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We often hear the word Murphy's Law in our lives, but do you really understand what Murphy's Law is all about?
Murphy's Law is a psychological effect proposed by Edward Murphy, which originally meant to say:
If there are two or more ways to do something, and among those ways there will be a choice that will inevitably lead to disaster, then there must be someone who will make that choice.
At first glance, this is quite difficult to understand, but in fact, it means:
No matter which choice you make, you may encounter that bad outcome, and no matter how unlikely the bad is, it always has a chance to happen.
That is, you can't think that something isn't going to happen just because it's going to happen.
Try to recall if you've experienced any of the following:
Scenario 1:
College class, this teacher has never been named, one day you overslept and did not go to class, although you know that the teacher will most likely not be named, but the heart is always uneasy. Sure enough, the teacher named it this time!
How painful you are at this time, why is it that you have a roll call this time, and he usually goes to class honestly and honestly, and he does not name it!
Scenario 2:
Usually you will carry an umbrella, but one day you are too hurried to go out, it is too late to take the umbrella, you think it should not rain!
But who would have thought that it would really rain in the end!
You start to be upset and remorseful again, why don't you take the umbrella! Why is it raining today?
The two scenarios in the above examples are very common in life, and I think many people should have encountered similar situations.
It is actually quite normal to encounter bad results, but because we care too much in our hearts or have a fluke mentality, we selectively ignore the worst possibility, so that when bad results really occur, it will feel difficult to accept.
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In life, there are often people who lament why they are so unlucky?
Why doesn't the more you want it to happen, the more it happens?
Thus concluding:
I was born with bad luck.
In fact, this is not because you are born unlucky, nor is life bullying you, but when you don't want something to happen, the attention is often only focused on the bad thing, but through Murphy's Law we know that there will always be some choices in all choices that will lead to bad results.
Once the bad result occurs, you will infinitely magnify the result and then give yourself a lot of negative hints, which are all psychological effects.
In addition, when you are afraid of something happening, you tend to make things worse, and the likelihood of bad outcomes happening increases.
For example, you are ready to go on stage to report on the results of learning, before going on stage is very nervous, afraid that you will be ugly, at this time your mind may uncontrollably imagine the scene of your own ugliness, so after going on stage, you are more nervous, flustered, the final result is slurred speech, and even forget the details of the content, really unsatisfactory performance.
Therefore, the more we care, the easier it is to panic, grasp too tightly, and often can't grasp anything.
Doing things is like this, it is the same emotionally, caring is chaotic, and the more you want to grasp it, the more you can't grasp it.
We need to recognize the existence of Murphy's Law, and since we cannot completely avoid bad results, we should calm our minds, not complain about bad results, and don't focus only on the results we don't want to accept.
If you really don't want a bad outcome, then plan ahead and think about the plan in advance, so that even if something happens, you can change the bad ending.
After this, usually give yourself some positive psychological hints.
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