There is a video about a girl named Boarding, whose biggest hobby is "picking up garbage", and every time she goes to the waste market, she has to stay all day: climb into the pile of old things, pick and choose, and be happy.
"Once, after 7 days of surgery on my left leg, I drove alone, more than 700 kilometers, to the mountains of the Nu River to find old wood, pig troughs, grinding discs, and ox plows... I stood on crutches on the wood and said I wanted all this room! ”
This girl is a post-85, is a furniture designer, her hometown is in Yunnan, and she began to live with her grandparents at the age of 3.
When she was a child, other people's kindergartens were in the county, and her kindergartens were in the mountains, and when they went to the mountains to cut firewood and pick those wild fruits, the little animals that flew in the sky and ran on the ground were her friends; her favorite, or those old woods, "If we didn't make it into something, then it would be split into firewood and burned, it's a pity." ”
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="5" >1, old wood has traces of the original owner's use on it, feeling very warm</h1>
Boarding the boat likes old and old things, many materials that seem inconspicuous to us, to her, become a "unattainable" treasure: scrap iron, old wood, driftwood in the river... The waste that was still lying in the field yesterday was picked up by her hands and became a decoration full of design in the room.
"The old wood actually has a lot of years of precipitation, its stability is very very good, the key is that the original people have used the traces on it, it feels very warm." She felt that these things were not just cold furniture, but also used traces, full of all kinds of stories, human touches and historical senses.
Many times, many things, we like to use new, unique, it seems that otherwise, it is not enough to meet our sense of experience, sense of identity, the pursuit of the extreme, it has become a super luxury, global limit.
Of course, if you like, it is beyond reproach, you are afraid to follow the trend and chase after the clouds, in the end the heart is still empty, not full, in the end, luxury not only does not let us get the strength to face life and solve problems, but also limited to comparing and self-loss.
A truly calm life should be that no matter how high the luxury goods can be controlled, how old objects are used very freely. The ultimate embodiment of a person's quality lies in himself, not in external objects.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="38" >2, I don't think people have to make a lot of money and live a gorgeous and gorgeous life</h1>
"I don't think people have to make a lot of money and live a gorgeous and gorgeous life, what is important is love, freedom and warmth." 」 This sentence sounds very old-fashioned, and many people usually say it, but only when we have a certain experience, we will find that the most important thing is to practice the unity of body and mind.
The young girl boarded the boat and did it, from the glowing eyes and the smile that could not be concealed when she stared at the old objects, it could be seen that her heart was very full and stable, she knew that she was doing what she liked, what kind of person she wanted to be in the future, what kind of life she had, she did not care about the eyes of others, facing people from all over the country, even if they gave her a lot of advice, she just smiled and responded to them and thanked them.
I personally feel that love, freedom, warmth, these things, under normal circumstances, a person at least until middle age, will gradually understand their preciousness and importance, not to mention those who can not know even in old age. If you recognize it sooner, the feeling of happiness will last longer than others.
Living in modern society, if we are not careful, we are easy to be carried away by the rhythm: to buy a house, small house for a big house, a big house for a school district house, a mid-range school district for a high-end school district; buy a car, a small car for a big car, an ordinary car for a famous car... In short, the meaning of this life is to make money, and only by making money can we meet the needs and satisfy us.
Bacon has a saying: To live is to learn, and to learn is not to live. Let me borrow it: we make money to live, but to live, not just to make money.
Whenever there are setbacks, such as entrepreneurial failure, business failure, unemployment, loss of things, etc., we need to always remind ourselves: making money is only a means of living, but living is not only to make money, there are many more important and meaningful things to live, such as we still have love, and freedom, and warmth, we must not ignore, these are the most important.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="41" >3, life is your own, just be comfortable</h1>
The girl in the video gives people a sense of firmness, confidence and maturity, which is actually very rare. It is precisely because of this that even if her life is a little different, she can still face the gossip of others, effortlessly insist on her own foothold, and seem to be much more understood and sober than being understood.
We have to think, a person, what are the signs of true maturity?
I think it's about learning to integrate yourself. What is self-integration? Psychology divides it into three steps, and after completing these three steps, a person basically completes self-integration, basically a mature person.
The first step is to understand who you are.
The second step is to observe the emotional reactions that arise when you face yourself.
The third step is to find your own development path on the basis of your own existing foundation.
We often see that many people like to talk about others, judge others, especially girlfriends like to do this kind of thing together, but in fact, we have to understand who we are to overcome a habit first, that is, judgment, whether it is judging ourselves, or judging others.
When it is necessary to gain strength by blaming others, they are actually powerless. It is only through this accusation that they divert their attention from the really important thing, and this really important thing is to recognize themselves.
A person, when facing himself, can only truly recognize himself when he can objectively describe himself and not produce various emotions. For example, when you saw a certain shortcoming of yourself, you would feel very weak, even sad, angry, but now you see that although it will still be uncomfortable, it doesn't matter, you already have a way to release these emotions. This is the prelude to self-integration.
When a person begins not to judge his emotions, objectively observe himself, and understand that there is no good or bad difference between characteristics, he will accept himself, find a solid foundation of reality, and then enter his own development path.
The process of self-integration comes sooner rather than later.
Many people will complain that the world is unfair, thinking that "when I was in school, I studied better than him, but now he mixes better than me." Why?
Quite simply, compared to learning, he was likely to spend his time and energy on the process of making himself a social person, he began to learn how to recognize his emotions, regulate his emotions, find things he loves, when you bury your head in learning, he did not waste time, but in dealing with a variety of other things that lay the foundation for future development.
Everyone's life has a process of self-integration, sooner or later, but some people are earlier, some people are later.
Like the girl in the video, at a normal age, she has completed the stage of self-integration, and she is entering the next stage of development with talent and hard work.
In the present moment, the outside sounds are too noisy, and many times, it is good to listen to your own heart.
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I am the smile of a demon
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