I have seen such a sentence that a person should love others appropriately, but love himself must be unconditional.
Loved that phrase.
Life is indeed the truth, if loving a person more than loving yourself, how can you still have yourself.
Therefore, we must remember to love others in a measured way and love ourselves unconditionally
1. Love others in a measured way
Many people will make a mistake, that is, they will be dizzy and lose their measure when they love and love.
Like a car with a failed brake, it speeds up and only cares about it, completely ignoring the potholes, high walls and forks that may exist on the road ahead, dizzying at extreme speed, not knowing where it will crash into, and not knowing whether the car will be destroyed or killed.
Loving someone in proportion is a lesson we must take throughout our lives.
Writer Liu Liu posted a netizen's complaint on Weibo, saying that her mother-in-law was "farther away" in her home, making her extremely uncomfortable. Rummaging east and west, checking the accounts and asking about the expenses, talking nonsense.
This mother-in-law, she is completely unaware that her son's daughter-in-law's home is not her own home, and she is fully involved in the life of her son and daughter-in-law with the posture of a hostess, and almost all traditional mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationships are entangled in the dead knot.
She undoubtedly loves her son, but this expression of love without distance and forgetting is often an invisible killer of indifference, diaphragm and even hostility between two generations.
When it penetrates, covers, surrounds, and devours in a person's private space, it will form an unpleasant compulsion that makes people instinctively want to escape.
Simon de Beauvoir once wrote this sentence:
I long to see you, but please remember, I will not ask to see you. It's not because of pride, you know I have no pride in front of you. It's because it only makes sense for us to meet when you want to see me.
A good sense of proportion, a well-founded approach, no humility, and knowing what to do, all of this is premised on a clear mind and no loss of judgment.
2. Love yourself unconditionally
Love yourself unconditionally, and love is deeper than love.
This sentence comes from a speech by Qingyin teacher, she said: To love ourselves, we must first learn to accept ourselves.
When she told her past stories, she said that she had a period of lows and denied herself every day.
In the early days of entrepreneurship, she was so anxious that she did not sleep deeply for 20 consecutive days, and was scolded and cried by investors, which made her feel confused, anxious, depressed, entangled and even self-denial and self-doubt.
When she survived that painful past, she said it was a special ability that saved her: self-empowerment.
Self-empowerment is about empowering yourself, which is extremely important to be a great wife, a professional beauty, or a better version of yourself.
There is a book called "The Reconstruction of Life: Self-Love", written by the American Louis A. Thompson. sea.
Louis. In this book, Hai recalls his life: he was often abused by his stepfather at a young age; raped by an alcoholic at the age of 5; gave birth to a child at the age of 16 and was unable to support him; abandoned by his husband after 14 years of marriage; and was diagnosed with vaginal cancer soon after...
Through her own bumpy experience, she tells us that in the face of all kinds of unsatisfactory things in life, loving ourselves is the most important gift we can give ourselves.
Around us, there are some people who are also trying to love themselves, and there are also some people who are just beginning to learn to love themselves.
We can learn by Louis. Hai mentions in the book the "Ten Steps" of Loving Yourself to Truly Learn to Love Yourself Unconditionally.
Duras said in "Lover": I love your battered face more than the face you looked like then.
In a healthy relationship, you don't need the other person's approval to prove your worth, you believe that your true self is worthy of love, and you will also raise your requirements for yourself because of this relationship, getting better and better.
I like a saying: a person should love others in a measured way, and even more unconditionally love himself.
The so-called proportionate love of others is to pay with rules and take measures;
To love yourself unconditionally is to be convinced of your right to be loved, to have the right to live well, that you don't have to be perfect, and that you deserve to be treated in a dignified way.
Love is an instinct and a skill, may the new year, know love, but also learn to love.