Zeng Guofan said:
"Those who seek great things, the first priority is the pattern."
A person can become a big thing, and the premise is definitely a person with a big pattern.
A person has a big pattern, can improve his cognitive ability, can make himself jump out of right and wrong, can clearly see the truth of things, and really be a person who understands.
As the saying goes: "Floating clouds are dewy, life is full of changes." ”
Everyone's way of living is different, and the ending is different. However, if you want to live your life well, you first need to have a big pattern mentality, in order to be invincible on the way forward.
After all, what kind of mentality you have, you have what kind of life experience.
A person's pattern will become larger, inseparable from the four mentalities, very important.
1 Don't blame mentality: there is something to say, there is a problem to solve the problem
In real life, there are too many people who lose their temper in advance, either pushing all their mistakes on others, or constantly blaming others to vent their dissatisfaction and resentment, but in the end, because of the loss of emotional control, the problem is not solved, but it is getting worse and worse.
When a person has a big pattern, he will have a good attitude of not blaming, understanding that simply losing his temper, getting angry, and being anxious often does not help, and it is better to have something to say and solve problems. Avoid losing more and more because you can't control your emotions.
In this way, in addition to controlling the spread of bad problems in time and stopping losses in time, you can also make yourself have a more tolerant heart to accept the imperfections of others, let others trust themselves, and let them gather more trustworthy and friendly true friends around them.
As the saying goes, "There are often eight or nine things that are not satisfactory." ”
Everyone's life path will not be smooth, but people with a big pattern have a good attitude of not blaming. They understand that blame cannot change the current situation, only when encountering problems and not complaining, actively solving them is the right way to deal with the world.
2 Be kind to yourself: Don't think too much about everything, just try your best
Read a sentence:
"Things come to conform, the future is not welcome, the time is not complicated, neither is it love."
A person living in the present, either worrying about the future that has not come, nor suffering for the irreparable past, only in this way can he have a clear and transparent mentality.
Only in this way is the good mentality of truly being kind to oneself, and it is also the necessary ability of a person with a big pattern.
Many people often encounter troubles, in fact, think too much, maybe things are not so bad, he thinks things too complicated and serious, so that it is not difficult to extricate himself from entanglement, embarrassment, and pain.
Therefore, because I think too much, instead of solving the problem very well, I will disturb the original tranquility because of too many distractions, so that I do not know how to choose and think of better solutions, missing opportunities and regretting my life.
When you only take things seriously around the matter itself, and don't think too much, you make yourself more sober and smart, and you can easily face the disturbances.
Do everything you can, and the results will naturally be known.
Don't chase the results that you can't decide, let yourself be embarrassed, once it becomes a habit, this life will also form such an inertial thinking, doomed to escape the tragic fate of a lifetime of inaction.
3 The mentality of interacting with people: there is room for doing things, leaving steps for people
When a person becomes a big pattern, he will not only focus on the current short-term interests, but focus on the long term, especially in the interaction with people to maintain a good attitude, do things with room, leave people a step, it seems to be a loss is actually a gain, this is an attitude to deal with people, but also a way to make yourself popular.
However, the premise is that you value each other's relationship and cherish the other person, rather than casual strangers doing things that have no bottom line to hurt you, you can let yourself take a step back, and really smart people can feel your kindness, admire you from the bottom of your heart, and sincerely interact with you.
In fact, this is still a kind of empathetic thinking, that is, not to make others embarrassed, to treat the interaction between two people with a tolerant attitude, rather than always tit-for-tat or pressure people, perhaps before long they will encounter setbacks compared to others. After all, no one will be smooth sailing, and no one will always be in a low valley, leaving steps for others, in fact, leaving a way for the future self.
When you have such a good mentality, it is to let yourself not worry too much about the small gains and losses in the interaction, because when you use such a mentality to others, the people who are all the way with you will naturally cherish it, and the people who are not on the same road with you will not understand at all. It's a way to see a person clearly, and it's a way to let yourself worry about someone who doesn't deserve it.
4 The mentality of looking at gains and losses: do not take advantage, do not owe others
To be honest, everyone living in the moment can not escape two words: gain and loss.
We work hard all the way, all the way busy, in fact, in order to make ourselves have a lot, whether it is material or spiritual, one can not be less.
As a result, it became the object of our pursuit along the way. And loss is the last thing we want to see, because gain and loss make too many people fall into anxiety, because gains and losses make many people confused and overwhelmed.
In fact, when you have a big pattern, you will understand that you must not take advantage of others in terms of gains and losses, let alone owe others.
What does not take advantage of others is to keep yourself clean and self-righteous, not to make others feel that they cannot believe in a little interest, and not to let yourself become a calculating person because of a small interest.
Not to owe others is to not allow yourself to easily bear the gifts of others. In this way, you will often feel indebted to others, and once you need to make a choice, you will often disturb your own direction because of these gains and losses, and even cause big mistakes.
There is a saying: "The forest is big, and there are all kinds of birds." ”
Some people deliberately give you some small favors, and if you take it all, the longer the time, the more it will affect your choice. If the other party is a person with bad intentions, he may fall into the trap prepared by the other party.
Being a person, a lifetime to experience too many ups and downs, some people leave the field, some people bravely go forward, the difference between them is the difference in each other's mentality.
To make yourself a person with a big pattern, you must make yourself a wise person, let yourself see clearly and clearly from the above four aspects of mentality, and will not shrink back because of a momentary frustration, nor will you be sad because of a momentary dissatisfaction, but let yourself become more and more excellent in interacting with people and improving your self-ability.
I hope you become a person with a big picture, and I hope you meet the best version of yourself.
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