A while ago, I had a phone call with my old friend to talk about how it was going. Later, when it comes to childhood playmates, most of them have changed a lot, and some friends may never have any intersection in the second half of their lives. This suddenly reminded me of the word "circle".
How many strangers do you need to know in this lifetime? From playmates who grew up with their butts as children, to classmates who studied hard together in school, friends in college, colleagues who worked after graduation... We've always been getting to know different people, being exposed to different things, going from one circle to several circles and then to a larger circle.
But as we get older, and for other reasons, we can't take care of all circles. Although the circle has become larger and more, there are some people who will be forgotten in the corner of memory.
Do people always "like the new and hate the old"? Children who play together will grow up in different family environments, receive similar or completely different family education, some people drop out of school halfway and start running for their livelihood early, while some are still in school, and they have different social experiences. In the end, we stayed in different regions, which caused our circles to become farther and farther apart, and there would even be no more intersection.
Old friends who may not have been seen for a long time, when they meet, they can't talk a few words, but instead say some innocuous polite words. It's sad to think about.
But people are born different, and the things they pursue are also different. Transportation is becoming more and more developed, and information transmission is becoming more and more convenient. But the relationship between people always feels more and more distant. Our communication is not like the simplicity of childhood, but is tired of everything, many utilitarian benefits.
There was a period of time when I especially liked to watch the "longing life", I felt that there was a small world of my own, self-sufficiency, when I thought of friends, I would call, everyone cooked together, and talked about life at night, looking at the stars, which was a particularly beautiful life. Now there are many people who have quit their jobs in big cities to pursue this kind of life. Maybe some people's purpose is not simple, let's leave it alone.
But then I suddenly thought that in the thousands of years before China, didn't we all live like this? People in the past may have longed for the capital city, but now people want to return to the countryside. But in the contemporary era, who can really become "Tao Yuanming". In fact, living in a metropolis has the benefits of a metropolis, and living in a pastoral area also has the benefits of an idyllic garden, just depending on how you choose.
The knot is in the south, and there is no noise of cars and horses.
Asked Jun He Neng'er, his heart was far away from himself.
The key is your state of mind.
With a few more small circles with strong relationships and fewer unnecessary large circles, I think people will be much happier!