are really good at Japanese girls. And there is nothing wrong with it, but it is just a way for girls to protect themselves against the social environment and make themselves more popular and more integrated into the environment.