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Two days ago, on a forum, I saw the story of a child of another family.
A father who works at a construction site teaches his junior high school son to study well, get into college, and live a lighter life in the future. Don't be as uneducated as himself, and can only sell physical strength for a lifetime.
Is there something wrong with that? Nothing wrong with it.
Unexpectedly, my son replied that he did not want to go to college. Because even if he is admitted to college, his life will not be better in the future.
Most of the students I met in college were people with good conditions. If he meets someone he likes, what face does he have to pursue others?
Say your parents are moving bricks at the construction site? Say that the family does not even have a house of their own, and even the parents live in a rented house? He said no.
It is better to study a secondary school, the gap between the classmates he meets and him may not be so large, he can not live in inferiority.
It is said that the father listened to his son's words, and after returning to the construction site that day, a person held his head and cried. Finally, the leader gave him three days off, let him adjust his mood and come back to work, so as not to cause a work accident.
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This story had a big impact on me. After all, they are all parents, rabbits die foxes, and things hurt their kind. If I were the parent of this child, it would not be enough to cry for three days.
I have to say that this class of young people. It's really getting harder and harder to fool around. They don't play their cards according to the routine, the way the previous generation thinks, the code of conduct, they don't inherit, they don't carry it forward, they don't even care.
They don't easily believe in the directions that adults are pointing at them. They have their own thinking, their own judgments. Even if they may not be mature, they dare to doubt.
When our parents were asked to study hard, did anyone doubt the authenticity of the proposition that "if you go to college, you will have a good life"? I never thought about it anyway.
Most of today's young people do not do things that wronged themselves in order to please others. When I was a child, I didn't please adults, I didn't please teachers, and I didn't please leaders when I grew up.
The reason why I studied well when I was a child, "making my parents happy and my teachers satisfied" was definitely an extremely important reason. Disobedience? antagonism? I didn't even think about it.
Unfortunately, times have changed. Today, I am afraid that it is difficult to repeat yesterday's story. PuA can't do it, and the pie is ignored.
In front of children who live only for themselves and are sober in the world, the preaching of their parents is as pale as a cold joke.
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In just a few decades, why are today's children so different from the children of the past? I think the main reason is that they have a lot more access to information than they used to.
In the past, children were relatively obedient because of the narrow source of information they received. Naturally, what adults say, children listen to.
No one will tell them what the real world is like, what the adult world is like. You can only rely on listening to the adults to draw, and you can only rely on your own imagination.
But now children do not have to imagine, they want to know what, there is a search on the Internet, the elderly life experience and knowledge accumulation, relative to the massive data, is a drop in the ocean.
The words of the parents and teachers are naturally not so good. Accept the ideas that adults have instilled in them? How can it be.
But knowing too much is sometimes not necessarily a good thing.
When young people compare college students' salaries with the city's housing prices. They will realize that even after graduating from college, they may not be able to live a decent life with a salary alone.
When young people see more marriage and love spit stickers. Knowing the chicken feathers in marriage and love, they will also realize that even if they study well, they may not be able to harvest the ideal love.
The Prophet is the bottom of Pandora's Box. The reason why it is not a good thing is because of its existence, it will directly strangle hope.
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Of course, the pot that causes young people to lie down on the ground now cannot all be thrown to the network. Because the world is indeed becoming more and more desperate, especially those young people who have no primitive accumulation.
50 years ago, when the whole world was poor, it was no big deal to be poor. Anyway, everyone is living a hard time.
30 years ago, when you could get rid of poverty by working hard, there was nothing wrong with being poor. Because you can get out of poverty with just effort.
But what about now? Can you get out of poverty by just working hard and getting into college? Not really.
If the parents do not have any capital accumulation at all, even if the child is admitted to college, how many years of accumulation will it take to save up for the down payment and be able to afford to buy a house?
Especially when children find that their peers around them can live a life of lying and winning just by relying on the accumulation of their parents, and they may not be able to catch up with themselves in their lifetime, will they still choose to continue to work hard?
At this time, if his parents are still saying the assertion that "you can have a good life if you go to college", will he not believe it? Still don't believe it?
Recognizing the truth of life, still loving life, and trying to live is a kind of heroism. But such a precious spirit, adults may not be able to implement it, how can they be harsh on children to do it.
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Parents always hope that their children will mature early, but if the children are really mature to the point of insight into the world, the results may not be as the parents wish.
When the child recognizes his starting line and transportation, he may strive to be strong, but he may also lie flat on the spot.
At this time, if the parents still chatter with them to love to fight to win, the winning argument at the starting line is undoubtedly playing the piano to the cow.
This world is no longer the era of what parents say. Playing iron also needs to be hard, do not fly, lay an egg to let the egg fly, this abacus is mostly not sound.
When the child is older, those clichés, just say a few words. Everyone understands the big truth, and there is no need to say it upside down. What's more, there is not necessarily an inevitable relationship between studying well and making a lot of money.
Sincerely for the good of the child, just work harder and fight more. Success, the child follows the blessings, not successful, then continue to work hard!
Silently be a good example, as to whether the child is willing to follow you, follow you, surpass you... Just let him go.
Let go of expectations,
A gentleman asks for himself.